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What is something you've had to make peace with never having?

869 replies

BobbiPinsOn · 09/10/2021 10:34

a good singing voice

OP posts:
dementor72 · 12/10/2021 15:10

decent parents and a safe, secure childhood ...I'm still waiting

Butteredtoast55 · 12/10/2021 18:19

Grandchildren

Lullaby88 · 13/10/2021 19:40

Some of these posts are so painful. Remember ur all wonderful strong beautiful women no matter what.

me4real · 14/10/2021 02:31

Oh and children I guess of course.

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 14/10/2021 03:10

Another vote for a mother who was interested in me or wanted to spend time with me. I think she does love me on some level, but that level is a pretty inaccessible one!

On a less traumatising note - any sporting ability whatsoever (apart from the long jump, which I was inexplicably ok at) - two left feet and picked last for every team.

ClareBlue · 14/10/2021 04:25

@Libertaire

Sporting talent. I would have loved to have the basic hand eye co-ordination to be able to hit, catch or kick a moving ball, but I was always completely hopeless. I remember at school envying my friends who could just pick up a tennis racket, hit the ball, get it over the net and bouncing inside the court. They made it look so easy yet I just swished at thin air or connected with the frame & sent the ball into orbit. I tried cricket once, joining the lads practicing in the nets. I couldn’t even catch the ball when it was gently lobbed straight to me, never mind hitting it with the bat.
Have you read about dispraxia. More common than you might think. Did you do repetitive things like being on a swing for hours or cycling round and round?
sassymum67 · 14/10/2021 13:50

Yup horse

brieislife · 14/10/2021 14:09

Children.

Lynne1Cat · 14/10/2021 22:24

being slim
being tall (5ft 1)

ashtyler · 14/10/2021 22:25

Healthy self esteem

Decent parents

HeartshapedFox · 14/10/2021 22:45

A cat… DH is horribly allergic. Though he knows if he dies first I’d probably go out and get one the next day Grin

the80sweregreat · 15/10/2021 06:14

Looks!!

DifferentHair · 15/10/2021 07:12

A peaceful environment when I was pregnant and postpartum with my first two children. It was chaotic and abusive. I was stressed and under constant threat.

When I see other women with newborns I feel so so so jealous of the peaceful happy time I imagine them to be having and get a pit-of-my-stomach feeling about how I can't get that time back with my children. It was just horrible and there's no do-over.

But then I remind myself that all people have their challenges, that these women likely have problems I don't, and that I am lucky to have children at all.

Still a sense of grief is there.

Burnerphone21 · 15/10/2021 09:08

@DifferentHair

A peaceful environment when I was pregnant and postpartum with my first two children. It was chaotic and abusive. I was stressed and under constant threat.

When I see other women with newborns I feel so so so jealous of the peaceful happy time I imagine them to be having and get a pit-of-my-stomach feeling about how I can't get that time back with my children. It was just horrible and there's no do-over.

But then I remind myself that all people have their challenges, that these women likely have problems I don't, and that I am lucky to have children at all.

Still a sense of grief is there.

I completely relate to this. Sometimes I think I have memory loss around that time too but I think it's because I was so fucking hard firstly coping with DA and then with a toddler and a nb on my own. My mh was dreadful.
HerRoyalWitchyness · 15/10/2021 09:10

Sylvanian families. I was desperate for them as a child but my dad wouldn't let me SadAngry

2lsinllama · 15/10/2021 09:16

@HerRoyalWitchyness

Sylvanian families. I was desperate for them as a child but my dad wouldn't let me SadAngry
Get someone to buy you one for Christmas - it’s never too late to embrace your inner child 😊
NaToth · 15/10/2021 13:48

Grandchildren.

dmudbur · 15/10/2021 14:30
  • Not being able to find a job I love.
  • Good skin.
  • A house near the South Coast.
JessicaFletcherxx · 15/10/2021 15:16

@deedeemegadoodoo

A child. I’ve just turned 49, and now the pressure is off and I am too old for it to be a chance means I’m not as sad about it now.
Just turned 45 and feel exactly the same. It's almost a relief to know it's not going to happen and I can stop chasing it now.
Snowdropsandbluebells · 15/10/2021 15:23

A garbage patch kid

Jokes aside. True meaningful friends

Kneesaregood · 15/10/2021 15:39

A serious one for me would be a close relationship with family. Parents didn't give a shit, mum saw me as a rival and she died when I was young adult due to addiction. I only have brothers and uncles so I feel a bit envious when I hear people on here talking about mum-daughter or sisterly relationships.

Light-hearted one - height, but specifically: the ability to use the open car window as an arm rest on a sunny day. I'm too short for it but I've always thought it looks lovely and chilled!

crispsinasandwich · 15/10/2021 16:13

A second child - but I have one dd that I love dearly so I know that I am very lucky. Yes I would have liked her to have a sibling so that when we die she won't be on her own but I also know that not all siblings get on.

crispsinasandwich · 15/10/2021 16:14

On a frivolous note - a Mercedes SLK

daiawndiolch · 16/10/2021 06:59

@Glassofshloer

A loving mum.
Same Confused
MrsJackWhicher · 16/10/2021 07:03

A daughter.
But so grateful for my sons.