What is something you've had to make peace with never having?

[BobbiPinsOn]

a good singing voice

A house anywhere near the size or value of my parents house/the houses I grew up in and probably living in the location I'd like to.

House prices have really fucked a lot of us over. We have good jobs BTW, yet still this is an issue for us. I can't imagine what it's like on a low income. So I know owning a house at all is a privlidged. But the period of better living standards with each generation feels lost to lots of my generation.

Horse! I had horses all my life then had an eventing accident aged 19. My horse was killed and I was in hospital for months. I now have major mobility issues and not only am 2 stone heavier than any riding school will allow for a rider I have completely lost my nerve.

A second child definitely ! A life in Italy (love Italy 🥰) teeneage mutant ninja turtle toys my mum didn't think they were suitable for girls! (Still annoyed about that 😁)

A child

A child with my husband.

I used to say a good singing voice too, but I've had vocal lessons for 2 years now. It's a learnt skill not a natural talent.

Grandparents who loved me. I had Grandparents, they just hated my very existence.

A partner who is both my equal in intelligence and who isn’t a vain arsehole.

All the men I have ever had relationships with have either been:

a) kind and caring but not massively bright and sometimes threatened by my intelligence. And I always out-earn them OR
b) very intelligent and talented but narcissistic. emotionally damaged and unreliable.

I have never ever ticked both boxes.

In the scheme of things it’s something I can absolutely live with and my current partner is lovely and his sweetness and generosity more than compensate. But some think that I missed out on a proper soulmate: someone who gets me really deeply but also cherishes me and is committed to me.

@Chasingsquirrels

Mr Frosty (as a child).

I clicked on this thread knowing someone would say this!!

@DressBitch you’re never too old to start something if you feel passionate about it ! I know people who’ve taken up art or music is later life and been great at it

In contrast I did lots of extracurriculars as a kid and was either crap at them or lost interest/hadn’t time to keep as a teen/ young adult

My ex. I adored him but he didn't feel the same and it broke my heart. I'm now married to a man I love and have 2 amazing DC so no regrets but I thought at the time I'd never get over him.

A gap year.

I'm determined my future children will not be rushed into the world of 9-5 if it still exists.

For a long time, I really felt I'd been short changed by being so short but that started to change after I got prg easily both times, had two ''easy'' (they told me) deliveries, breast fed, recovered quickly. I began to realise I owe it to nobody to be tall! Why was I so hard on myself for so long. My internal voice was like I was contractually obliged to be tall but was reneging on my part of the contract Then in my forties I think I just thought fuck it, I've aged well, not everybody gets everything. Tall women might have backpain, not that I'm wishing that on them!! What I mean is, I got the body I got and I should have accepted that decades earlier than I did. But then,they do say youth is wasted on the young.

Actually, I'd love to do my youth again but with the wisdom I have now!! I'll have to make peace with that.

@Glassofshloer

A loving mum.

This and also a reasonable amount of money. Sorry all.

A child and now I miss having a grandchild.

Going into space. I'd love to see earth from space.

A child/children.

A child with my husband and a decent, loving father for my childhood.

A second child.

Thick hair!

A loving long-term marriage

(I was married, 3 DC, abusive relationship. Over 8 years now thankfully but I still mourn the marriage I hoped for. I've had no relationship since, hope for it some day but I know I can't have the marriage I wanted)

💐 for all those posters who weren't able to have a child

Off street parking.

(and children)

Nice legs.

That I’ll never own all of the dogs I’d love to have.

I’d love a German Shepherd, a Rottweiler, a Doberman, a Great Dane, an Irish Wolfhound, a Standard Poodle, any cute dog I meet…

A decent mother.

A pogo stick 😪