What is something you've had to make peace with never having?

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a good singing voice

This! I'm 44 and am married to a lovely man. Good provider and good dad but no passion doesn't show affection. Nearly 2 years since last we were intimate. Last had a row with him about it 3 or 4 months ago and nothing has changed. I want a marriage he just doesn't want it would seem but financially and the fear of never finding anyone else stops me from pulling the plug. Also I don't want my children to go through what I did with parents at war and 2 separate homes. Youngest is 10 so if things don't change I have 6 -8 years to decide what to do. By which time I will be 50 and can't see me finding what I want at that age. Is it better to stay married to a "friend" or be alone!

@doi3456

A good singing voice here too! i really love singing and it feels like it is in my very soul, but the sound of my voice would make you want to do rip your very eyeballs out. It is quite heartbreaking! Everytime I start to sing I have to stop myself to protect other people's mental health, while I die a little inside.

The other thing is cashmere loungewear at the moment.

This made me laugh as I feel EXACTLY the same. I enjoy singing loudly in private a lot but would never inflict it on anyone else. I often have a fantasy where I’m on X Factor and my sob story is that I was in a coma and when I woke up I could sing amazingly. I’d obviously go on to win!

@Chasingsquirrels I asked for Mr Frosty for years and years, I eventually got it and it broke on Boxing Day. I was absolutely gutted.

Perfect eyesight, I’m ridiculously short sighted!

Catching up on some of these posts - oh my goodness! Many of you have had such horrible childhoods which have obviously left terrible scars. And some of you have such sad and difficult lives now. No one on here knows me and I don't know you, so perhaps me saying that I am so sorry for your troubles is no help, but I AM sorry. And I'm sending hugs.♥️

@Tazmania77

This! I'm 44 and am married to a lovely man. Good provider and good dad but no passion doesn't show affection. Nearly 2 years since last we were intimate. Last had a row with him about it 3 or 4 months ago and nothing has changed. I want a marriage he just doesn't want it would seem but financially and the fear of never finding anyone else stops me from pulling the plug. Also I don't want my children to go through what I did with parents at war and 2 separate homes. Youngest is 10 so if things don't change I have 6 -8 years to decide what to do. By which time I will be 50 and can't see me finding what I want at that age. Is it better to stay married to a "friend" or be alone!

I always want stability for my children and for them to live with both parents. My own parents divorced when I was 8. My dad then moved aboard so only saw him in the school holidays. My mother died when I was 16 so I then had to leave everything I knew to move aboard and live with my dad. We never had a great relationship. At the moment I have a good marriage and we are both very happy. If that ever changed I like to think I would stay living with him until our two kids have grown up but obviously I don’t know.

A mother who ever wanted me in her life

A mother who ever wanted me in her life - except when I was doing things for her

Having had my children within a happy marriage
(Ended the unhappy marriage, I haven’t kept my children stuck in one)

@Janash195, me too. Mine only liked me when she got what she wanted. As a child I grew up with neglect, disdain and being laughed at. I would have loved to just had a mother who cared.

Being a Mum.

Being ambitious.

Long thick hair
Retiring early

Small boobs

Another child. I got married at 36, had a Mc before and after ds and the went into premature menopause at 39. It took me literally years and years to make peace with the fact I’d never have another. Ds is almost 20 and really I’d really only come to terms with it maybe 4 years ago!

Please get better soon. And hope you can guilt in more support/

@bembridge11

Being taller than I am - I wanted to be 5 6 or so. I am 5 2

Ironic isn't it - I'm 5'8 and always dreamt I'd be more petite. Like aching to be 5'3 or so, wear heels, never experience the uncomfortable feeling or being taller than my date. I'd dream of looking up into my date's eyes; I'm 6 foot tall with heels...

My height rules out a lot of handsome and lovely guys under 5'8, as it just looks silly with me wearing heels.
I do have long slim legs, but I'd have swapped that for short height.

@primrosee you and societal expectations rule out the lovely men, not your height. I'm a good 4 inches taller than my husband (in flat shoes) people may notice at first but they stop caring pretty rapidly and truthfully I don't care what people think anyway - he's clever, kind, sexy and an amazing father.

My mum is 3 inches taller than my dad (when she's wearing flats), they've been happily married for over 50 years!

Ironic isn't it - I'm 5'8 and always dreamt I'd be more petite. Like aching to be 5'3 or so, wear heels, never experience the uncomfortable feeling or being taller than my date. I'd dream of looking up into my date's eyes; I'm 6 foot tall with heels...

I actually think that there is sometimes a feeling of wanting to fit in or be "average and not be the outlier...unless its something you can control or particularly want. If a person was attention seeking or wanting to stand out in a crowd they can potentially do that in the way they behave, or how they dress/do their hair etc. If you are inches off standard height its often noticeable whether you want it to be or not. I am the other end of the scale that I am under 5ft so conspicuously short. Even if I wear high heels I'm still v short! I rarely have eye level conversations with anyone apart from small children!🤣
Being 6ft might mean you were noticeably taller in a group of women although half the girls at DDs school seem to be about 6ft

@primrosee, also 5’8” abs I know exactly what you mean. A friend of the same height said once “it’s tall enough that men never feel they need to look after you, not tall enough to be striking, but tall enough for clothes to be verging on too short!”.

Inheritance.

@talkalarm I was expecting the comments that it's my fault for disregarding shorter men. Im happy for your parents' marriage, but going out with a 5'8 man when I'm 6 foot in heels just made me feel silly and giant, sorry.

I've met lots of short lovely men I would happily settle down with, but I couldn't pass the feeling of looking down at them.

A good relationship with my mum. A sister. A daughter. A Porsche! It’s an important lesson I want to instill into my kids that in life you just can’t have everything you want and money can’t always buy everything you want. You just have to be thankful for what you do have

A husband

This thread is acting like a gratitude list for me, for all the things I probably take for granted yet other people would love to have

@anon666 Yes I agree