What is something you've had to make peace with never having?

[BobbiPinsOn]

a good singing voice

Not sure I've made peace with it at all, but a quiet retirement and to go easy knowing my children will be ok - my younger son is severely autistic and has significant LDs and will one day be reliant on the compassion and competence of others, people he's not related to who won't love him like we do.

And while we're still alive, we will ALWAYS be the parents of what amounts to a small child. That is something I'm pretty bitter about as I watch my peers allowing their kids more freedoms and the anticipation of, ultimately, independence. We love him so much, but he is always going to be our small child really.

being friends with my colleagues.

@IncorrigibleTitmouse

A gap year travelling like all my friends did.

Going away to uni (couldn’t afford it so had to go part time as an adult).

Never too old to take a gap year and travel. My husband and I took a year out and travelled the world when our first child was 4 months old. We were on a very tight budget but had an amazing time. We have since travelled again but not for so long as the children are in school and we have jobs and a mortgage etc.

A Sindy doll house. God I wanted one of them so bad! As an adult it’s straight hair but i still haven’t made peace with my curls.

More time with my beloved mum.

Singing in tune, a sense of direction and a pert bum.

@Glassofshloer

A loving mum.

This one hit home as it's the first thought that came into my head.

I choose to be the most loving Mum and human in general - it makes my loss a little more bearable.

I'm with you Glassofshloer.

A day where I don’t worry about money.
My own house
A husband
A flat stomach 😂

A driving licence.
A neurotypical child.
A decent singing voice.
A partner.

My own house
My own teeth
A decent relationship

To be able to understand Maths and Physics well enough to have a chance of understanding what make the Universe tick.

A home that I own

Carrying a tune

Playing piano

Speaking french fluently

I obviously want to be a Victorian lady

@GlomOfNit I thought I knew what autism was and then I met a family with a severely autistic child and witnessed how incredibly difficult it was for the family to manage. Like your family there was a lot of love but you could see how wearing, worrying and exhausting it was. Severe autism is a tough one to make peace with. Sending best wishes

In all honesty I have not made peace with the things I will never have.
I went through a catastrophic trauma that led to the loss of nearly everything that mattered to me. I am trying to come to terms with that but in reality, I am nowhere near that and can't actually imagine ever being accepting that it happened, let alone at peace with it.

A shining career. Actually no I haven't. I probably should but don't seem to be able to stop trying

A second child.

Used to quite covet having beautiful furniture in a lovely big "period" home. It's ok not to have either.

A waist !!
.. it's long gone.

@Glassofshloer

A loving mum.

😢 know that feeling x

A daughter. And grandchildren.

Peace of mind

A happy marriage

@mumsiedarlingrevolta

Carrying a tune

Playing piano

Speaking french fluently

I obviously want to be a Victorian lady

I can do two of these, play the piano and speak French fluently! I spent summers in Paris as my grandmother was French.

It hurts doesn’t it @mumoftinyterrors

But we can try to be one ourselves xx