What is something you've had to make peace with never having?

[BobbiPinsOn]

a good singing voice

Family that was loyal

@GetDrunkWithMe I’m so sorry for your loss.

Mine would be:

A mum I could talk to
A normal sized body
A biological child
My own talk show!

Self esteem and confidence in my teenage years

A partner whose first response if he sees me crying is to reach out and hold me.

A slim figure.

Being treated equally and fairly by my mum

A good relationship with food

Decent hair - mine is so thin it's impossible

Good legs 😂

Parents.

being alone in my old age. having to work full time until I drop. all due to a later years divorce

@Pollythecat15

A voice for my adult son. He's never spoken a word.

💔 💐

@Belsizepark

Not having a mum. She died when I was two. My dad remarried within the year to a woman who hated me. They were both emotionally and physically abusive all my childhood.

I'm so sorry. This is desperately sad to read. I hope you have your own family that love you now. 🙏🏻

I have kind of accepted that I will never be able to leave my unhappy relationship. It just feels completely impossible. I also very much doubt I have it in me not to get into another one if I did manage to free myself. I hope I am wrong on both counts however.

A partner who was kind, loving and supportive when DC were very young. I'm never going to be able to go back and have that now and it makes me so sad.

@silkyshowercap

My full blown career with its lovely potential earnings. Went pt when dc started school as couldn't find the childcare to help with school pickups. Its gone down the drain ever since. I am ok with that though now.

My dc more than make up for the lack of career but I wish I'd managed to do both even though I really couldn't and did try very hard to keep it going.

This absolutely can happen. It may not be the same route as you planned but once DC are older, you can give that time again, diversify if you need to & find the challenge & reward in work.

In my own line of work, I support people to do this exactly.

A best friend.

I do have a good singing voice, though, and really enjoy using it.

Every day, I say to my children. I am PROUD of you. I LOVE you: they are the most important words in my book. I never had those words.

❤️❤️❤️

That's lovely Charlie

@Mummadeze

I have kind of accepted that I will never be able to leave my unhappy relationship. It just feels completely impossible. I also very much doubt I have it in me not to get into another one if I did manage to free myself. I hope I am wrong on both counts however.

As someone who shared that despair one time, you really can do it, I promise.

It won't be easy, but I could nearly guarantee that however hard the struggle (and I have had, and am having still, some very hard moments), you will be able & it will still be easier than your current position.

As for another relationship ... I hope for that too!

@StepAwayFromGoogling

A partner who was kind, loving and supportive when DC were very young. I'm never going to be able to go back and have that now and it makes me so sad.

Sending ❤️ to you in empathy. I am in the same position.

Even now, we are separated, DC a bit older, and he's still so shit to them. I cried yesterday thinking how 💔 it is for them & that they don't deserve it - and the stressed plate-spinning mum they have in me, doing her best but feeling so often that I've let them down.

One great thing about having a lacking mother is that it has taught me how not to parent.

This thread has been lovely as well as heartbreaking fo read

So many people with really tough losses to bear 💐

What an amazing thread you started @BobbiPinsOn.

to so many posters who, through absolutely no fault of their own, have had difficult, challenging, stressful lives and just keep on going.

A pony

A secure attachment style
Being able to drink alcohol in a healthy manner
A child that's genetically mine
Being able to run a sub 4 hour marathon

So many things ..
Another child
A career
A social life due to a health issue that causes me pain and chronic anxiety
A retirement.