What is something you've had to make peace with never having?

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a good singing voice

Romantic relationship.
I will never know what it feels like to be loved by someone.
To have a partner.

Ambition for a career and a desire to work. I do work because I have to, but would happily not and have been this way for years. I am at my absolute happiest just pottering about at home and living minimally.

My mum just being happy with what she has and not constantly comparing/judging. She will never stop and it has made my life stressful since I was 10!

A girls holiday
Smaller thighs
Smaller boobs
A second child

@IWillFindYou

Romantic relationship. I will never know what it feels like to be loved by someone. To have a partner.

Meant to say committed relationship.

I have skin severely affected by psoriasis and it love to be able to have normal skin so I can swim, wear shorts, not feel self conscious at the state of it.
I’ve had it since the age of 8 but since my 30s it’s not left I’m covered in it and all treatments have failed.

Does anyone actually have everything they want? 😞

Surprised to see so many say nice legs. I was a catwalk model and I never really pay attention to my legs. Legs are legs... Plus we are very wealthy, have a pool that so many people seem to want.

But I'm infertile. I get a lump in my throat every time I see baby clothes in a shop. The pain of not having a child doesn't ease but seems to be more gut retching with every passing year

🌺 to all suffering with their unachieved dreams.

Decent parents who care about me and my children

My mum used to say “I’m not proud of you. I didn’t do x thing.” I.e. the achievement I had made. I think she was trying to sound like she didn’t want to take the glory, but actually she was jealous and could only be proud if it was about herself. This was among all her endless criticisms and picking holes in my appearance etc, so it twisted the knife.

I say I’m proud of you now to my DC when they have really tried, achieved something, been brave etc and you can see how it boosts them and helps them to value their effort and achievements.

My mum still doesn’t understand why we don’t have a good relationship

Primrose I’m sorry

I suppose the thread asked about what we have made peace with, lumpy fat legs are easier to make peace with, and the deeper, more painful things aren’t.

Become a doctor/ have successful career

a second child
A driving licence
Not being floopy

Become a doctor/ have successful career

Yes to that one.

I was accepted into university to study medicine whan I was 18- my parents talked me out of it.

A smaller nose

Bigger boobs and a flatter stomach! Mine are completely the wrong way round 🤣

Lovely thick hair. I have had flat fine hair my entire life that doesn't grow past my shoulders, I've tried various shampoos/vitamins/switching up my diet and nothing has thickened it up.

Good legs with tiny ankles
A close group of girlfriends
A third child
Being able to retrain in my dream career- the pathway is just too long and completely unaffordable

A mum (died when I was a young child)
A supportive kind family (birth and in-laws). I do have one brother, who is great, but lives no where near us.
The wisdom when I was a teen to fully appreciate the opportunities I did have, despite the above, and make the most of them.
A second child

@Cottagepieandpeas - I feel the same but have vowed to never give up. So, I'm now trying my hands on an automatic car and it's so much easier to deal with the anxiety, particularly not having to worry about my weird coordination, fear of big roundabouts etc. Neighbour'd daughter finally passed on her 19th attempt so that gives me some hope.

Silky hair

A normal relationship with my mum.

A successful career.

A career or even a job. I’ve got lots of very good qualifications but have been a SAHM for more than twenty years and no one wants to know even though I recently retrained and got top marks. Work experience is all apparently.

Experiencing the handiness, safety and freedom that is owning a car to drive.
I can drive but I just fucking hate it! It doesn't come naturally to me and stresses me out so much. I've driven on the German Autobahn and tiny village roads. European capital cities and here at home in my quiet home Town....My blood pressure, fear and road rage does the same regardless of where I am or what I'm driving so I've made peace with it.
It's just not for me.

Naturally amazing hair.

A job
And thick hair on my head!