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What is something you've had to make peace with never having?

869 replies

BobbiPinsOn · 09/10/2021 10:34

a good singing voice

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Tipsylizard · 09/10/2021 13:35

@Dumbitdown I had a very similar experience and spent most of my thirties getting over it.

Would never have believed it but I went onto meet my now husband at 40, we have 2 children and I have 2 step chdren as well. It is completely possible for you to become a mum if you want to(one way or another- we had to use donor eggs as mine were knackered) on your own or with someone wonderful you may meet along the way. It is lore than possible that you meet someone lovely to spend your life with.

Flowers
lnsufficientFuns · 09/10/2021 13:39

Nice inlaws

Phoebesgift · 09/10/2021 13:40

Owning property
Being comfortably off
Having strong healthy teeth.
Natural self confidence

Pumpkinstace · 09/10/2021 13:42

A nuclear family

AnnaSW1 · 09/10/2021 13:43

The ability to have a wee/shower in peace in my own house!

stayathomer · 09/10/2021 13:47

Having strong healthy teeth.
I'll never make peace with this. Currently looking into a loan to fix my horror movie teeth. Solidarity to you Phoebe

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 09/10/2021 13:47

To live in a period property. My DH only likes modern houses and I could never convince him to buy an older property

Tulips15 · 09/10/2021 13:48

Getting married
Nice hands
Unable to seem to be slim..ever.
No dress sense
Financially being really comfortable

WanderingFruitWonderer · 09/10/2021 13:48

Quite a few things - I'm a bit disastrous!
The kind of education I would have loved and thrived at, in adolescence. Also, good mental health. I've struggled with anxiety and OCD since I was eleven. It's a bit better now, but I've accepted it'll probably be a struggle for the rest of my life.
Many other things too, that resulted from those things. But it makes me too sad to talk about.
But in spite of all this, I try to count my blessings. I have many things to be grateful for...
Also, I'm very spiritual, and see my life here as a tiny snippet of my eternal journey. I also believe the multiverse is very probable. So hopefully there are other versions of me somewhere, enjoying the things I wanted, but didn't/don't have. That thought makes me smile.
Flowers to anyone dealing with the pain of lacking longed-for things...

Adamine · 09/10/2021 13:48

Becoming a ballet dancer. I went to ballet school from age 11-16 but then had to leave due to family circumstances.

Iblinkedandiamold · 09/10/2021 13:48

More children for me too.

Ponoka7 · 09/10/2021 13:50

Mine is also good teeth. Being disabled there's no way that I can afford them. Being able to confidently swim in the sea.

StoppinBy · 09/10/2021 13:51

That my children are hard work (They have ADHD). I love them to pieces but some days they bring me to tears with how hard they can be..... to be fair, we are in lockdown and have been home learning for months plus on and off for the 12 months before that so they are rattier than ever.

Knowing that my kids will never have the loving Grandparents my husband and I thought they would, my Mum prefers her dogs over either her kids or Grandkids and my hubby's Dad is incredibly intolerant of children while his Mum is at his Dad's beck and call.

StoppinBy · 09/10/2021 13:53

Sorry that should really say, "That I will not have children who are easy to parent"

Goldbar · 09/10/2021 13:55

A second child too.

upinaballoon · 09/10/2021 14:00

A decent figure and decent legs. I think those things affect self-confidence, although i wish they didn't.

BiLuminous · 09/10/2021 14:01

A family. However, I made my own.

On a lighter note... nice feet and legs. I have rugby player legs and my feet are like talons. Ha!

Allycott · 09/10/2021 14:02

@Crunchymum

Being slim Sad
How defeatist
RandomLondoner · 09/10/2021 14:02

On the subject of a "good singing voice", I downloaded an app that was supposed to teach singing, it started by testing vocal range. Apparently most untrained males have a range between 1.4 and 2 octaves. Mine was measured as well below 1.

BrilliantBetty · 09/10/2021 14:03

Close group of friends to have fun with and share things with. Go on holidays together etc.

I did have, as a teenager & early 20s but not any more (30s).

castoroil · 09/10/2021 14:03

A small forehead

FunnysInLaJardin · 09/10/2021 14:03

A Girls World and a skiing holiday

butterflyze · 09/10/2021 14:04

A bigger garden.

whataboutbob · 09/10/2021 14:06

A house. I’ve raised my kids in a flat. Most of their friends have houses that can easily accommodate guests. We don’t. But I’m also kind of proud that I did it and they are turning out ok.

whataboutbob · 09/10/2021 14:09

[quote Tipsylizard]**@Dumbitdown I had a very similar experience and spent most of my thirties getting over it.

Would never have believed it but I went onto meet my now husband at 40, we have 2 children and I have 2 step chdren as well. It is completely possible for you to become a mum if you want to(one way or another- we had to use donor eggs as mine were knackered) on your own or with someone wonderful you may meet along the way. It is lore than possible that you meet someone lovely to spend your life with.

Flowers[/quote]
@Dumbitdown I was wondering if @Tipsylizard was my best friend but she can’t be as BF doesn’t have step kids. She also met her DH at 40 and has 2 kids, I conceived via donor egg. It is entirely possible to meet someone in late 30s/ 40s.