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I have just found out I am having Twins after 3yrs ttc

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concreterose31 · 07/10/2021 17:12

Hey everyone!!!
We had a scan last week Friday and it was confirmed it we are having twins!!! Currently 7w5days!
I've so overwhelmed with emotions; bouncing between being so scared about possible risks and overjoyed that after 3 years of infertility, a failed round of IVF, we have naturally conceived twins with no real history of twins in my family. In my case I honestly feel this is a miracle from God!
At present it seems babies share a sac but have separate placentas..
I believe this means they are identical but it seems that twins in the "format" is not the most common.. I may be wrong? Confused

I have entered the dark hole of google all the possible be risks with twin pregnancy plus having an increased BMI.
Not really a AIBU, posting here mainly for traffic but would love to hear positive twin pregnancy stories and could do with any advise or support!
Thank you all so much in advance!

I have just found out I am having Twins after 3yrs ttc
OP posts:
Cryalot2 · 07/10/2021 21:39

Just want to say congratulations Flowers

Zerrin13 · 07/10/2021 21:40

Just wonderful! Congratulations xx

ChimneyPot · 07/10/2021 21:42

Congratulations and welcome to the twin mum club. You will spot twins forever now and walk up to people with newborn twins….. or maybe that is just me Smile

Being excited and very anxious is normal. My girls were MCDA and it was a very high risk pregnancy because of my obstetric history of Acute Fatty Liver of Pregnancy in a previous single pregnancy.

The twin pregnancy was complicated with the Acute Fatty Liver again and Preeclampsia and being hospitalised on and off.
To my surprise I had a spontaneous, quick (one hour and 15 minutes), entirely natural deliver at 35 weeks. There were 12 medical professionals in the room for the birth but by the time by twins were sent back down from the NICU after 20 minutes because they were “small but perfect and didn’t need extra care” we were left with only a student midwife.
I will never forget the amazing feeling of relief. In all my worries and anxieties I don’t think I ever really allowed for the possibility that everything would be absolutely perfect.
I had a one year old already and my twins didn’t sleep through the night for four years but it was all good.
I walked about with a double buggy and a baby in a sling and people would say “you have your hands full” I always replied “ I know I am so lucky”

Enjoy it all.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 07/10/2021 21:47

Aw ! Massive congratulations 🎉

womaninatightspot · 07/10/2021 22:05

Congratulations. I had MCDA twins (they are identical) fortnightly scans from 16weeks. They are concerned about twin to twin transfer syndrome (TTTS) where one twin hogs an unfair share of nutrients and grows faster than the other one. Apparently they can divide the placenta with a laser at some specialised hospitals which is why they keep such a close eye on you so it can be caught and treated if necessary.

TurquoiseDress · 07/10/2021 22:12

That's so amazing, especially after what you've been through with infertility and IVF

My younger brother & sister are twins, I always envied their closeness...I didn't feel left out, they followed me, I was the one in charge!

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 07/10/2021 22:15

Look at their little baby heads! and their little baby arms!!

So bloody cute!!!

Congratulations!!!

DontBiteTheBoobThatFeedsYou · 07/10/2021 22:16

Also, that's SUCH a clear image for so early on!
I'm so impressed that I can make out they are actual tiny little humans!

TrainforSpeed · 07/10/2021 22:19

I can't give any insights, but what wonderful news. Congratulations.

EKGEMS · 07/10/2021 22:21

Thank you @CherryAndAlmond My sister is a gem

Mustreadabook · 07/10/2021 22:28

Congratulations! I have identical twins and spent the whole pregnancy being worried. And nothing at all went wrong :-) I got scans every two weeks from 16 weeks to check them so got lots of reassurance.

girlwhowearsglasses · 09/10/2021 11:42

twin mum here. (same format as yours).

Remember when you go down the rabbit hole of what 'can' go wrong the most useful thing a consultant said to me was 'if there's nothing wrong, there's nothing wrong' - you may have statistics saying all sorts of things, but you're not a walking statistic. Most twins are born fine and are fine.

The pregnancy is hard work - but genuinely the hardest work part of it. manage your expectations and know that you will not feel like doing much for the last few months. I felt it was like a taste of being an old lady but knowing it won't' last forever.

Don't get into long discussions with well-meaning relatives about due date. Due date doesn't mean anything for you.... 'anytime from now to in six weeks' time' was my stock response.

Twinsmum2003 · 09/10/2021 23:22

Many, many congratulations! I have boy/girl twins so separate everything. They were born at 34 weeks by c-section but we went hone together after 6 days (on Christmas Eve!). First six months were tiring because they had to be fed 3 hourly day and night but I loved being in that bubble where nothing and no-one else mattered. From around 5 months they started with high chairs and solids and everything got easier, might as well feed 2 as 1! They always had a playmate in each and slept together in a large cot bed. I feel that having them at the same age is so much easier than trying to cope with a pregnancy/birth/newborn and an 18 month toddler like my friends did.
So…"CONGRATULATIONS” and take it easy, get as much sleep as possible.

chillidoritto · 09/10/2021 23:29

I have non identical twin boys now 6 months old. I already had DD (10), DS1 (4) and DS2 (2) when they were born! It is hard work having older children too but it is wonderful!

Hankunamatata · 09/10/2021 23:32

Congratulations.

I think everyone feels anxious until they get through their first trimester.

Maray1967 · 09/10/2021 23:47

Congratulations!🎈🍾🎉
I had three years of trying before DS1, including two failed ivf, and over 4 years before DS2. But no twins for us, only singletons!
One born in Millennium year and one born in our city’s capital of culture year! I took those as special signs.

babbi · 09/10/2021 23:54

Fantastic news - congratulations.
Take care and look after yourself.

Saoirse82 · 10/10/2021 00:25

Congratulations, I love stories like this. Im pregnant naturally (due next month) after 7 years of infertility, miscarriages and failed ivf so I know it'll take a lot for it to sink in, especially as you're having 2 babies! Lovely news and what a surprise it must be for you!

Dobbyismyabsolutefav · 10/10/2021 00:34

Congratulations! Having been on the IVF journey myself try to enjoy your pregnancy and your little miracles.

pheonixrebirth · 10/10/2021 01:37

I got boy/girl twins, I honestly wouldn't place to much importance on them being identical or not. We experienced secondary infertility and it took 5 years to conceive (naturally).
The biggest fear for me was delivering after 28 weeks because that was when the lt could help the most with lung advancing drugs.
As it happened I had a C-section at 40 weeks because twin 1 was breach and they didn't want to take any risks.

Katlow · 10/10/2021 02:07

I had issues ttc, we started when I was 24 and it took us 19 months (alot of people struggle for a lot longer than us, I know, but I get the feeling of hopelessness) and I welled up reading this because I know exactly how anxious you are and I also know how exciting it is when it finally happens for you.
I panicked completely until the 20 week scan. I paid for lots of extra ultrasounds, which if you can afford easily, I'd recommend as it put my mind at ease. It doesn't quite feel real does it? And for me it didn't quite feel real until the contractions started.
I don't have any experience with twins, I just wanted to say congratulations and I'm over the moon for you.

Catflapkitkat · 10/10/2021 05:15

Congratulations.

IVF twin mum here, a week before my 43rd birthday and hands up a bit of big biffer. My twins are 14. It is hard work but IVF is gruelling - you have your result. You can do it.

Someone asked me if I could have the exact same children three years apart would I have done - no. Love being a twin mum.

Good luck OP

WillowKnicks · 10/10/2021 05:20

Congratulations! 🎉
I have teenage twin daughters, conceived naturally, just as I was about to embark on fertility treatment.
I found out at my 12 week scan & also that they were non ID, with separate sacs & placentas.
I was really overwhelmed when I found out at how I would cope etc & also that it was a higher risk pregnancy but like previous posters have said, you're really looked after.
I developed SPD, which was unpleasant but apart from that, I had no complications & had to be induced at full term & had the girls naturally.
Yes it's hard work but I was honestly in such a bubble of joy when they were born, I found it far easier than I imagined & it's gone in the blink of an eye & can't believe they're nearly all grown up!
Enjoy your special time, twins are a gift! 💐

Teaandtoastedbiscuits · 10/10/2021 07:07

That is such brilliant news! Congratulations and enjoy every minute of them.

Saracen · 10/10/2021 08:19

Congratulations! What lovely news. I am delighted for you.