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Original poster

Obscene voicemail would I BU to report it? TMI warning.

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tinnedpears · 03/10/2021 19:05

So there were three missed calls on my mobile, and a voicemail.

Picked up the voicemail and much to my surprise was treated to a couple of minutes of some saddo wanking.

Amongst the groaning, he called me by my name and informed me that he's found me on google and that it was 'dead fucking easy' to find me. Said he was hoping I'd return his call. I'm a self employed physio, so someone wanting to find me on google would do so really easily.

He didn't bother withholding his number. Should I report him do you think, or just laugh it off?

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Brainfogmcfogface · 03/10/2021 20:08

Report! Thank! If he’s doing it to you chances are someone else has or will get a call from the cretin and it may not be an adult or may be someone who can not laugh it off but rather be seriously affected by it.

Queenoftheashes · 03/10/2021 20:09

Yea report. Someone went to jail for doing that to me. And many other women.

Wegobshite · 03/10/2021 20:09

Even if it’s unregistered SIM card if he has ever paid for a top up with his debit or credit card then he can be traced

Essen · 03/10/2021 20:10

How horrible for you! I would definitely report it.

Pollypudding · 03/10/2021 20:12

Please report him. This happened to one of my colleagues recently. The Police took it very seriously- came to work, listened to message and interviewed colleague. Turns out the person has stalked other women in the past. He has been charged.
Please don’t laugh it off- it is no joke. Flowers

Pollypudding · 03/10/2021 20:13

Meant to say- it was one of her patients

Original poster
tinnedpears · 03/10/2021 20:13

Thank you thank you. I am on 101 website now, it's a bit confusing as it's asking where the crime happened 🙄

I'm shuffling through it though.

Thank you I'll let you all know what happens!

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godmum56 · 03/10/2021 20:14

definitely report.

Djifunrsn · 03/10/2021 20:14

This is how sick twats like WC start out. That guy will end up raping someone, almost certainly.

toocold54 · 03/10/2021 20:15

Definitely report.
Next time he could ring a young girl or boy and really mess them up.

It’s quite scary that he rang you multiple times. If it rings again I would answer and get your DH to voice record it.

SpaceshiptoMars · 03/10/2021 20:15

My first thought was 'Pity there's no DNA evidence', but not very helpful!

Get something like a Ring doorbell or camera setup at the entrance of your clinic. And report.

Wegobshite · 03/10/2021 20:15

@tinnedpears
You must have read my mind as that guy in the link was caught exactly how I said someone can be caught
through the top up cards 😂

Purplepeoniesdroppingpetals · 03/10/2021 20:15

Glad that you’re reporting the bastard.

Boredhimtodeath · 03/10/2021 20:16

Shame checking on WhatsApp didn’t work. Report to the police and mention the easy to find bit. Have you had any clients make you uneasy you could check the number against?

arrangeyourface · 03/10/2021 20:17

@MrsRobbieHart There’s no need to take that tone with me. Numerous other people have asked the same question.

Many women doubt their own feelings in some situations but the one the OP describes is so extreme that it’s difficult to understand how anyone could think someone would respond saying ‘no, don’t report, you’re overreacting’.

JemimaPiddleDick · 03/10/2021 20:17

@tinnedpears

Thank you thank you. I am on 101 website now, it's a bit confusing as it's asking where the crime happened 🙄

I'm shuffling through it though.

Thank you I'll let you all know what happens!

The crime happened where you are, his location isn’t important
MadamMedea · 03/10/2021 20:18

Definitely report!

I’m so sorry you went through that Flowers

NeedAHoliday2021 · 03/10/2021 20:18

I reported a guy who was calling selling something. I abruptly said no, take my number off your list then hung up. He called straight back and told me I was rude. I was then rude as I’d told him I didn’t want to speak to him (I was juggling 3 dc under 4 and getting dinner ready). I only said “get lost” so could have been worse. He called again 5 minutes later and said he knew where I lived and was going to come and rape me. I reported it and I’m in Somerset but he was calling from a business in Manchester. Manchester police wouldn’t prosecute but did establish that his manager had heard him on the call and had sacked him. Somerset police were absolutely amazing.

Smashingspinster · 03/10/2021 20:18

Not wanting to frighten you more, but if you dont report, he may take that as permission to up the ante. And he actively wanted to scare and upset you but telling you about looking you up. Sending you a hug and hoping the police treat you well.

Shelddd · 03/10/2021 20:19

Report it, these behaviours escalate and it's best to have as many of them reported as possible. Unfortunately policing around all of this sucks but still might help some other potential victim down the road if you report it now.

For example maybe it puts him on some list and someone else is victimized later and they look for people in her area and they find this guy because of your report and then link him to it... you never know.

Actupfishy · 03/10/2021 20:20

100% PLEASE report. Dirty scumbag!

Atalune · 03/10/2021 20:20

Zero tolerance for this kind of shit.

Report, report report.

I would absolutely name and shame the guy. Widely as possible xx

Nocutenamesleft · 03/10/2021 20:20

So I had an old school person who I spoke too

Who did something similar. But it was over msn chat. He also told me my address and wanted to know if I wanted to watch my mother burn

The police took it really seriously and I never heard about Again. So I’d ring the police for sure.

TakeMe2Insanity · 03/10/2021 20:21

I’d also do search to see if you name and number have been on some other website?