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Original poster

Obscene voicemail would I BU to report it? TMI warning.

278 replies

tinnedpears · 03/10/2021 19:05

So there were three missed calls on my mobile, and a voicemail.

Picked up the voicemail and much to my surprise was treated to a couple of minutes of some saddo wanking.

Amongst the groaning, he called me by my name and informed me that he's found me on google and that it was 'dead fucking easy' to find me. Said he was hoping I'd return his call. I'm a self employed physio, so someone wanting to find me on google would do so really easily.

He didn't bother withholding his number. Should I report him do you think, or just laugh it off?

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SeasonFinale · 03/10/2021 20:24

Report him. Wayne Couzens indecently exposed himself before moving up to more serious crimes.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 03/10/2021 20:25

Urgh, the dirty vile creep. No you definitely shouldn't just laugh it off.

FairfaxAikman · 03/10/2021 20:26

Glad you're reporting OP.
It's already in your favour that it's a voicemail - he can't deny having said what he said.

bigbeatmanifesto · 03/10/2021 20:26

Glad your reporting creeps like this need monitoring.

longtompot · 03/10/2021 20:32

It's this sort of low level stuff that needs reporting to stop people like this thinking they can get away with it, and worse stuff. Hope you have some success @tinnedpears

tommyhoundmum · 03/10/2021 20:32

You have his number and a record of his voice, report it as soon as possbile and ask for a female Police Officer to deal wth the matter.

RantyAunty · 03/10/2021 20:37

Glad you're reporting him.

I agree with reporting this vile bs every time.

Belladonna432 · 03/10/2021 20:38

That is awful! You are doing the right thing reporting it!! It’s got to be some sort of crime. Disgusting people around!!

Wills · 03/10/2021 20:39

Like others you seriously need to report, we need to move beyond 'coping behaviour' and reporting incidents such as these! I'm just not sure how else the Sarah Everarad's will have the courage to report such crimes as hers. I'm 52, but can remember walking back home at 2 am in the morning having caught a night bus and knowing I was being followed. A part of me felt this was unreal so I turned, whilst said person was still a long way from me, to confront the individual - believing we'd have some kind of rational interaction. Said man was dressed in a long black leather coat and.... nothing else. The next moment my brain did pure geniuse. I walked up the nearest house and inserted my key as though I was about to enter. When I looked back he grinned at me and then legged it. I banged on that door for well over 20 minutes before creeping to my nearest friend's house. By that point I'd persuauded myself I'd merely encountered a flasher sado, but as the PCW stated (she was young and probably shouldn't have) reports of a rape matching the man's description had come in 2 hours earlier. My point is that you never know and its better to be a false alarm than something else!

MrsRobbieHart · 03/10/2021 20:42

[quote arrangeyourface]@MrsRobbieHart There’s no need to take that tone with me. Numerous other people have asked the same question.

Many women doubt their own feelings in some situations but the one the OP describes is so extreme that it’s difficult to understand how anyone could think someone would respond saying ‘no, don’t report, you’re overreacting’.[/quote]
There was every need. You were being disingenuous.

Happymum12345 · 03/10/2021 20:43

Absolutely report it! I’ve been on jury duty and a recording like this helped get a nn convicted of horrendous crimes.

SheSaidHummingbird · 03/10/2021 20:47

Report. Please.

HalzTangz · 03/10/2021 20:48

Try putting his number in Facebook, in the search bit. Most blokes I find load their number to facebook

Drinkyourweaklemondrink · 03/10/2021 20:49

As others have said... this is a gateway crime to far more awful things. WC was reported over 5 times for various things and it escalates when they think they have got away with it. Hopefully the police will be able to trace the vile excuse of a human!

Back in the 80s we had a very unusual surname and we had repeated calls from a man who seemed to know our street and also told my mum what she looked like etc.
The police tried their best to take it seriously but he used to get a kick when my mum got upset on the phone.
My grandmother came to stay with us and she had a very broad Bolton accent...
Think Peter kay as a tiny old lady born in 1910!!

She picked up once and she yelled at him
"Bleeding eck, your mother aught to have washed your mouth out with carbolic soap" "put it away and bugger off you dirty beggar"

He never called again!!!

stevalnamechanger · 03/10/2021 20:51

Post it on gumtree and all the pet websites offering cheap puppies ... blow up the phone 📞

Fredstheteds · 03/10/2021 20:52

Poor you- hopefully you’ve reported

Original poster
tinnedpears · 03/10/2021 20:53

@HalzTangz

Try putting his number in Facebook, in the search bit. Most blokes I find load their number to facebook
No luck with that but it's a top tip!!!
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DrinkFeckArseBrick · 03/10/2021 20:53

Report.

I've been sexually assaulted and not reported because I didnt want to get into a he said / she said situation or have my personal life raged up. This is different and I can't see any reason not to:

You have proof
These things escalate
Its your professional life

I cant think of any downside of reporting

Original poster
tinnedpears · 03/10/2021 20:53

@stevalnamechanger

Post it on gumtree and all the pet websites offering cheap puppies ... blow up the phone 📞
omg that's brilliant!!!!!
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Lilyargin · 03/10/2021 20:54

Why wouldn’t you report? They’ve got to be called out on their behaviour or they get away with it.
Saying you were ‘dead easy’ to find is deliberately disquieting too.
Nasty.

Drinkyourweaklemondrink · 03/10/2021 20:56

Ps hope you are ok. It's a dreadful experience.
My mum at one point resorted to keeping a whistle next to her phone and blowing it down the phone at him in a vague attempt to inflict some pain back.

Montygone · 03/10/2021 21:06

Like everyone else, I say report. This sort of thing is an entry level crime that could lead to more serious sexual offences.

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BSideBaby · 03/10/2021 21:08

Report it OP. I had similar and the police were amazing, took it very seriously, and put a trace on the phone line.

Turned out the 'man' who was threatening to rape me and my ten-year-old DD was a teenager who'd recently discovered alcohol and who'd taken my number from an advert on a selling site. Needless to say he got in a lot of trouble over it. The whole experience was terrifying.

Us women need to scrub the word 'overreacting' from our vocabulary when it comes to any male behaviour that makes us feel uncomfortable. Surely 'reacting' is the only reasonable action to take over any kind of threat or abuse?

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 03/10/2021 21:08

Agree, report.

How do I stop my son from becoming one of these horrible people?