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Obscene voicemail would I BU to report it? TMI warning.

278 replies

tinnedpears · 03/10/2021 19:05

So there were three missed calls on my mobile, and a voicemail.

Picked up the voicemail and much to my surprise was treated to a couple of minutes of some saddo wanking.

Amongst the groaning, he called me by my name and informed me that he's found me on google and that it was 'dead fucking easy' to find me. Said he was hoping I'd return his call. I'm a self employed physio, so someone wanting to find me on google would do so really easily.

He didn't bother withholding his number. Should I report him do you think, or just laugh it off?

OP posts:
MrsRobbieHart · 03/10/2021 19:45

@arrangeyourface

I’m not knocking the OP here but I don’t really understand why anyone would NOT report this and have to ask if it’s unreasonable to do so.
Because women are repeatedly and consistently dismissed, not believed and called hysterical when they report abusive men. Does that help you understand why OP has asked for others’ perspectives?
samwitwicky · 03/10/2021 19:45

Why is this even a question? Of course you report him. Kick up a bloody good fuss.

EmmaC78 · 03/10/2021 19:46

I'd report it too OP.

Noshowlomo · 03/10/2021 19:49

REPORT IT. Women need to start getting fucking ANGRY about stuff like this and not even tolerating a tiny bit of it. Men like this twat escalate. How fucking dare he.
Report him for harassment ASAP.

RedSquirrelRoar · 03/10/2021 19:50

Definitely report - you won’t be the only one he does this to and while you might be able to shake it off, the next woman he calls might be more vulnerable.
Also as pp points out, men who get a kick out of humiliating women may well escalate to more serious offences over time.

Labracadabradoodle · 03/10/2021 19:51

If his name came to prominence at some point in the future as an offender in the news, how would you feel at never reporting this?
You are likely not the only one he does this to and every call helps the police to build a profile.
Report it.

Spidey66 · 03/10/2021 19:51

Definitely report it.

In your position I'd be scared it was a client, especially if you see people alone.

BlankTimes · 03/10/2021 19:52

he called me by my name and informed me that he's found me on google and that it was 'dead fucking easy' to find me

Did he use your mobile number you use for work, or was his call on your private mobile?

Worst case, could it be an existing male patient of yours?

I'd suggest you never see a male patient alone from now on.

BlankTimes · 03/10/2021 19:53

Crossposted Spidey66

lannistunut · 03/10/2021 19:53

I agree with the consensus saying report it.

heathspeedwell · 03/10/2021 19:53

Report.

It's just possible that the police will follow this up in the current climate. And if they don't then make a noise and keep on making a noise until they do follow it up.

Women are 51% of the population, it's about time the police started to listen to us.

Come back and post here any time you need support.

Newmum29 · 03/10/2021 19:53

No chance you’re overreacting. What a prick. Definitely report. Unless he was using a burner phone it should be easy to track.

escapeyou · 03/10/2021 19:53

Definitely report it OP.

Orangecrisp · 03/10/2021 19:54

Please report. I doubt it is an isolate crime. The same happened to me as a teenager and it turned out I was one of several. He was jailed for two years.

BuffyFanForever · 03/10/2021 19:56

Absolutely report!

FWBNC · 03/10/2021 19:59

I hope you're busy reporting him.

Not that it would be ok either, but it's not like he's just rung some random number, he used your name & said you were easy to find.

As others have said, please be very careful with your bookings, let DH know where to find a list of people (& addresses) you're seeing each day & when you expect to be home etc.

Take care x

Miracle29 · 03/10/2021 20:00

Yes I'd report it. There's a chance he's probably done it before and if he has and it's been reported before the police will take it seriously and might know exactly who it is.

DukeofEarlGrey · 03/10/2021 20:00

Report for your own sake and others.

DrGoogleSaysSo · 03/10/2021 20:01

Report, report, report. Pervs like him think they can get away with things like this and then they'll escalate to more serious offences. Hope that everyone contacted by him, reports this sick perv.

CruCru · 03/10/2021 20:01

Yes, report it. Apart from anything else, he may do this to a far more vulnerable woman or a very young girl.

BurntO · 03/10/2021 20:03

I beg you to report. It sounds like you’re dealing with it ok but someone else very well may not and they WILL do it again. In time I suspect you’ll reach peak anger and will regret not reporting them. Flowers

ClemDanFango · 03/10/2021 20:05

I had this years ago. Some creep called me pretending to be an Ann Summers sales rep he proceeded to ask me what colour knickers I had on and if I wear peep hole bras. He was giving it the heavy breathing and all that crap. When I challenged him he got spooked and put the phone down. The prick withheld his number so the police said there was nothing they could do.

TartanJumper · 03/10/2021 20:06

Echoing everyone else.
He's a creep, and he will probably escalate if not stopped.

EastWestWhosBest · 03/10/2021 20:07

Sorry this happened to you op. I can see why you don’t want to report, but please do.

deeplyambivalent · 03/10/2021 20:08

I'm your position I wouldn't rest until the police had got the fucker's name and address, OP. Gives me the rage.