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Obscene voicemail would I BU to report it? TMI warning.

278 replies

tinnedpears · 03/10/2021 19:05

So there were three missed calls on my mobile, and a voicemail.

Picked up the voicemail and much to my surprise was treated to a couple of minutes of some saddo wanking.

Amongst the groaning, he called me by my name and informed me that he's found me on google and that it was 'dead fucking easy' to find me. Said he was hoping I'd return his call. I'm a self employed physio, so someone wanting to find me on google would do so really easily.

He didn't bother withholding his number. Should I report him do you think, or just laugh it off?

OP posts:
pollymere · 04/10/2021 21:08

You need to report it to the police. Otherwise things will get worse.

InTheEndItDoesntEvenMatter · 04/10/2021 21:09

Definitely report. A friend report unsolicited dick pics and filthy texts and police took it very seriously!

my8thMNusername · 04/10/2021 21:10

Hope you're okay. I had an obscene phone call through work a few months ago and it was traumatising.

Please report. Many of the sicko 'men' who went on to commit heinous crimes started with 'peeping Tom' offences.

Jengadreads · 04/10/2021 21:18

I’ve just clicked on the “YANBU” which was 98% votes. those 2% who clicked on “YABU” need their head checked. This is 2021 NO FEMALE DESERVES TO BE A SEXUAL OBJECT. Please go talk to someone about your health unhealthy thought process, seriously

Jengadreads · 04/10/2021 21:20

I made incorrect grammar with my rage 😤 sorry

LorenzoVonMatterhorn · 04/10/2021 21:20

Yabu could have clicked yabu to even ask. As in of course report it.

Fluffmum · 04/10/2021 21:20

Report him please. He could be a danger

Tigger1895 · 04/10/2021 21:28

Don’t block but don’t answer, if he continues to do it it’ll be another nail in his coffin.

AnnieSnap · 04/10/2021 21:29

A professional woman being contacting like this from someone who may likely be a patient, with the evidence of his number (which the Police can trace to a person with a few clicks of a keyboard as far as I know) and the voicemail, I think it’s likely the Police would do something. I’m also an allied health professional and no doubt like you, have met and treated hundreds (probably into the thousands after a 30 year + career) of male patients.

I don’t want to frighten you, but this this man didn’t go for a random woman, he may have quite an interest in you. If it was me, I would take the evidence you gave and report it at the drop of the hat.

leeds2glasgow · 04/10/2021 22:07

Wouldn't bother.s I got flashed at by my next door neighbour yesterday 🤷‍♀️

Fernticket · 04/10/2021 22:11

Please report him OP.

rrhuth · 04/10/2021 22:18

@leeds2glasgow

Wouldn't bother.s I got flashed at by my next door neighbour yesterday 🤷‍♀️
Oh that's horrid too - are you reporting that? Sorry this happened to you.
Twinkled · 04/10/2021 22:23

Please report him . You are certainly not over reacting .

Cakeandcoffeea · 05/10/2021 07:04

With the things going on in the world you need to report it. How do you know he won’t knock on your door next?? X

Loujayy · 05/10/2021 07:45

Omg, not even something to consider....report report report.
I hope you are okay 🙏🏽

Lindylindyloo · 05/10/2021 08:12

Report it

OverweightPidgeon · 05/10/2021 08:23

It worries me that in this day and age women are still unsure what is acceptable behaviour, we need to condition ourselves that we are not objects to be abused and we should not be subjected to sexual harassment , we should not second guess ourselves.
Would this sicko do this to a man ? Of course not .
Report ANY abuse , call out ANY man who thinks it’s ok to do anything that makes you uncomfortable, whether it’s verbal or physical. Don’t sit quietly and accept what we have been conditioned to do.
This is NOT ok, at ALL, EVER.

kierenthecommunity · 05/10/2021 08:23

Good for you for reporting Smile

Best case scenario is the number is either known on police systems, or a subscriber check can be done to identify the caller

Worse case it’s is a PAYG burner phone, but at least it can be registered as a number of interest and he may trip himself up later. Then this can be used as back up evidence.

Please don’t delete the phone log/message or block him until the police have gathered what they need as it may remove the evidence.

NHRN · 05/10/2021 08:57

If we are to stop misogynistic intimidation by men every incident needs to be reported until we are listened to and its stopped
please report it

BBCdramaaddict · 05/10/2021 09:50

Is this a joke? Your wondering if you should report it?? Of course. I can’t believe you even need to ask.

ChelleMum85 · 05/10/2021 09:54

Report it before he does it to a child.

user1490954378 · 05/10/2021 10:58

Sorry I'm late to the discussion but definitely report. Make a written note of the number he called from and then block him. Don't message him or call him back. Can you remove your name from your public details for your business, and just have a generic 'call our staff now to arrange a consultation or a friendly chat to discuss options' ? Or would that not be an option? He's obviously a complete dickhead, and although women shouldn't have to make these sorts of adjustments, unfortunately if perverts can put a specific name and identity to a public phone number, they will (often) do this sort of shitty stuff. The thing is, you never know if it's a one-off (so to speak...) or if they are planning on further harassing, or stalking. So it's important to take all the action that you can to put a stop to it. (I was a victim of it myself, a good few years ago).

user1490954378 · 05/10/2021 11:00

Also don't delete the message until Poluce have investigated, that might mean not yet blocking him. It's important to have the proof of what he did. Sad little twat that he is.

Crystal8559 · 05/10/2021 14:05

Please report him op! Please let us know you’re ok, this is very worrying.

Catscatsandmorecats · 05/10/2021 18:58

@tinnedpears I hope you managed to get through the 101 online thing and report it. It is really important, this explains why from a criminologist: www.elizabethyardley.com/blog-1/no-contact-no-harm-not-in-the-case-of-libby-squire