Dropping out of wedding last minute

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Wedding booked for next weekend, save the dates went out last year and invitations 2 months ago.

Wedding taking place is brides home town, lots of Londoners travelling down.

A group of 6 RSVP'd yes but did not book accommodation until this week and there is nothing left so now can't make it.

Caterers paid etc, bride annoyed.

Who is BU? Guests or bride?

Guests

Guests

Guests.

Guests

Guests

Guests without question

Although the invitations should have gone out sooner than two months ago.

Guests

Which are you, OP?

Guests obviously. I would have been furious. Depending on costs per head and the venue, that's could be £600+ the couple are paying for absolutely no reason, just because the guests couldn't be bothered to organise themselves in time.

Guests. But surely the bride has a local reserve list?

Guests are being unreasonable. Hopefully the couple can find six other people to come!

(We had this but at least it was illness. Old school friends of DH didn't mind the last minute invite!)

Assume you’re the bride, of course the guests are in the wrong. People are much more likely to rsvp yes but not turn up these days.

Imo the guests should have sorted their accommodation as soon as they answered yes.
Have the bride and groom not got any family with spare rooms?

Guests are absolutely the twats here. That has probably cost a minimum of £300-500 for the bride and groom. If it was down to illness or something it's different. This is down to them being unorganised.

@MardyBra I'm the bride. I thought 6 weeks was standard but we sent them out a few weeks sooner but maybe should have gone earlier.

Guests.
But invitations are very late.

Guests are unreasonable but bride should expect it to happen. It happens in virtually every wedding... but that doesn't mean it's okay... people get murdered everyday that's not okay either.

Guests.

Surely there is some accommodation nearby even if not in home town. Maybe guests can get an uber after the wedding to their Airbnb/Hotel? Split by 6 shouldn’t cost too much!

I guess as long as the guests who received save the dates knew they would definitely be invited but that it would be only two months before, the timescale is fine.

Guests are obviously the unreasonable ones though! You book the room straight away surely?

The guests are unreasonable. But that's late for the invites.

Guests are daft not to book something but the invitations were late.

Guests are unreasonable, but invites were very late given the circumstances, unless you had been very clear with all attendees that they were still invited.

My friend could only guarantee me a spot about six weeks before his wedding, and only my DH the day before, and that was two weeks ago. Accommodation was in the high three figures for rooms 10-15 miles away, and it was six weeks before the wedding too.

Especially since the guests presumably had a little time to RSVP?

Save the date, and then two month to go invites does not make the no shows the brides fault. It’s a lot of notice.

Guests.

I think 2 months for an invite is fine as save the dates went out. They should have booked somewhere the moment they got the invite.