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Dropping out of wedding last minute

150 replies

weddingwedding · 02/10/2021 18:48

Wedding booked for next weekend, save the dates went out last year and invitations 2 months ago.

Wedding taking place is brides home town, lots of Londoners travelling down.

A group of 6 RSVP'd yes but did not book accommodation until this week and there is nothing left so now can't make it.

Caterers paid etc, bride annoyed.

Who is BU? Guests or bride?

OP posts:
SpiderinaWingMirror · 02/10/2021 19:42

Poor of the guests.

HollowTalk · 02/10/2021 19:43

The guests are really unreasonable and very rude.

Cakeandcardio · 02/10/2021 19:44

Guests are in the wrong and invitations are not late - correct time frame is 6 weeks.

whichiswitch · 02/10/2021 19:44

Definitely the guests.

AliceW89 · 02/10/2021 19:47

Assuming you specified the location on the save the date card, ie gave them a whole year to book accommodation and not just 8 weeks, then the guests are completely unreasonable. I hope your day goes well otherwise x

Loudestcat14 · 02/10/2021 19:47

OP, did you send hotel recommendations with the Save The Date or only with the official invites? If it was only the latter, that might explain why they can't find anywhere at short notice – eight weeks is barely any time at all. If it was the former, I can see why you're annoyed.

TatianaBis · 02/10/2021 19:50

If they'd tried to book when the invites went out and it was fully booked then, it would the bride's fault, but if they didn't try to book until this week it's entirely their fault.

Tilltheend99 · 02/10/2021 19:51

@AdriannaP

Guests.

Surely there is some accommodation nearby even if not in home town. Maybe guests can get an uber after the wedding to their Airbnb/Hotel? Split by 6 shouldn’t cost too much!

Agree with this.

I’ve gotten the train back from London/near London wedding’s in the past. Although my friend did fall asleep on his the train and wake up at the last stop.

PheasantsNest · 02/10/2021 19:52

Very late invitations. I would have sent them sooner.

Notonthestairs · 02/10/2021 19:52

Why are people quibbling about when the invitations went out - the guests only tried booking accommodation this week for a wedding next week!

LIZS · 02/10/2021 19:54

We rarely book more than a few weeks ahead, even in peak season. However having accepted an invitation would do so straight away.

RandomUsernameHere · 02/10/2021 19:55

Guests. In that position I'd not drink and either drive home or drive/get a taxi to the nearest available accommodation.

HestersSamplerofCarrots · 02/10/2021 19:57

Guests. They should have sorted accommodation as soon as invites received.

(But for a wedding where people need to travel and book accommodation, especially at the moment with COVID, I’d have sent invitations much sooner than 2 months notice because accommodation is at such a premium at the moment.)

Mummyme87 · 02/10/2021 20:01

Guests!!!! I just got married 6weeks ago and last minute drop outs without genuine reason, ie. illness, bereavement etc make me so mad. You have already paid for their place at your wedding which could easily be at least £100 per guest and is usually none refundable. Plus the pain of table plans, already done and potentially submitted to venue/caterers

MarleneDietrichsSmile · 02/10/2021 20:02

I would not have booked accommodation way in advance, we’re still in a pandemic and everything is still uncertain

Why can’t they stay a bit further afield btw? In the next town?

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 02/10/2021 20:03

Boris Johnson, he mucks everything up, and this is a prime example.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 02/10/2021 20:07

I would say guests as well, depending on why they didn't book until last week.
Did they maybe look and things were available but they had to wait until they had the money to book then found all the accommodation gone?

Twillow · 02/10/2021 20:13

Wedding invites usually go out months and months before, not 6 weeks.
If they were really bothered, they'd organise a train/taxi back to London which would cost less than the accommodation, unless you're talking Cornwall or something.

DDindistress · 02/10/2021 20:14

Traditionally the invites are not late however with covid and everything going on they are late. Another massive problem at the moment is that not many people are going abroad so even booking holdays in the UK is a nightmare now if you are not really organised.

Disfordarkchocolate · 02/10/2021 20:14

Guests. Bloody cheeky.

escapeyou · 02/10/2021 20:16

Guests.

I can’t believe they have zero options to attend from an air B and B to a bed and breakfast or a hotel further out and using taxis or driving/sharing.

sbhydrogen · 02/10/2021 20:23

How far is your hometown? Is it possible that one of them could drive the rest?

It's totally their fault, too.

CyclingIsNotOuting · 02/10/2021 20:23

Have you actually taken a look to see what’s available?
Sounds to me like they can’t be arsed.

ApplesAreTheBaneOfMyLife · 02/10/2021 20:24

Guests. They should have booked something (that could also be cancelled if need be) some time ago,

In their shoes I would come and not drink so that I could drive home or somewhere else afterwards. Not to come is very rude.

whynotwhatknot · 02/10/2021 20:24

doesnt really matter when the invites were sent out they still didnt book straight away did they

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