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Are we hopelessly naive? (Neighbour issue)

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Mightysquirrel · 02/10/2021 13:27

My friend has lived in her house for about a decade and has a friendly relationship with the couple next door. They're not close but they wave and chat if their paths cross. She recently shared her phone number and email with the man of the couple. A few days ago she got a text from him asking if she'd seen his email. So she read his email, he asked for her help with something he called "My life as a pet". She replied saying she'd be happy to help but what did he mean? I'll tell you his reply if anyone's interested but first:

YABU - Were you born yesterday?
YANBU - Maybe he's writing a children's book? (My friend's in publishing)

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Mightysquirrel · 02/10/2021 15:01

@Alcemeg

Him naked on all fours wearing a studded leather collar, licking from a dog bowl on the floor.

His wife made him do this as part of his humiliation.

Or maybe I spent too long living in Brighton. 🤣

Stop it! Envynot envy
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burritofan · 02/10/2021 15:01

Men are so gross.

Alcemeg · 02/10/2021 15:02

His wife might be the true weirdo here. If he gets off on being dominated, she might have pushed him to ahem "expose himself" as it were, like this, to others, as part of his humiliation.

Honestly some people are nuts.

Viviennemary · 02/10/2021 15:02

He is the boy in that weird kids TV programme when a boy sometimes turned into a dog.

Bagelsandbrie · 02/10/2021 15:03

She needs to print off the email and nail it to their front door.

thistimelastweek · 02/10/2021 15:03

Missing the point I know, but I've always wanted a cellar.

And a roof garden.

Alcemeg · 02/10/2021 15:03

To be honest it might be a good idea to take him up on the offer, then lock him in there and forget about him. Problem sorted.

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Mightysquirrel · 02/10/2021 15:08

@Standrewsschool

Shock

Maybe ‘My life as a pet’ is code for this of thing, in the same way that inviting someone in for coffee, doesn’t mean just coffee... .

What makes him think that, having lived next door to her for ten years, she will indulge in this. Has she suddenly planted pampas grass or something?

Hmm. I planted some ornamental grass this summer. But yeah, there is nothing about my friend that could possibly say she might be interested in this kind of thing. She says it's been very quiet over there this week. Maybe his wife is away.
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ifIwerenotanandroid · 02/10/2021 15:08

This thread seems so normal after some I've been reading.Grin

But really, yuk. I wouldn't feel happy living there, even if it was never mentoned again.

EspressoDoubleShot · 02/10/2021 15:09

Ok I think he wants to be a human pet, eg he’s sub so collar, cage bowl

lydia2021 · 02/10/2021 15:10

I must be a rarity. Would never ever be pally with couples unless it's just a wave, and saying Good morning. Experience has taught me, a trio, doesnt work.

Wondergirl100 · 02/10/2021 15:19

I would report him to the police. Without a second thought.

Wondergirl100 · 02/10/2021 15:21

This is equivalent to flashing someone - he is pushing at her boundaries. He has leapt quickly to something v inappropriate - it's a very bad sign - he may next attempt to actually touch her/ move in on her -

Please do not let your friend just ignore this. This is how men begin their journeys to being sex abusers and rapists.

SGChome20 · 02/10/2021 15:24

@Wondergirl100

I would report him to the police. Without a second thought.
What do you expect the police to do?? Sounds like him and possibly the wife have a kink that isn’t ‘mainstream’ so what! Admittedly it’s maybe not the best idea asking the neighbour as it’s hard to avoid them if you don’t get the answer you want but unless they continue to harass your friend then no harm done really is there. Generally people in the kink world respect peoples boundaries more than mainstream, that’s been my experience at least.
BSideBaby · 02/10/2021 15:25

The horrible thing is, he's probably been living out this fantasy in his head for years. I wonder if his wife has finally had enough and he's now looking for a new outlet? It might seem 'out of the blue' for your friend OP but the neighbour could very well have been 'including' her for a while.

Bounce55 · 02/10/2021 15:26

Eeeeewww at the update

That's put me right off my Muller Corner........

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Mightysquirrel · 02/10/2021 15:37

@Wondergirl100

This is equivalent to flashing someone - he is pushing at her boundaries. He has leapt quickly to something v inappropriate - it's a very bad sign - he may next attempt to actually touch her/ move in on her -

Please do not let your friend just ignore this. This is how men begin their journeys to being sex abusers and rapists.

Yeah, this occurred to me. I'm at a remove from this because he didn't ask me. But I immediately assumed it was something innocent. I felt like a fool for doing that. Eww. It does feel similar to being flashed. If he steps it up she says she'll absolutely call the police.
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TheOrigRights · 02/10/2021 15:38

Maybe ‘My life as a pet’ is code for this of thing, in the same way that inviting someone in for coffee, doesn’t mean just coffee

WHAT?
What does it mean if I invite someone in for a coffee?

Is tea OK?

I have the phone numbers of 5 of my immediate 7 neighbours.
We don't have cellars so I think I'm OK Grin

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Mightysquirrel · 02/10/2021 15:38

@BSideBaby

The horrible thing is, he's probably been living out this fantasy in his head for years. I wonder if his wife has finally had enough and he's now looking for a new outlet? It might seem 'out of the blue' for your friend OP but the neighbour could very well have been 'including' her for a while.
I know! It's so disgusting.
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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 02/10/2021 15:43

You should ensure that he has been neutered...

Standrewsschool · 02/10/2021 15:45

@TheOrigRights

Maybe ‘My life as a pet’ is code for this of thing, in the same way that inviting someone in for coffee, doesn’t mean just coffee

WHAT?
What does it mean if I invite someone in for a coffee?

Is tea OK?

I have the phone numbers of 5 of my immediate 7 neighbours.
We don't have cellars so I think I'm OK Grin

Inviting someone in for coffee after a date can mean they want to get intimate with you.
Rogue1001 · 02/10/2021 15:46

🤢🤢🤢🤢

But enjoying the nueter suggestions

Rogue1001 · 02/10/2021 15:49

Agree with every word @SquishySquirmy

And @Standrewsschool the key words in your sentence are after a date

anappleadaykeeps · 02/10/2021 15:53

OP writes: "Hmm. I planted some ornamental grass this summer."

I think you may have (very accidentally) given out the wrong message ...

billy1966 · 02/10/2021 15:53

😳

Lord but I am very naive 🙄

Never heard of this.

I would be so pissed off at this.

I would suggest she hand the correspondence to his wife and tell him if he so much as looks at her sideways again, she will report him for harassment.

That would piss me off no end.