Are we hopelessly naive? (Neighbour issue)

[Mightysquirrel]

My friend has lived in her house for about a decade and has a friendly relationship with the couple next door. They're not close but they wave and chat if their paths cross. She recently shared her phone number and email with the man of the couple. A few days ago she got a text from him asking if she'd seen his email. So she read his email, he asked for her help with something he called "My life as a pet". She replied saying she'd be happy to help but what did he mean? I'll tell you his reply if anyone's interested but first:

YABU - Were you born yesterday?
YANBU - Maybe he's writing a children's book? (My friend's in publishing)

It's sad to see some of the comments on here, especially with all the high profile murders of innocent women recently. We deserve to feel safe and the behaviour this man displayed is vile, wrong and he needs some consequences! I'd certainly not hesitate to contact the police if I was her.
When I was a 21 year old single mum, I moved to a new area for a fresh start after a abusive relationship and was feeling lonely and vulnerable. I spoke to the man who lived in my block quite regularly. He was nice, friendly and down to earth and had live there a long time. He was a single dad to a child similar age to my child and he suggested we took them out one time. I gave him my number as I liked the idea of having a friend and my child having a little friend too. He never indicated anything more than friendship and I had briefly explained my situation and how I had no interest in anything other than my child and putting my life back together. Later that day he messaged me about a soft play area near by and very quickly the messages turned very sexual on he's behalf, including asking if I liked giving blow jobs, if I took it up the arse and whether I had toys. I was absolutely mortified and incredibly upset and uncomfortable and told him this and he had the cheek to try to turn it around on me as if I'd lead him on and insisted that because he was so open about being a sleeze, that it was somewhat ok. It really affected me and made me question myself. It's taken nearly 13 years for me to finally realise I did absolutely nothing wrong to deserve that. I later found out he was known as 'pervy dave' and had a reputation for being a creep!!

While kinks aren’t illegal, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with them between two consenting adults, the OP’s Neighbour was not a consenting participant in this, and receiving an unsolicited email of this nature is not about the kink at all, it is about this man sending unwanted pornographic material. This IS illegal. It’s harrassment.!

MilesofSand
I loaned my friend my copy of The Gift of Fear, she gave it back to me but I don't know where I put it. I highly recommend it too. Everyone should read it, especially young women.

That's awful lolly

@Mightysquirrel

MilesofSand I loaned my friend my copy of The Gift of Fear, she gave it back to me but I don't know where I put it. I highly recommend it too. Everyone should read it, especially young women.

That's awful lolly

I agree, it’s definitely a book to be shared!

I’m going to read it and see if my daughters are ready for it (or maybe a potted version)

@Mightysquirrel
@MilesOfSand

You are right about "THE GIFT OF FEAR"...Fascinating book...I've learnt so much and I've only read the first chapter....