To have asked DH to buy my youknows?

[FrankieDobie]

Is it unreasonable able to ask a man to buy youknows when they are going out to the shop anyway? It’s not an extra trip, to buy whilst already there?

It's ridiculous it's angered people that you've called it youknows, but you're a grown woman lol, it's a bit juvenile.. It's OK to call them tampons.
And no its not unreasonable to expect or ask your husband to buy them.

YABVU not calling them by their actual name. They shouldn’t be something to be embarrassed about. Are you embarrassed buying toilet roll?

YABU using the word youknows if you mean tampons or pads.

He probably doesn’t understand what you mean, he’s going to look a right idiot asking a shop assistant can you tell me where the youknows are please

Cringy that you can't just say tampon or towel.

Do you call your vulva a cutesy term like daisy ?

@BananaPB

Cringy that you can't just say tampon or towel.

Do you call your vulva a cutesy term like daisy ?

Flower or foof is my bet! 🤣

If you are in a relationship with someone and even more so married I can't imagine why anyone would even think twice about asking them to pick up sanitary products.

Calling them youknows is childish and old fashioned, and most people won't even know what it means.

It is unfortunate that some of us grew up in households where periods and anything like it were almost a taboo subject.
My own Mum never once spoke to me about periods Not once. I presume she know I've started them now as I'm 45 and have two teenage daughters (who are growing up knowing about periods, sex, and everything else using the correct terminology!).
On the rare occasion I ever heard either my Mum or Gran referring to periods, it was called "the usuals" or even "haemorrhage" (alarming!).
So wrong, and PPs are right, it obviously comes from a place of shame and embarrassment at being a woman. That's the main reason I never told my Mum I had started my periods, its a good thing we had reasonable sex education at school otherwise I might have been like "Carrie" and thought I was dying!
To be fair though, I don't and have never blamed my Mum, Gran or anyone. It's a result of their own upbringing.
All we can do is try to be transparent, honest, factual and approachable with our own daughters (and sons), and not perpetuate any sort of shame when it comes to natural bodily functions.

'youknows' PMSL!

How old are you @FrankieDobie 12?

@FrankieDobie

Wow so much anger over a simple word! 😳 my mum always called them that so I’ve grown up calling them that, sorry!

It’s just like DH was brought up calling his glasses his gogs. And my stepdad calls the tv remote the dofer

I think there is a difference though. Gogs and dofer are just jokey slang terms, youknows is being used as a euphemism and implies there is something embarrassing or shameful about the real word - and therefore about menstruation.

Once I borrowed a sanitary towel off someone's mum - we're talking 50 years ago mind - and even then I was bemused that she double wrapped it in brown paper bags and told me to hide it under my cardigan. We were in the same house.

Youknows might be what you and your mum have always called them - but it sends a message.

I think that @FrankieDobie has got the message that in future give things their proper names if she wants people to understand her ( and not completely derail the thread )
I want to know if it was her DP /DH / DS or a random man she asked to buy them

Many years ago ( when I was around 10 yrs old ) whenever we went to my DGPs my DGDad would ask me to go to the corner shop and get me a pack of 10 he was asking for 10 Bensons and I knew this.
Years later I went with my fairly new BF , GGDad asked me again , My BF went crimson and stuttered What ! ?
We set of to the shop together and my BF asked why on earth has your granddad ask you to buy his condoms ?

It just shows what he was thinking about , not that I was complaining

A good nudge to give reusable sanitary pads / mooncups / period knickers a try, if you are able to.

Then you (nor he) need never buy them ever again!

Ask him to buy youknows to go you-know-where for you-know-what at you-know-time

@RVN123 i grew up in a household with the same views.

As a child I was not allowed to talk about periods. My mother made fun of me over mine. Saying the words period, pregnant or to talk about someone being pregnant was prohibited as was sex in any way. Also mentioning anyone getting married more than once or even getting married at all, or loving someone was not allowed.

Op, I understand your reasoning but it's OK to call them towels, tampons or just pads.

Gross. YABU to say you knows - I hope you don’t have a daughter!

The way I see it is if you are mature enough to have sex with a woman you should be mature enough to accept that periods are a thing and not have a problem with picking them up in a supermarket!

@KaptainKaveman

You showed him a picture? how hilarious!

Dh gets them sometimes for the dds. Why are you embarrassed about it OP? do you pass your innate sense of shame onto your dc as well?

This quite sensible given the different types.

@TracyLords

If I asked DH to buy me some “you knows” he’d probably buy me some donuts

Win as long as you already have enough sanitary products!

I sent DH out at 6am once when I came on unexpectedly in a hotel and posed the sheets .

He was perfectly fine buying tampons, he was less fine with being woken up at 6am and told to rush out to the shop on our child free weekend away. But he did it anyway, because what else could we do?

Flooded the sheets**

If I asked him to my DH would make a special trip to fetch tampons or towels for me. He'd want me to specify exactly which sort though - preferably give him an empty wrapper to compare in the shop.
If you are too embarrassed to say "tampons" online though you shouldn't be surprised when he is too embarrassed to go and buy them for you.

To be fair if you can't even say the word then it's entirely reasonable for him to also be embarrassed to buy them.

In the normal grown up world however, a man that won't buy them is pretty pathetic

@EllieSattler

We can say tampons/sanitary towels on MN, I presume that's what you mean?

If you mean dildos I can see why that might be awkward for him.

You're fine OP, your partner should be undramatic about adding sanitary towels or tampons to the list. Mine does it, even knows the exact brand I prefer.

OH buys them when I ask with no issues. Sometimes even without asking if I just tell him my period came/is due and he thinks I might be low. He also buys painkillers and treats unprompted. I do talk about periods quite freely though, and name sanitary products by their actual name.

My DM taught me that farting was called "passing a poppity". I did adapt pretty quickly when I started school and found out the reaction of the other children to me saying it. Thanks mum!

Mine buys them for me when he does the shop. I’ve never asked him to, he noticed I was low one day and has done this ever since - he gets a bundle every few weeks in case I’ve forgot 😂