A whole new level of mansplaining

[RocketPanda]

I am having treatment for cancer at the moment, it's hard going but I'm feeling pretty fine in between sessions. I'm wfh and pop into the office once a fortnight.
I went in quite early yesterday, first to arrive and was just settling down when a colleague came in. He quipped that I was up early and I replied that no hair makes showering quicker and laughed.
He put in a complaint that I'm not taking my cancer treatment seriously. An actual complaint. Poor HR had to ring me about it. He told them he is concerned that I don't understand the side effects.

A few years ago, my best friend had terminal cancer. I used to call her "dead girl walking", which she thought was great. When she called me one day & I called her that, my then boyfriend was absolutely horrified - he always referred to her in a hushed voice as though she was already dead.

Just when you think twatty men cant set the bar any lower..........

@RocketPanda

I'm not going to bother with a counter complaint. But I'm not going to make this a secret either.

I like that response. I hope all your colleagues start checking in with him whether they're handling their colds/headaches/period pains/pregnancies/eczema/acne/sprained fingers with appropriate seriousness.

Shocking behaviour by a supposedly grown up professional, what an idiot.
Sending you lots of luck and very best wishes in your fight against cancer, I hope all goes well for you

Your cancer, your jokes.

My DW had her own black humour when she was undergoing treatment was bald etc. Perhaps others around her noticed, maybe they didn’t - but they didn’t comment.

I wonder if he’s been affected by others having cancer in the past? No excuse though. All a bit weird.

Not unrelated…..
I’m sorry if you are having to go into work during chemo if you’d rather be at home recuperating. Some companies, some sick pay schemes are shit.

Hope all goes well.

" I hope all your colleagues start checking in with him whether they're handling their colds/headaches/period pains/pregnancies/eczema/acne/sprained fingers with appropriate seriousness."

OMG, that would be AMAZING @2Two!
Going up to him and asking him what level of seriousness he considers appropriate for their condition - hilarious!!

Leave the definition of 'dark humour' on his desk, alongside the definition of 'patronising'.

I hope your treatment goes well.

To be honest, I think you should be more angry with your HR Dept. They should have dealt with this far better. How fecking insensitive to pass on this information in this way to you!! They should have said 'Bob said he saw you in the office the other day and you seemed in good spirits - how are you, is there anything we can do for you?'

I'd like to think that the person 'complaining' came from a place of genuine concern for you. In anyone's books, you are clearly ECV. And, who knows, maybe he's witnessed someone close suffering from the side affects of cancer treatment and was a bit shocked to hear you joke about it. That's entirely your right. You cope the way that best suits you but I'm disgusted how your HR Dept has dealt with this.

Wtaf I wrong with that twat?!