to ask you what made you stop being friends with someone?

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she had a hidden camera recording in a bedroom she offered me to sleep in at her house on a visit, I made comments about her on a phone call while in the bedroom. she wrote a WhatsApp status about it and I blocked her. That's how it ended for us

You?

My best friend of 20+ years stopped engaging with me when I told her I'd broken up with my ex of 18 years, who was basically a cock lodger and emotionally distant. Then unfriended me on SM when I found a new man who absolutely worships me. We are like 2 peas. He had his baggage-which she disapproved of-but life doesn't always go the way we want. In my eyes, she liked it when I wasn't happy and when I was happy she no longer wanted to know. We've been civil the few times we've seen each other, but I could never go back to proper friends now.

Now 7 weeks happily married :)

I have 2, one I visited her regularly taking two trains to go and see her including while heavily pregnant when I had my daughter and had a birth injury and PND she planned several trips to see me but then cancel at the last minute. I realised I had always made the effort and blocked her.

Second one I’m still upset about I looked after a friends child over lockdown daily and now she no longer needs me she is bothered with me anymore. Completely awkward as we live opposite each other.

One friend who lashed out at me when I tried to wake them. Ended the friendship on the spot.

Another who insisted that despite his 6 figure household income he was working class. He’d been weird for a while, I’d tolerated quite a lot of inappropriate behaviour toward me, but I lost my shit at that. He compared himself to a bin man and I shouted (in a naice bar) “bin men think you’re a prick”

She decided the reason I left my ex husband ( who happened to be her husband's best friend) was because I was having a breakdown- not because he was emotionally abusive, controlling and cheated on me!
It was sad because we'd been friends since uni.

She also had this habit of treating me like a child and never acknowledged any of my achievements. So even though I remarried, had children, got my PhD, have a successful career she would still tell me I needed her to 'sort my life out'

I really started to distance myself when she needed some specific advice and support and instead of coming to me and DH, who happen to be specialists in that particular area, she paid someone else. We'd have done it for free - we regularly help friends and family out.

She said she wanted to use someone who was a real expert. I realised at that point she had no respect for me.

Most of mine naturally fizzed out because of life changes, however one was laughing as her son kept kicking me in the leg (he was 7). I said "Can you stop kicking me please, it hurts" and she started having a go at me about telling off her kid and not going through her (umm, hello you are sitting right there laughing at him doing it!)
Walked out of her house. Never spoke to her again. She was generally a Drama Queen so no big loss.

It's actually sad because we were such close friends. And although she was a bit of a drama queen and forever falling out with people, she was never like that with me.

She got pregnant and asked me to be the birth partner. But when she went into labour the father was there - not a problem at all, I was very glad he was involved and she was supported. But I was upset that she couldn't tell me before the day, and wondered if I'd overstepped at all (thinking back now I definitely didn't, she prob just kept me on standby in case he let her down.)
I still saw her often in the first year, I picked them up from the hospital to take them home, offered help and support. But each time we'd arrange to meet she'd cancel last minute - usually while I was on my way or about to leave. She was smoking a lot of weed with her cousins and would prefer to do that than hang out with me. After a while I stopped arranging things with her.
One time she asked me to go to her friends bday in a few months time and I said yes, but never heard anything else from her and forgot about it. By this point we weren't talking often and when I tried to tag her in something a couple of months later I realised she'd blocked me on fb.
I left it a while, but was upset at the loss of the friendship so eventually text her and we met up again, everything was good.
The next time I got blocked I'll admit was absolutely my fault. Once we started talking again she invited me to her sons birthday party (4th and the first one I'd been invited to), she invited me the week before and I said I'd go. I completely forgot!! I still feel awful, but in my defence I was pregnant and had bad baby brain. I went to my parents for lunch and remembered while I was there and text her straight away, very apologetic. I didn't get a response. A few days later at work I left a meeting I was hosting to use the loo then forgot to go back to the meeting and wondered why the office was so quiet. Realised my mistake after a few minutes and text my friend the example of how bad my baby brain was only to find I was blocked.
We made up and I got blocked a couple more times - no idea what for those times.
I was getting married and our other friend asked if I was inviting her, and I realised I couldn't be bothered with the drama. I previously would never have imagined getting married without her there, but I've never tried to contact her again.

I know that's a long and boring story. But I do often think of her and I don't have many close friends, so the loss hurt.

I'm sure if she told the story I probably abandoned her after she had a baby. She might even believe that.

Was friends with a couple who lived an hour away. Was always us going to them (2 or 3 times a month). The one time he visited our town for something he never came to see us, went to see a different friend instead. That hurt, especially as the other friend never visited them 😔

She came to stay and treated me and my home with contempt. All small things but it was like drip, drip, drip. Another resurrected an argument we’d had a year earlier and walked out when I wouldn’t get drawn into it again. A third made racist comments about other people.

I have been dropped rather then being the person doing the dropping.

A friend had joined into the recent social media fuss about not all men are like that. From the too many men perspective and we don't know which ones are safe perspective.

A few months before this she had NAMALTed me on one of my posts. Saying that it wasn't the men's fault and they were often the real victims.

So I commented on her post that she had said "not all men" to me.

She blocked me!

I haven’t ditched friends for many many years, but those i did ditch took drugs. No time for wasters like that.

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I was depressed and didn’t feel worthy of the friendship so stopped staying in contact rather than drag her down.

I can relate. At my worst I've let friendships slide due to my own issues and hangups. Nowadays I haven't the energy to navigate the unwritten rules of friendship groups any more, and I can use my neurodivergence as an excuse

Some awful stories here