to ask you what made you stop being friends with someone?

[BobbiPinsOn]

she had a hidden camera recording in a bedroom she offered me to sleep in at her house on a visit, I made comments about her on a phone call while in the bedroom. she wrote a WhatsApp status about it and I blocked her. That's how it ended for us

You?

She was controlling, but dressed it up as help, and I did need help at the time.
It got too much though, then the last straw was when she told me a huge secret about a mutual friend.
I was utterly horrified.
I told her to fuck off and ghosted her, to this day I don't think she knows why, or would understand what she did wrong.
The mutual friend is just a vague acquaintance now, but they are still friends.

Even thinking about her makes me angry.

A few times in my life, I've witnessed a friend deliberately making another friend/person feel or look bad in front of others. It has been an immediate death knell to our friendship.

When she complained that she took the less attractive guy for me as if the men didn’t choose for themselves. Gave our male roommate’s friend my phone number despite telling her I wasn’t interested in him several times. The male roommate and him then cornered me alone on our couch to ask why I wasn’t interested and then I was kicked out for refusing to pay extra rent after he or one of his friends stole my rent money because she left the money I gave her out in the open on the table. Those were the nails after four years of friendship. Found out from our mutual guy friend that she was jealous of me and had been spreading lies about me behind my back to others and they thought I knew (had no clue, but was always apprehensive about telling her anything because she couldn’t keep a secret to save her life) and that was why he and another guy friend were trying to talk me out of living with her again (we met as college roommates).

Called her 3 year old son sexy in front of my 3 year old daughter. Game over

Not sure where to start with the last friend l binned!
-pulling out of a concert with days to go. Refused to pay for her or her husbands ticket and wouldn’t help me sell them. To add extra insult to injury her husband then went with other friends
-expected me to make all the running in our relationship and she make zero effort e.g. wanted me to make 230 miles trips, leaving at 5am (not for a special occasion just because it was convenient for her)
-tactless and bitchy about my fertility issues. I mentioned the fertility drugs made me feel nauseous and tired. She replies l still feel worse as lm busy with 2 under 3

Constantly putting other people down, and being an all round nasty person. Never ever had anything nice to say about anyone. Sadly, I had two different friends like this. One ended up shunned by a lot of people after they found out how two faced she was.

Another was someone who had depression, but I had to step away for the sake of my own mental health. They never helped themselves, or would accept that their mental health was their responsibility. That, and the constant FB posts about how shit their life was.

Very simplified story: Moaned to me about how awful her (not awful) life was every day for 18 months and then accused me of not being sympathetic when I didn’t agree with her that her (long suffering) husband was a twat.

Decided I’d had enough of being treated like a mug.

I offered to take a parcel in for her. It didn't arrive. She accused me of stealing it. Next day it arrived so I sent it back with driver saying I had never heard of the recipient.

She repeatedly let her young child hurt my young child. She didn't believe in getting him to say sorry or anything and said that he should be allowed to do it "because that's him expressing himself". Fuck that!

All he did was talk about money and never asked me a question about myself.

Too religious.

Too brexity.

Too inclined to park wrongly in disabled bays.

Too drunk.

Too thieving.

I've made some poor choices over the years. (I kind of wish it was the same person )

She asked to 'borrow' my DHs sperm to have a baby.

@alwayswrighty

Usually when they get pregnant- it's easier that way as I'm not great at feigning interest 🤣 oh god I'm terrible at feigning interest in children. Thankfully most of my friends kids are grown up.

😂😂😂😀 Most of my friends have older children and I didn't know the friends when they were pregnant or had toddlers.

@alwayswrighty

Usually when they get pregnant- it's easier that way as I'm not great at feigning interest 🤣 oh god I'm terrible at feigning interest in children. Thankfully most of my friends kids are grown up.

😂😂😂😀 Most of my friends have older children and I didn't know the friends when they were pregnant or had toddlers.

When I found out the extent of her tax dodging activities. I was horrified, especially as she proclaimed to be very left-wing.

Utter fucking hypocrite.

One beat me up and shagged my boyfriend
Both have come snivelling back and both got blocked

One mate was convinced that every bloke she came into contact with,fancied her
I was chatting innocently with one bloke who we worked with and she hit the roof
She claimed I was jealous of her and was trying to prove a point-‘stealing’ him away from her
Sod the fact I’m very happy with my partner and really don’t fancy this other fella at all
I ghosted her-I can’t be doing with the drama-last I heard she was claiming that my fella likes her and that’s why I buggered off

Another mate was really intense-always had to know what I was doing and always wanting to be round mine
Her daughter was a bully and my daughter was the target-I binned her off and then found she’d been stealing from me

Variously, trying to sleep with my long term bf, being psycho ( threatened to lock me in a cupboard), voting Brexit. Different people, sad to loose them all.

An ex friend came out as a full on nutter corbynite.

As I’ve got older I’ve let friendships go because:

1. Constant bitching and gossiping. The mantra be kind is a strong one worth living by. I can’t cope with constant nasty comments about others.

2. Expecting me to make all the effort. One friend I saw a lot of would always wait for me to text, me to organise, me to invite her. She’d not reply for days so I’d end up not sure if I was doing something or not. I just stopped doing all the running around. A few months after I stopped she sent a message asking what she’d done to upset me. Truthfully nothing, I just expect things to be a two way street of effort!

When her husband for ended the marriage because he had got involved in another woman, she was so critical of him and also the ow, and regularly bent my ear talking about it. Next thing you know, she is having a relationship with a married man with no regard for his wife. But for some reason, that was all ok in her head. ... My sympathy dried up.

I was depressed and didn’t feel worthy of the friendship so stopped staying in contact rather than drag her down.

I realised she had no interest in my life, never asked me anything, just talked about herself constantly.

Best friend for 25 years. She also just told me when she was visiting and I was expected to drop everything. She doesn’t invite me to here. If I phone she ignored my messages but phones when she wants something and will keep ringing me

"Accidentally" trapped a stray cat in her cellar for over a week with no food (luckily there was a leaky pipe, the cat survived, I took her, six months to recover), then lied to the school I volunteered at that I had badmouthed her daughter.

The daughter had been bullying my DD, she then spent 20 minutes ranting at the deputy head about how evil I was. She apparently wrote to the governors to demand my removal.

I cut her off. Soon after her DH was barred from the school grounds for grabbing a Year 5 boy by the throat and slamming him against a wall because he didn't get on with their equally unpleasant DS.

Five years later, we still have the cat and I work full-time at the school.

Too much drama doing my head in.