Asking boyfriend of 3 months for money .....

[kelsey44xxx]

Started seeing each other end of July.
Things are going well and we are "official"
Decided to book tickets for a concert next June and they were £130 each.
They fell before our payday so I said I will get them on my credit card and just pay it when the bill comes this month.
He said he would give me the money when he gets paid.

Anyway his pay day came last week and he never offered to pay.
My bill has came and I really don't want to get charged interest.

Aibu to ask him?
I've been dropping subtle hints like ...
Can't wait to see them live next year and
Just listening to this song ..can't wait for next year etc etc but zilch
Nothing

Stop hinting. He is not a mind reader. Just tell him.

He just forgot: i would have forgotten too

Well, I’m shy and hate awkward situations.

But this isn’t an awkward situation.

You agreed that you’d pay and he’d pay you back. How is that awkward?

He agreed to pay. He’s expecting you to ask for the money.

This really, really isn’t a big deal.

If you’re unable to negotiate something as simple as this, I’m not sure if you’re actually ready to be in an adult relationship. You are going to have to deal with way more complex things than asking for your half of the money for a concert, as time progresses.

Text him: My credit card bill is here and I need to pay it. Do you want my bank details or PayPal to pay for your 🎫 ?

Come on. He owes you money. He's either genuinely forgotten to reimburse you or he's hoping you are too shy to ask.

Why would you book tickets for almost a year later when you've been dating 2 months 🤔 that would creep me out if it happened to me

@kelsey44xxx

We became official in July but have been dating since beginning of June. I'm generally shy and hate awkward situations.

It's not awkward. It will send a positive message that you are going to pay your own way and expect him to do the same. A text is absolutely fine.

The awkward bit is spending that much on something so far in the future after only 2 months.

Why didn’t he buy them?
Why are British blokes so stingy?
I hear these stories again and again.

And you need to be able to be comfortable discussing money with him if it does last so now is a good time to start.

I sincerely hope you haven't sent him his ticket. Just text him and tell him he needs to pay you tonight as you have to pay your bill.

@Batshitkerazy

Why on earth wouldn’t you just ask him?

Yeah

If you know him well enough to call him your boyfriend, presumably have sex with him and make plans together for next year, then you really should be able to ask him to pay you back!!

Ask him directly, tell him your credit card needs to be paid and would like his ticket money, alternatively you could offer to pay as Birthday present or Christmas present?

I don't believe for a minute that he forgot to pay you back, sorry OP.

Stop with the hints and ask him straight. If he makes excuses, dump his stingy arse pronto.

Tbh the "subtle" hints might be putting them off a bit.. like why is she so obsessed with this band?

@Gilly12345

Ask him directly, tell him your credit card needs to be paid and would like his ticket money, alternatively you could offer to pay as Birthday present or Christmas present?

They've only been together 2 months that's a huge present!

@Saoirse82

This would be a red flag for me, it looks like he's dodging paying which I would find a massively unattractive trait. Just tell him you need to pay your bill. If he did this again I'd give him the boot, if you're dropping massive hints it's hard to imagine that he's just forgotten.

This

In previous relationships, I would always offer to pay my way and make sure that neither side was unbalanced financially.

Are you really sure he wanted you to book the tickets? Is there any chance he got swept along with you wanting to get tickets?

Tell him you need to pay the card, if he doesn’t transfer you the money then sell his to a friend.

So you’ve been seeing him two months, booked a show for nine months time and spent £260 of money you don’t have?
No wonder people get into financial difficulties, just don’t spend money you don’t have.

Text him your bank details and tell him you need the money transferred so you can pay your CC bill in full, as discussed. And don't give him the ticket until he does.

“Hi, my bill has come in so I need to get the balance cleared off before I get charged interest! Probably easier to transfer it straight to me, my bank details are etc etc etc. looking forward to seeing you on Friday blah blah blah”

Seriously, just ask him for it! Stop dropping childish hints and talk to him like an adult
Either he will immediately pay and it is sorted or he won’t and you have gained early information that you have snagged yourself a dickhead. Thus giving you the opportunity to dump him without wasting any further time on him

Win,win as far as I can see.

Come on. This is silly and you know it is.

Please transfer the £130 for your ticket to X, I really don't want to be charged interest on my credit card. My details are...

And if he doesn't send it, sell his ticket.

I'm generally shy and hate awkward situations.

How is this awkward. You agreed to go halves. He needs to be given your account details so he can pay his share.

Generally, though, if you hate asking for money, don't be the person who uses their credit card and/ or get them to pay you as soon as you have paid, so it's all sorted.