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Original poster

To think this guy leaving me money is so strange?

428 replies

brooksandvicki · 27/09/2021 17:32

Was out last night and met a guy, brought him home and had a one night stand. Had a good night and he left this morning, I then went to work. When I got home I noticed there is a twenty pound note on the side he was 'sleeping'. He obviously does not think I'm a prostitute but why in the hell would he leave that?

AIBU to think this is very very strange?

OP posts:
MistyFrequencies · 27/09/2021 18:03

@viques has it right. Only way forward.

KurtWilde · 27/09/2021 18:03

£20 wouldn't even get half an hour with a prostitute. He's either a complete twat or he took it out of his pocket and forgot he'd put it there. I'd definitely be asking him.

WandaVision2 · 27/09/2021 18:03

He’s a twat. Please do text him. Men need to be called out on shit like this

knittingaddict · 27/09/2021 18:03

He was sending a message and not a very nice one.

CatOfTheLand · 27/09/2021 18:04

I know (a wealthy) someone who does it because he thinks an honest woman would message and tell him. So it's to make sure you contact him and a test to see if you'll pocket the money.

Batshit though.

Just message and ask!

Gazelda · 27/09/2021 18:05

@StripeyBadger

Just acknowledging it to him will play into his ego. Ignore it and don’t see him again.
Yep.
LittleGwyneth · 27/09/2021 18:05

@Blossomtoes

He obviously does not think I'm a prostitute

I think he might …

Oh fuck off. What a horrible thing to say to someone. Not sure when you were born (1750?) but sex with a sex worker doesn't cost £20.
VaguelyInteresting · 27/09/2021 18:05

A hint re: Morning after pill? It’s just over £20...

LittleGwyneth · 27/09/2021 18:06

The vipers are being especially vipery this evening. It clearly fell out of his wallet or trousers, it happens to my partner often. Just message him and ask if he wants you to transfer it back to him if you have his number, or use it to buy yourself a nice bunch of flowers if you don't.

EmbarrassingAdmissions · 27/09/2021 18:06

Ignore, this is sounding a little PUA in some ways.

Unless he meant to leave you a note saying he'd have left flowers if he had any (I doubt this).

YouTubeAddict · 27/09/2021 18:07

I’ve literally never heard of this, I just wouldn’t be able to resist texting him. What’s the worst that can happen, he doesn’t text back? Then you’ll have your definitive answer that he’s a shit bag. Have you checked your flat to see whether he’s broken something/eaten some of your food.

Maybe it’s just innocent 🤷‍♀️

whatsoccuringnow · 27/09/2021 18:07

Text him and ask!

Original poster
brooksandvicki · 27/09/2021 18:07

@VaguelyInteresting

A hint re: Morning after pill? It’s just over £20...
Possibly, we used condoms but perhaps. Want to text and ask on the one hand but on the other I don't because I wasn't planning on getting in touch. But want to know the answer, but then again do I if it's a nasty one?
OP posts:
DumplingsAndStew · 27/09/2021 18:08

Contact him in a couple of weeks telling him you have an STI.

50ShadesOfCatholic · 27/09/2021 18:08

Text to say he owes £130

maddy68 · 27/09/2021 18:08

He's definitely got dressed and it's come out of his pocket X

Bollindger · 27/09/2021 18:08

what if he had an ex who stole from him?
Maybe this is a test to see how honest you are.
Yes some people are weird,

Dobbyhasnomaster · 27/09/2021 18:08

I’m so intrigued. I hope it isn’t something horrible but my general experience with men tells me it probably is…

momtoboys · 27/09/2021 18:09

I don't think I could stop myself from contacting him. LOL

DumplingsAndStew · 27/09/2021 18:10

@LittleGwyneth

The vipers are being especially vipery this evening. It clearly fell out of his wallet or trousers, it happens to my partner often.

Onto the side table of the girl he's just fucked?

VaguelyInteresting · 27/09/2021 18:11

@brooksandvicki

TBH I’d leave it.

If he’s playing a game re: your “honesty”- he’s a game player. Bin.
If he’s making a “joke” it’s a shit one. Bin.
If he’s seriously suggesting you’re a prostitute. Bin.
If he’s making a hint re MAP- he’s not mature enough to talk about contraception. Bin.

If he’s lost £20 and hasn’t realised but also hasn’t contacted you, he isn’t interested in you. So also bin.

There are no good outcomes here.

Summerfun54321 · 27/09/2021 18:11

Where exactly was the money? If it was left intentionally surely he’d leave it on your pillow or somewhere you’d find it or even leave it with a note with it if it was a cruel joke! If you just found it wrapped up in the bedding or near where his trousers were then he’s obviously just dropped it. Definitely text him, nothing to loose if you aren’t going to see him again anyway!

savvy7 · 27/09/2021 18:11

Surely he just left it there by accident? Why would anyone think otherwise?

LittleGwyneth · 27/09/2021 18:11

OP this thread is driving my utterly bonkers. You had a fun night with someone you liked, enjoyed some good sex, and some money fell out of his trousers. People on this thread are doing gymnastics bending over backwards to turn it into something horrible. Just text him. Don't let internet meanies ruin something nice for you.

SecretKeeper1 · 27/09/2021 18:12

I would just text “£20?” and see what his response is. You’ve nothing to lose.