Royal Mail delivery man just warned DH I'm spending his money!!

[VitalsStable]

I know not a huge issue in the grand scheme of things but just had a parcel delivered. DH opened door as I was busy heeding the call of nature.

The delivery man handed over the parcel to my husband and then mentioned in a strange voice that it had my name on it and he needed warning that I'm spending his money.

DH was a bit WTF and didn't say anything but was quite cross when he shut the door and said it was completely inappropriate.

The delivery was Christmas presents which I actually paid for from money I earned and although DH is the higher earner in our household the bloody Royal Mail guy wasn't aware of that. DH could have been my brother, a SAHD or had bought something on an account with my name on, I could be the higher earner and DH could be blowing my hard earned cash on frivolities.

Gggrrrr, sad that this idea of women still prevails in 2021.

I just can't get worked up abt this sort of stuff men are wired this way and they will never change.

Sadly it's all too common. I had an NHS consultant say to me last week, I bet your husband can hear you when you're asking to spend his money, whilst I was having an examination.

I was quite shocked and am still thinking of complaining. If that makes me snow flakey, so be it. I don't think sexism should have to be be tolerated.

@Generalpost

People are so snow flakey theses day no one can take even a little joke. We will all be waking around with blank faces soon With no sense of humour what do ever incase we offend anyone with the slightest thing said. I don't even know what your DH told you

Usually use of the word snowflake as a perjorative term is equivalent to a flashing light alerting to an irrelevant viewpoint, but seeing as I'm here, do you really not think that the apparent "benefit" of the exchange (a light-hearted social interaction between two parties) could have been just as easily achieved by an innocuous comment such as "Treating yourself?" or "Hope it's something nice!" Nobody is suggesting that we stop all social interaction with other humans in case we offend them, just that if you've got the choice of a pleasant non offensive greeting or a potentially offensive one, it's just as easy to say the first one. The whole point is that you shouldn't have to even think about it, we should live in a society where making rubbish, unfunny, mildly sexist jokes is as unthinkable as any other type of discrimination. We've (or most decent people have) pretty easily trained ourselves out of delivering or accepting racist or homophobic jokes within a generation or two, so why is this so hard?

How coincidental that it's women who are always the butt of menz "JOKES!!!" never the other way round. It gets bloody tedious after decades of it.

My son always cleaned up after the dog until he went to uni. My male neighbor leaned over the balcony laughing and said to his friend, oh look dh has given her the job now. My reply with the bag in hand, I’ll give you something.
Pricks

I’m sure he was just having a light hearted laugh and no offence intended. Depending on age some people are too old to change the way they are, can’t blame them really as this new way is a bit dull with having to watch everything you say about race, gender, religion etc. Is it really that bad?

Blowingaholly: I’m sure he was just having a light hearted laugh and no offence intended. Depending on age some people are too old to change the way they are, can’t blame them really as this new way is a bit dull with having to watch everything you say about race, gender, religion etc. Is it really that bad?

I am sure he meant no harm, and if it were just 'ooh, you're spending his money;, it would be annoying but not serious. The problem to me is his telling dh that he was 'warning' him. This could imply that OP was going behind dh's back. Most of the time, this would just seem silly; but if someone had a very controlling or paranoid husband, it could cause real problems.

@Tevion28

I just can't get worked up abt this sort of stuff men are wired this way and they will never change.

Poor men! Wired to be sexist and unfunny.

@Tevion28

I just can't get worked up abt this sort of stuff men are wired this way and they will never change.

Nonsense. Plenty of men of all classes and ages manage not to be sexist prats. Stop letting the ones who are off the hook.