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To wonder what on God's green Earth possessed my 'D'H

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Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:01

So we're having a nice quiet evening, winding down towards bedtime. Suddenly my DH jumps up as if bitten by a flea, walks over to the hallway and starts fiddling with the newly purchased photo shelf. I ask him to leave it be, as I'm tired, and we'll sort it over the weekend.

Nope, on he goes about the waterpipes. OK, I kind of get that, it doesn't matter, if it can't go, the shelf is only a fiver, I'll put it into a charity box or something. No, suddenly I have to come over and give my opinion on the various positions on the wall. I give up and go back to my cuppa.

Next thing I turn around and he's eyeing the radiator suspiciously. I TELL him, beg and plead with him to leave it alone. No, off the wall it comes and apparently it is SOOO heavy I ABSOLUTELY MUST come over and help him put it back up. For the sake of clarity, this is a bog standard small radiator that CANNOT weigh more than a stone if that. I lift it during seasonal big clean with ease and put it back.

Now he's screaming the house down that I must come and help him. I put my foot down, I told him not to mess with it, now put it back up and stop being a crybaby. He goes on about having to call his elderly dad over to help him put the sodding thing back up. I tell him to pack it in.

Next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug, claiming the radiator fell over him. I told him I'm not having any of it, put the radiator back and stop being a fool. All of a sudden, he drags the slipper basket over, puts the radiator on it and starts following me around the house saying he's got horrible cramps and what am I going to do about it.

By this time I am royally passed off by his behaviour. I told him to pack it in, this time using some phrases I'm not going to repeat here. So he stomps off, puts the radiator back on (Suddenly it's not that heavy after all Hmm ) and cue more screaming. I simply eyeroll as he barges into the kitchen carrying a pebble sized piece of plaster, claiming I made him break the wall down.

Now he's off to draw himself a bath to cure his humongous crams that miraculously don't stop him from stomping up and down the stairs. Apparently I'm the most selfish person alive.

I'm sitting down, trying to cool down and wondering what Dr Who monster possessed my husband tonight, as this is utterly out of character for him. I am considering making him think over his behaviour on the sofa tonight.

So AIBU to have put my foot down and demanded he cleaned up the mess of his own making???

OP posts:
Rachie1973 · 24/09/2021 10:55

@SpeakingFranglais

Slipper basket Draw a bath Mess of his own making

Is this some weird reference to something that happened in Downton Abbey

It’s just lovely English. I grew up with those phrases from my Granny and use them myself,
Lagomtransplant · 24/09/2021 11:03

Right, we had a proper chat before I went to work this morning. He's apparently not feeling unwell at all. He admitted he should have left the hallway alone when repeatedly asked to.

However he is still in a huff about me not rushing to aid when he claimed he was in pain, although his behaviour strongly suggested this wasn't the case, because "he'd never presume the same about me".

He's been made aware that another episode like this and he'll be looking at GP appointments and counselling. I WILL NOT put up with it again.

To be honest, I'm still smarting a bit about the whole experience. I think I lost quite a lot of respect for him last night.

OP posts:
SecondClassmyass · 24/09/2021 11:08

It looks as though he is trippin on LSD

Mamamia7962 · 24/09/2021 11:15

I'm really confused by your DH following you around the house with a radiator in a slipper basket. Even if the radiator has bendy pipes surely they can't be that long!

willrufford · 24/09/2021 11:17

"Spice" does this. Encountered a man having an argument with a lamp post, noisy and threatening. I called the police and went and spoke to the man. He turned and looked at me, focussed on me and shut up. Like turning a switch, instant.
By the time police arrived he was relaxed and seemed tired. Police officer explained it can be a typical reaction.

thewhatsit · 24/09/2021 11:21

@VodselForDinner

I have many questions.

What does the water pipe have to do with the shelf?

What does the radiator have to do with any of this?

Why do you remove your radiator from the wall? Surely that’s bad for it?

Should I be removing my radiators for cleaning? Currently, I just kind of poke a fluffy duster down the backs of them when the mood strikes me.

How many slippers do you have that they require their own basket?

All of this.

And also what is his reason for suddenly taking the radiator off the wall?

00100001 · 24/09/2021 11:21

@starfishmummy

guest slippers

Euww at putting feet in something other people have had their fungus and verucca ridden feet in.

Not just your dh who is weird.

ermm, surely they keep their socks on though
Peachee · 24/09/2021 11:21

Can you post a link to the slipper basket and red deer slippers or something similar please. I need a visual.

00100001 · 24/09/2021 11:23

@ThePlumVan

Guest share slippers Envy
but if they're wearing socks...and they're washed between visits... what difference does it make?
HoppingPavlova · 24/09/2021 11:32

but if they're wearing socks...and they're washed between visits... what difference does it make?

Who wears socks? Do you stash a pair of socks in your handbag when you go out in case someone offers you used slippersHmm. I take a pair of pantyhose sockets when I go to try new shoes on, or socks if I go to try new trainers on but not if I’m out and about visiting generally.

CatBumJuice · 24/09/2021 11:45

I've just tried to take my radiator off the wall. It wasn't a good idea.

Dashinghaberdashery · 24/09/2021 11:49

Hope your husband is ok OP, that was seriously weird behaviour.

Who wears socks?
Who doesn't, unless you live on a tropical island?

EmeraldShamrock · 24/09/2021 11:50

I'm glad he is not feeling unwell.
Next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug, claiming the radiator fell over him.
This really caused me to laugh loudly, especially with your follow up comment on losing respect for him at that point. 🤣
I hope you're feeling less irritated today.

comfortablyfrumpy · 24/09/2021 11:59

Is it wrong that my overriding thought is that I'm really really really coveting flexible radiator pipes. It's a bugger getting my rads off the wall !

gamerchick · 24/09/2021 12:08

@HoppingPavlova

but if they're wearing socks...and they're washed between visits... what difference does it make?

Who wears socks? Do you stash a pair of socks in your handbag when you go out in case someone offers you used slippersHmm. I take a pair of pantyhose sockets when I go to try new shoes on, or socks if I go to try new trainers on but not if I’m out and about visiting generally.

Novel, but there are actually people who wear socks day to day. Hold on to your hat man Shock
DietCokeCoconutandLime · 24/09/2021 12:11

My DH can be like this, OP. Suddenly decides something needs doing right now despite it being a highly inappropriate time, but I must help him, he can't possibly do it alone etc despite me managing to do the thing on my own often! It's so annoying.

Chikapu · 24/09/2021 12:30

I genuinely never realised so many people were afraid of feet. OP, I imagine he's feeling a bit of a pillock this morning but hopefully, your chat will have knocked any notions of doing this sort of thing regularly on the head.
I'd be struggling with respecting him too.

whynotwhatknot · 24/09/2021 12:49

i wear socks im probably no a proper lady bu i cant do shoes without socks

snowblack · 24/09/2021 12:55

A basket for slippers is not uncommon in Sweden, and not as weird as it sounds. Obviously you keep your socks on, but the floors might sometimes be cold during winter hence slippers if anyone wants them.. Noone wears shoes indoors, it would be considered incredibly rude.

BelfastSmile · 24/09/2021 13:03

I agree with keeping an eye on him, OP. Hopefully he's fine, and just irritating!

You've made me realise that one of the radiators in my house is detachable!! I'd always wondered why it had pipes that were kind of rubbery instead of regular metal ones, so I tried lifting it and it came off!! So now I can clean and paint behind it properly! Hurray!

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 24/09/2021 13:07

Psychotic episode
Attention seeking
Transient ischaemic attack
Hope to god not metastases in the brain
If this is totally out of character I'd get him looked at, it seems like very bizarre behaviour and I always take bizarre behaviur that is out of character seriously.

FrozenoutofCostco · 24/09/2021 13:08

Haven't read the full thread but it genuinely sounds like he could have had a small stroke @Lagomtransplant ??

FrozenoutofCostco · 24/09/2021 13:10

@HadEnoughOfBears

Is that you Sharon?

Did he T-Rex again too?

This poor woman's husband is clearly having some kind of medical crisis and you're taking the piss? Really????
FrozenoutofCostco · 24/09/2021 13:11

@shas19

This is hilarious
A man potentially having a small stroke or similar, is hilarious to you?