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AIBU?

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To wonder what on God's green Earth possessed my 'D'H

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Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:01

So we're having a nice quiet evening, winding down towards bedtime. Suddenly my DH jumps up as if bitten by a flea, walks over to the hallway and starts fiddling with the newly purchased photo shelf. I ask him to leave it be, as I'm tired, and we'll sort it over the weekend.

Nope, on he goes about the waterpipes. OK, I kind of get that, it doesn't matter, if it can't go, the shelf is only a fiver, I'll put it into a charity box or something. No, suddenly I have to come over and give my opinion on the various positions on the wall. I give up and go back to my cuppa.

Next thing I turn around and he's eyeing the radiator suspiciously. I TELL him, beg and plead with him to leave it alone. No, off the wall it comes and apparently it is SOOO heavy I ABSOLUTELY MUST come over and help him put it back up. For the sake of clarity, this is a bog standard small radiator that CANNOT weigh more than a stone if that. I lift it during seasonal big clean with ease and put it back.

Now he's screaming the house down that I must come and help him. I put my foot down, I told him not to mess with it, now put it back up and stop being a crybaby. He goes on about having to call his elderly dad over to help him put the sodding thing back up. I tell him to pack it in.

Next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug, claiming the radiator fell over him. I told him I'm not having any of it, put the radiator back and stop being a fool. All of a sudden, he drags the slipper basket over, puts the radiator on it and starts following me around the house saying he's got horrible cramps and what am I going to do about it.

By this time I am royally passed off by his behaviour. I told him to pack it in, this time using some phrases I'm not going to repeat here. So he stomps off, puts the radiator back on (Suddenly it's not that heavy after all Hmm ) and cue more screaming. I simply eyeroll as he barges into the kitchen carrying a pebble sized piece of plaster, claiming I made him break the wall down.

Now he's off to draw himself a bath to cure his humongous crams that miraculously don't stop him from stomping up and down the stairs. Apparently I'm the most selfish person alive.

I'm sitting down, trying to cool down and wondering what Dr Who monster possessed my husband tonight, as this is utterly out of character for him. I am considering making him think over his behaviour on the sofa tonight.

So AIBU to have put my foot down and demanded he cleaned up the mess of his own making???

OP posts:
ChardonnaysPetDragon · 24/09/2021 13:31

You might like having a go at posters for what you think are inappropriate remarks, Frozen but it it was OP who attempted humour in first place.
It might be something serious, but even OP thought an attempt at humour was appropriate.

toocold54 · 24/09/2021 17:37

Obviously he acted like a massive twat but I would be more concerned about him than anything.
I would actually encourage him to see the GP asap even if he says he feels well as obviously something is going on. He needs to tell them how he acted and how it was completely out of character.

My grandmother used to act like this every time she had a urine infection. All she needed was a course of antibiotics and she was back to normal and in the end that was always tested for first to rule it out as she was prone to them.
My mum has mental health issues but day to day she is fine until something triggers it and then she is a completely different person for a while.

It could be something more serious but it could hopefully just be like my gran and a course of antibiotics will do the trick.

Roxy69 · 24/09/2021 17:42

What is a photo shelf?

MummyMayo1988 · 24/09/2021 17:44

I laughed soo hard at this!
They are odd creatures, husbands 😂
What a fuss over nothing! Imagine him in child birth!
You were definitely NBU to put your foot down. After repeatedly telling him you have no intention of helping as its late; he has no one to blame but himself!
Good on you for holding your ground!
👏 👏 👏

Blugh · 24/09/2021 17:50

OMG My radiators come off too! That is going to be so much easier to decorate behind them. I had no idea !!

I hope your husband is ok though maybe he should get checked out if this is so out of character

Poptasmagorical · 24/09/2021 18:09

I really hope your husband is okay and was just being a knob, op.

My dad had a brain haemorrhage that made him act like a total weirdo, to the point that the paramedics almost refused to take him to hospital because they said he must just be drunk.

Of course I'm not saying it's anything as serious as that, particularly when he's been seemingly fine since, but other posters have mentioned things like MS do it might be worth tracking anything that does happen.

On the other hand, he might be an abusive arsehole and you should keep track of any similar behaviour for that reason too. Have you lived together for long?

Wishing you all the best, op.

Foxylass · 24/09/2021 18:20

I have only read to end of page 5.
This is hilarious.
He wanted sex but did not know how to ask - simple.

toxic44 · 24/09/2021 18:26

It sounds like a mental blip if it is so out if character. It might be worth observing a little while before you 'punish' him for the evening's behaviour. Years ago my DP had a screaming fit and smashed everything he could reach. Big psychotic breakdown, not a bit funny at all.

ckzoaa · 24/09/2021 18:27

This has literally made my night Grin

Block · 24/09/2021 18:31

OP, your written English is a jolly sight better than that of an awful lot of native speakers who post on here.

I can't really get beyond the slipper thing, though. Or, indeed, asking visitors to remove their shoes (unless they've been wading through mud, in which case they'd do it of their own accord unless they are my teenagers)

DagenhamRoundhouse · 24/09/2021 18:45

Had he been drinking?

Iflyaway · 24/09/2021 18:54

And about the phrases you find strange, I'm from Sweden, although I've been learning and speaking English most of my life. Some times I will phrase things weirdly, I'm afraid.

Your English is brilliant. Do not apologise to people who's grasp of the Swedish language - like mine - makes you feel you have to apologise.

That is not what this thread is about.

TopBlogger · 24/09/2021 18:55

@Roxy69

What is a photo shelf?
www.homebase.co.uk/photo-shelf-white-matt-120cm/12817978.html
MarchXX · 24/09/2021 19:13

@ShuddaBeenMe

How do radiators lift off? Mine are fixed to the wall.
They sort of sit on a pair of slots that means you can lift off the radiator. Me and DH did it to the radiator in my son's room and 25 years of sh1te that had dropped down the beck over the years fell on the floor. We had a fascinating time going through it all and sent pictures to son who said we were "very sad". It's true, we are Grin. We have decided not to remove the radiator in our room...
BRDouble · 24/09/2021 19:15

Unhelpful, but 😂😂😂 at “next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug”

toocold54 · 24/09/2021 19:20

He wanted sex but did not know how to ask - simple.

What a jump!
They’re in a relationship so I’m sure he knows how to ask for sex. Rolling around on the floor acting like a baby isn’t exactly a turn on is it Confused

Tigger1895 · 24/09/2021 19:26

Was he on something?

peppermintpat · 24/09/2021 19:34

Early onset dementia.

sloutside · 24/09/2021 20:02

Can the people shouting "it's a medical crisis" explain why???
What leads you to a diagnose of mini-stroke, MS, early onset dementia.
What in particular about this post is leading to this conclusion when similar posts in the past about DHs behaviour in various scenarios tend to get answers like "he's a attention seeking knob", "pathetic manchild" etc.

Are you seriously saying this man needs to see a GP?

NavigationCentral · 24/09/2021 20:06

Is the OP a wannabe blogger or creative writer aspirant hoping to test out readers…

Vinomummyinlockdown · 24/09/2021 20:10

Shit post.

Katieandthekids · 24/09/2021 20:14

What have I just read Confused so random. Is he on drugs?

Biscuitybiscuit · 24/09/2021 20:14

What a waste of time making us read that shit

toocold54 · 24/09/2021 20:15

@sloutside a sudden change in personality is very often a sign of something wrong, even if it’s in short bursts.

You do hear of serious issues like brain tumours and dementia which all start with random episodes of doing something you normally wouldn’t but people don’t get it checked until it happens all of the time. Or it could be something minor like a urine infection that needs to be treated but it’s not life threatening.

I’ve never acted like that so if I suddenly did then I would think I have something physically wrong with me or I’m about to have a mental breakdown.

Katieandthekids · 24/09/2021 20:15

@VodselForDinner

I have many questions.

What does the water pipe have to do with the shelf?

What does the radiator have to do with any of this?

Why do you remove your radiator from the wall? Surely that’s bad for it?

Should I be removing my radiators for cleaning? Currently, I just kind of poke a fluffy duster down the backs of them when the mood strikes me.

How many slippers do you have that they require their own basket?

All excellent questions