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AIBU?

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To wonder what on God's green Earth possessed my 'D'H

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Lagomtransplant · 23/09/2021 22:01

So we're having a nice quiet evening, winding down towards bedtime. Suddenly my DH jumps up as if bitten by a flea, walks over to the hallway and starts fiddling with the newly purchased photo shelf. I ask him to leave it be, as I'm tired, and we'll sort it over the weekend.

Nope, on he goes about the waterpipes. OK, I kind of get that, it doesn't matter, if it can't go, the shelf is only a fiver, I'll put it into a charity box or something. No, suddenly I have to come over and give my opinion on the various positions on the wall. I give up and go back to my cuppa.

Next thing I turn around and he's eyeing the radiator suspiciously. I TELL him, beg and plead with him to leave it alone. No, off the wall it comes and apparently it is SOOO heavy I ABSOLUTELY MUST come over and help him put it back up. For the sake of clarity, this is a bog standard small radiator that CANNOT weigh more than a stone if that. I lift it during seasonal big clean with ease and put it back.

Now he's screaming the house down that I must come and help him. I put my foot down, I told him not to mess with it, now put it back up and stop being a crybaby. He goes on about having to call his elderly dad over to help him put the sodding thing back up. I tell him to pack it in.

Next thing he's on the floor, writhing like a bug, claiming the radiator fell over him. I told him I'm not having any of it, put the radiator back and stop being a fool. All of a sudden, he drags the slipper basket over, puts the radiator on it and starts following me around the house saying he's got horrible cramps and what am I going to do about it.

By this time I am royally passed off by his behaviour. I told him to pack it in, this time using some phrases I'm not going to repeat here. So he stomps off, puts the radiator back on (Suddenly it's not that heavy after all Hmm ) and cue more screaming. I simply eyeroll as he barges into the kitchen carrying a pebble sized piece of plaster, claiming I made him break the wall down.

Now he's off to draw himself a bath to cure his humongous crams that miraculously don't stop him from stomping up and down the stairs. Apparently I'm the most selfish person alive.

I'm sitting down, trying to cool down and wondering what Dr Who monster possessed my husband tonight, as this is utterly out of character for him. I am considering making him think over his behaviour on the sofa tonight.

So AIBU to have put my foot down and demanded he cleaned up the mess of his own making???

OP posts:
sloutside · 24/09/2021 20:17

Is the OP a wannabe blogger or creative writer aspirant hoping to test out readers

No, of course not, those of us who suggested the original post was supposed to be humorous and was written in a slightly dramatic got our asses handed to us on plates for laughing at the poor man's "medical emergency"

It's a very serious situation.

Trudij123 · 24/09/2021 20:35

Firstly. @Lagomtransplant I hope you get to the bottom of it, it sounds really unnerving.

Secondly - ( I’ve read the OP’s posts, but not many others, so apologies if I’m repeating!) is a slipper basket like a penis beaker?

Trudij123 · 24/09/2021 20:36

( hoping to raise a bit of a smile with my second comment - I did see it’s a place for spares)

Bertiebiscuit · 24/09/2021 20:39

He's lost it - divorce him

EatYourVegetables · 24/09/2021 20:46

Who wears socks?

Wow. Up until now the most absurd question I’ve seen on MN was “has anyone ever taken a toddler on a train journey?”. Now it’s a tie!!

The train question was also today. Must be full moon, or people are high on petrol fumes after queuing up for so long.

Thelnebriati · 24/09/2021 20:49

I missed that gem, I wasn't even doing anything exciting.

FuckingFabulous · 24/09/2021 21:02

What the fuck? Has he had an aneurysm or something?? Is he gripped with a chronic and raging UTI?

Otherwise, he sounds like an insufferable pillock!

billy1966 · 24/09/2021 21:10

Glad you were firm with him, he sounds like an awful moron.

Such hysterical drama.

Very tedious.

Flowers
Bookloverjay · 24/09/2021 21:15

Can we see a picture of the bath his drawn?

Sorry couldn't resist 😜

Hugoslavia · 24/09/2021 21:20

Has he just started going back into the office after lockdown? My five year old has been coming home after school like this, following a long spell at home.

DappledThings · 24/09/2021 21:38

@Bookloverjay

Can we see a picture of the bath his drawn?

Sorry couldn't resist 😜

"he's".

If you're going to make a post randomly mocking a perfectly normal, if slightly old-fashioned, turn of phrase you might as well be correct yourself.

PeterG11 · 24/09/2021 21:50

[quote Lagomtransplant]@ShuddaBeenMe mine come off the wall slightly for cleaning. Really not a big deal.

@WhatAShilohPitt slipper basket holds guest slippers. Swedish thing, sort of, if I ask them to remove shoes, they have an alternative to put on their feet.[/quote]
The slipper basket sounds sensible. Do you use Mules to avoid size issues, or is there a better approach?

adultingforever · 24/09/2021 22:20

Just to help those who are wondering, I have a "sock box" by my front door, for people to remove shoes and still be able to have something on their feet. It gets cold in the winter, and wood floors are not really warm. You can get great slipper socks with rubber "buttons" on the bottom, or spots, that give a bit of grip on the slick flooring.... they are great!! People love that I do this.

Lollee · 24/09/2021 22:29

You both sound mad as a hatter!

Scardanelli · 24/09/2021 22:30

@Adultingforever That's nice, but why would anyone want to remove their shoes, especially if their feet are doing to be cold?

MrsTulipTattsyrup · 24/09/2021 22:51

@sloutside

Is the OP a wannabe blogger or creative writer aspirant hoping to test out readers

No, of course not, those of us who suggested the original post was supposed to be humorous and was written in a slightly dramatic got our asses handed to us on plates for laughing at the poor man's "medical emergency"

It's a very serious situation.

I’m delighted for all of you who haven’t had to witness someone you care about in medical delirium, or with a sudden change of character indicating they’ve had a stroke or are about to have a heart attack.

If I could save someone else from watching someone they love die by warning them about this possibility, I would rather do that, and appear dramatic if it doesn’t transpire, than not mention it and have them experience something I have had to.

Sorry that’s no fun.

tkwal · 24/09/2021 22:51

I know his behaviour tonight must have been shocking to you at the time, I do agree that sleeping apart would give you both time to "reset". If his behaviour was so out of character then in the morning I suggest a proper talk. Sounds to me as though he has been bottling something up for a while and this irrational behaviour is the first sign of the lid blowing off.

Monstermunch67 · 24/09/2021 23:45

The only time I ever saw my FIL behave completely out of character was when he had a bladder infection, and was in hospital being treated for something unrelated. The nurse explained that it can have such an effect on some people. No idea how it works but apparently it's not that uncommon.

Autumngoldleaf · 25/09/2021 00:14

I've only skim read but I do think your dh may be quite ill have you let him have his phone can you call 111 and say he's gone besek + cramps??

Autumngoldleaf · 25/09/2021 00:14

Yy bladder infection

starlight13 · 25/09/2021 00:58

I read your post to the end.
Am I the only one here who has no bloody clue what you are talking about?
You both sound weird, can't you see that?
Wtf have you been taking?

AlCalavicci · 25/09/2021 01:16

@sloutside

Can the people shouting "it's a medical crisis" explain why??? What leads you to a diagnose of mini-stroke, MS, early onset dementia. What in particular about this post is leading to this conclusion when similar posts in the past about DHs behaviour in various scenarios tend to get answers like "he's a attention seeking knob", "pathetic manchild" etc.

Are you seriously saying this man needs to see a GP?

Have you not RTFT ? go back and find my post and several others who have been in the same situation

Yes I am saying that a check with the GP would be a good idea , my DM may still be with us if we had known sooner what was going on .
HTH Angry

@Biscuitybiscuit What a waste of time making us read that shit
Nobody has made you read this shit ( what a wonderful way with words you have ) Now do be a dear and bugger off

PrincessNutella · 25/09/2021 01:23

He sounds like a catch. Don't give us too many hints about where you live, OP, or we Mumsnetters will be showing up in droves at your doorstep wrapped in Saran wrap under our raincoats.

Fleshmechanic · 25/09/2021 01:36

What in good fuck are you talking about

Teachertired92 · 25/09/2021 03:21

I also have a persimmon home and can lift most the radiators on my own, in fact I recently did it 7 months pregnant (and got told off by DP!) that’s bizarre behaviour?! Hope you got to the bottom of why?!