Going to get flamed- another MIL one

[flameyone]

OK, name changed for this one.

I know I'm BU. But just wondered if anyone would feel the same slight annoyance/ grating.

My MIL has kept everything her two kids have ever used in their lives. Think, spoons, plates, potties, all toys etc etc etc. She's thrown nothing away ever.

I have a son and he gets to use those things all the time when we go there. Super useful. But MIL feels the need to mention it constantly that son is using daddy's old spoon. Or auntie's old cup. She also always mentions how she's kept everything.

I mean, constant mentioning of that. It just grates on me and I'm not sure why. Would the constant reminding grate on anyone else? I don't mind son using this stuff at all. It's great and it's nice. Just the reminding grates.

You know yabu. Let it go.

Yeah that sounds like it would get old pretty fast, I don't have any advice as I'd probably end up being a bit sharp and snapping once I'd had enough of hearing it all the time!

Don't blame you for being annoyed though!

Let it go over your head.

Not a problem. Is this a sign of a more deep seated dislike of her? MIL can be annoying.

I’d find it irritating too. She obviously doesn’t feel heard, try asking her about the items, her memories of her children when they were young etc. Having a long chat about it might be just what she needs.

Oh she’s probably hot nothing else to say. Just inwardly roll your eyes and be grateful you’re not her

There's far worse things she could be doing. I get that it's annoying you, but as a pp said, let this one go.

Most people are annoying after a while

Ah she’s just reminiscing

Why is it annoying ? Maybe just anything that's repeated over and over gets annoying.

I have to bite my tongue when my nieces and nephews wear hand me downs from my own kids... it just reminds me of when mine were little. I can imagine it would get annoying for their parents, my siblings, but the urge is there!

Tiresome but you'd miss it if she stopped.

Yes it's annoying.

Just smile and nod.

Maybe you feel she's trying to show how virtuous she is and what a considerate and thoughtful mother, and you feel that she's judging you slightly?

She sounds like a future me. I'm really struggling to let go of my DCs baby crap atm.

My MIL is this kind of low level annoying and reading that made me smile as it’s EXACTLY the sort of thing she would do. All you can do is smile, make the right noises and ignore. It’s harmless but irritating. My MIL is one of those people I’d actively avoid at events if she wasn’t …my MIL.

Is it because you feel (even subconciously) she's sidelining you? My MIL used to make little remarks about my DC beings daddy's boy/girls or 'just like daddy' and it sometimes felt a bit like she was staking a claim! I'm sure she probably didn't mean to.

My MIL mentions her weightloss every time we see her which grates on me as she lost weight about 5years ago and has remained the same since. You just want to say 'I know you have repeatedly said!'

Just play bingo and laugh internally when she does it.

It's like she's claiming your son as hers. And the constant mentioning of it, means it's a non stop nostalgia fest. Which is not sweet after about 17 years of it...

I have perfected the internal eye roll and just let her get on with it. But my not so sweet, super cynical 12 year old DD has started calling it out (thankfully not to Grandma's face!). DS is far too sweet natured to do anything other than look slightly non plussed and ask me if it's ok if he gets rid of the latest treasured heirloom (bit of tat) that he's been passed! DH is mainly completely confused about where she's been stashing all this stuff 🤣

So you're not BU, but it's not worth mentioning, just let it roll over you.

It’s no biggie really though is it, irritating maybe but just let it wash over you.

Didn't you know that only people who really really love their children keep every single remnant of childhood ?

Or there's folk like me that love their children fine but don't need tokens of love so I chucked the old shit.

Let her have it if it means that much to her.

I think she just always wants to appear like SUPER mum. She's SO maternal. This is just another way to ' show off ' how maternal she is. That's what it is, I feel like she's bragging about it.

I think maybe you’re looking a bit much into it? How does keeping a potty forever make you more maternal?
When she does it just say ‘yes I know you’ve said already’ or if it really gets on your nerves offer to apply to a hoarding tv show to help her clear the clutter.

Being a MIL is a thankless task. Yabu.

Or it's a generational thing...never throw anything away. My in laws have a VAST loft, in the home counties, and have never thrown anything away. I live mid terrace zone 3 London and have a loft conversion....I throw EVERYTHING away and the children constantly dobb me in 😂

Yes YABU. If your MIL is only a bit annoying, you can count yourself lucky. Mine is a real witch who accuses me of taking her precious child away, and apparently I've been scheming to drive a wedge in between them for the past 20 years (I couldn't care less). She even turns on her own DGC if it hurts me.. So yes. Count your blessings.

@VladmirsPoutine

Being a MIL is a thankless task. Yabu.

Well, I sure know what I won't do when I am one. I've got a long list. Will probably still get it completely worth though.