Am I going to have SS involved because of this?

[Sillyoldelfbacktoself]

DD is 7, year 3.

She usually has a hot lunch at school but doesn’t like any of the options tomorrow (Pizza, Jacket Potatos and Curry she doesn’t like any of them). She will not eat the cold option of a wrap either – sensory issues around food, she can be very fussy with food - is fine everywhere else, even school have commented on her food.

I went to my dads today on my pedal bike, went shopping for lunchbox stuff (pasta, tomatoes, some fruit and some kitkats) and other stuff then dads dropped me, plus bike home (he has a bike rack on the car) but I’ve left the bags in the boot of the car. I’ve got DD back with me now (she’s been to her dads for the weekend) and dad lives an hour away anyway, there’s no way she could cycle that far. No public transport on a Sunday, no local shops open – nearest shop to me is a Tesco Metro, no corner shops or anything as I’m basically in the town centre.

I don’t own my own car as I can’t afford to (single parent). I walk and cycle everywhere and use public transport if I can’t get there under my own steam.

Dad won’t drive out to me (understandably) and I can’t get to the shop before school starts. I might be able to get there before lunchtime tomorrow but it really depends on my morning meeting and whether I can get back to my town in time.

If I email school whats likely to happen? SS report? It’s the first time it’s ever happened, usually DD will eat at least 1 of the 3 options offered by school or I can get to the shop to get stuff to make it ok.

Lesson learnt, never shop on a Sunday always do it the other days when the Tescos shut at 10pm so I can at least throw something together.

Is there a shop near your dd’s school that you can pop into to grab some snacks stuff or readymade sandwich and then pop that in her lunch bag?

Failing that, let the school know what happened and ask if they can feed her for the day? They must have some extra for kids that have ordered food but are ill on the day?

Or yes she can just have the pudding from school lunch. Or she might get lucky and there’s leftovers from another day.

Unless you’re about to drip feed some SN then being hungry tomorrow will be a natural consequence of being so fussy. Could she have just rice? Or just the potato? Do they offer veg or the side? Fruit? Pudding? There must be something she’d eat there so she’s not starving.

@LtGreggs

Practical options: * Tell DD to do her best with the school options tomorrow, suggest that she eats a bit of one plus whatever sides/fruit/yogurt are available * Make the best of whatever you have in the house. Bread, pasta or rice salad, apple, tinned fruit, tuna, past or soup in a thermos, little bowl of dry cereal as a snack... * Get everyone ready early and out to shop on way to school tomorrow * Get everyone out to the Tesco Metro tonight (it's likely open till 8 or 10?) * Ask a local school friend for an extra pack lunch

Tesco Metro isn't open now, it operates Sunday hours, so closed at 4pm. It's usually open until 10pm on other nights.

Nothing in the house I can make anything with I did my big shop today and left it all in my dads car.

No class whatsapp group.

Sorry didn’t see all replies before posting. I see my suggestions were covered already

What did your dad do with your food? Can he really not drive over to you?

My option in terms of lunch tomorrow would be to let your daughter know the choices and ask if she can try one.

The school won't call social services.

Why won’t your dad get in his car and bring you the bags? If he lives close enough for you to cycle, it can’t take all that long in a car.

@Nanananani

Unless you’re about to drip feed some SN then being hungry tomorrow will be a natural consequence of being so fussy. Could she have just rice? Or just the potato? Do they offer veg or the side? Fruit? Pudding? There must be something she’d eat there so she’s not starving.

She won't eat potato at all, she gags and has vomitted because of it, she won't even eat chips. She has some sensory issues, which was in my OP.

@FictionalCharacter

Why won’t your dad get in his car and bring you the bags? If he lives close enough for you to cycle, it can’t take all that long in a car.

Hours drive so 2 hour round trip for him, so I understand why he won't come.

Is there a parent of one of her friend's you can ask for something? Or a neighbour? If one of DD's friend's mum asked me for some food I'd happily give them whatever I could

OP, what is your worry about what will happen tomorrow if she doesn't like all her school lunch?
You seem disproportionately concerned about it.

@Fairunibutterfly

Is there a shop near your dd’s school that you can pop into to grab some snacks stuff or readymade sandwich and then pop that in her lunch bag?

Failing that, let the school know what happened and ask if they can feed her for the day? They must have some extra for kids that have ordered food but are ill on the day?

No shops near school, I'm about half way between school and the town centre, they're about a mile apart. But the shops won't be open until after she's at school and I have a meeting in the morning.

She will just have to make do with something from the school dinner for tomorrow. Unless you can persuade your dad to come back with your shopping.

@crazyguineapiglady

OP, what is your worry about what will happen tomorrow if she doesn't like all her school lunch? You seem disproportionately concerned about it.

I'm a single parent and I worry it looks bad on me her going without.

Mine often eat rice and veg for packed lunch. Which is boiled rice with peas and any other veg.

Can she have the school wrap and leave the filling?

Really, she is old enough that being offered the school lunch means SS won’t be called. DS has to put up with school lunches every day. Take a big snack for after school.

But what will your dad do with your food? I'm slightly preoccupied with the idea he is sitting with your weekly shop in the boot of his car while he refuses to reunite you with it.

I get it's a 2hr trip but it's your food and I assume not a regular event?

Just give her a random mix of food that she would eat that you have leftover. A tupperware of cold baked beans is ok with a spoon. Anything else to go with the beans at all? Or just order her the lunch that shel eat the most of even if its just the pudding? she wont starve herself.

Go on your local Facebook group and say DD has issues with food and allergies or whatever - has anyone the following foods and I can replace tomorrow when I get my shopping bags back tomorrow - make it clear you aren’t asking for freebies. If I had strawberries for example I would give you some. It does sound like the school know the issue though - are you getting support for the food phobias / issues in RL?

Something about this just isn't sitting right. If you did a 'big shop' because you have literally no food in the house, how did you manage to leave it in your dad's car? There's more to this, isn't there? What are you going to give your daughter for breakfast, if you have nothing in the house? Why can't you give her the same thing for lunch?

@MinesAPintOfTea

Can she have the school wrap and leave the filling?

Really, she is old enough that being offered the school lunch means SS won’t be called. DS has to put up with school lunches every day. Take a big snack for after school.

She doesn't like any kind of bread, wrap, or anything like that. She might eat the filling depending on what it is, the school menu just says "Cold option: Wraps"

@WishingYouAMerryChristmasToo

Go on your local Facebook group and say DD has issues with food and allergies or whatever - has anyone the following foods and I can replace tomorrow when I get my shopping bags back tomorrow - make it clear you aren’t asking for freebies. If I had strawberries for example I would give you some. It does sound like the school know the issue though - are you getting support for the food phobias / issues in RL?

Yes she's on a school support plan and GP and a dietician are aware and supporting us.

Phone a taxi company near your Dad's, they can pick it up from him and deliver to you.

Can you not get up abit earlier and stop at the nearest petrol station? or do you not go past any blackberries? A lunch of a pot of beans and a pot of blackberries is fine for one day.

We've used a taxi company for this kind of thing before. It won't be a problem.