Am I going to have SS involved because of this?

[Sillyoldelfbacktoself]

DD is 7, year 3.

She usually has a hot lunch at school but doesn’t like any of the options tomorrow (Pizza, Jacket Potatos and Curry she doesn’t like any of them). She will not eat the cold option of a wrap either – sensory issues around food, she can be very fussy with food - is fine everywhere else, even school have commented on her food.

I went to my dads today on my pedal bike, went shopping for lunchbox stuff (pasta, tomatoes, some fruit and some kitkats) and other stuff then dads dropped me, plus bike home (he has a bike rack on the car) but I’ve left the bags in the boot of the car. I’ve got DD back with me now (she’s been to her dads for the weekend) and dad lives an hour away anyway, there’s no way she could cycle that far. No public transport on a Sunday, no local shops open – nearest shop to me is a Tesco Metro, no corner shops or anything as I’m basically in the town centre.

I don’t own my own car as I can’t afford to (single parent). I walk and cycle everywhere and use public transport if I can’t get there under my own steam.

Dad won’t drive out to me (understandably) and I can’t get to the shop before school starts. I might be able to get there before lunchtime tomorrow but it really depends on my morning meeting and whether I can get back to my town in time.

If I email school whats likely to happen? SS report? It’s the first time it’s ever happened, usually DD will eat at least 1 of the 3 options offered by school or I can get to the shop to get stuff to make it ok.

Lesson learnt, never shop on a Sunday always do it the other days when the Tescos shut at 10pm so I can at least throw something together.

if you get so het up over a minor issue like this, how do you cope with the more demanding parts of looking after someone.
you seem to make a mountain out of a molehill.
could your daughter's fussiness be influenced by your extreme reactions.
try to keep things in perspective.
is there any home start support where you live. might help.

this whole scenario sounds odd

@alexdgr8

if you get so het up over a minor issue like this, how do you cope with the more demanding parts of looking after someone. you seem to make a mountain out of a molehill. could your daughter's fussiness be influenced by your extreme reactions. try to keep things in perspective. is there any home start support where you live. might help.

Read the OPs 8.03pm post and show some compassion

What happened to #BeKind

At least read OPs 20:03 post first

I know it's not really the point but I'm shocked that your dad wouldn't bring the food shop back for his grandchild.

Yea you're dad is pretty unhelpful get a supermarket delivery from now on

Hope you are feeling less anxious this morning OP and have got sorted one way or another

Crisis avoided.

Emailed school secretary after ordering a jacket potato and said she probably won't eat the actual potato but will want beans and/or cheese and pudding. Explained its a one off and why.

Secretary emailed back (she's always very quick anyway) saying it's fine and she's known children eat worse than beans and cheese. They're sorting out some fruit for playtime too.

Much less anxious today and will get my shopping back later as my mum (doesn't live with my dad) works near my dads house and will grab it after work so will just use what I've got in for dinner for today.

Brilliant! Well done OP, and I hope your work meeting goes well this morning.

All this faffing about with food would drive me mad.

Says someone who has absolutely no idea about food sensory issues.

Loads of people saying similar “she eats or she goes hungry” when, if she is anything like my daughter, she eats it and gags, chokes or throws up, or she goes hungry. It’s not as simple as just being fussy. Really, a whole load of people have no clue.

Thankfully our school were pretty good at finding something she could eat and weren’t so uncaring as to let a 7 year old starve on those rare occasions she didn’t have a packed lunch.

Glad it’s sorted OP - have a good day.

Why sensory issues?, no, she's a fussy eater, like a lot of children her age. Send her in for school meals and if she doesn't eat all day it won't harm her!

You did it! Now relax

@Rubyupbeat

Why sensory issues?, no, she's a fussy eater, like a lot of children her age. Send her in for school meals and if she doesn't eat all day it won't harm her!

Such wisdom

If you don’t know what you’re talking about, don’t talk about it. “Better to remain silent and thought a fool than to speak a remove all doubt.”

Glad you got sorted op and the secretary sounds sensible and kind.

Glad it’s all sorted now OP. Panic over :) now you can relax! xx

Glad you got sorted OP and the secretary sounds nice and normal-like she said, children have probably had a lot worse!

Glad you are getting your shopping sorted too, have a great day hopefully worry free 😊

I can second that sensory issues are not the same as being fussy, picky or awkward. DS likens eating certain textures of foods to experiencing actual pain.

School lunch. If she's hungry she will eat it

Glad you managed to get sorted OP. Just to answer your original question they wouldn't call SS for a one off. My son just started reception and we're trying out the school meals. There were two days his first week he apparently refused to even try the lunch so didn't have any lunch those days. They just let me know on pick up.

i am so glad you got things sorted and hope your week is better

@Rubyupbeat

Why sensory issues?, no, she's a fussy eater, like a lot of children her age. Send her in for school meals and if she doesn't eat all day it won't harm her!

Let me educate you. The sensory issues are usually over the texture of food. Children like this will vomit if they struggle with a food and are made to eat it. They will frequently starve rather than eat that food, as would you if you vomited while forcing yourself to eat it.

I had a child like this. She's an adult now and the only thing she won't eat is the one thing she was made to eat on one occasion. Making meals a battle ground or a battle of wills rarely works with a child who has sensory issues over food.

Posts like this make me so angry. You have no idea at all, so best not to comment at all. Children like this aren't just "fussy" fgs.

Schools are used to dealing with lunch disasters. My DS with severe allergies dropped his packed lunch all over the floor and they managed to put something together to make sure he didn't go hungry.

The real issue here is your panic over it and the first reaction which is that they would contact social services.

What's going on there OP?

no, she's a fussy eater, like a lot of children her age

DD throwing up whenever she ate certain foods certainly didn’t feel like she was just being fussy. I wonder if your extensive experience of children with sensory issues can explain why she was just being fussy rather than being intolerant of certain foods?

She apparently cried seeing the jacket potato but there was some left over GF pasta bake that the lady who cooks the dinners gave her when she realised she wasn't going to eat.

This girl loves pasta, so she's eaten the lot.

Reassured and feel much less anxious.

Hi!
Glad to see you’ve got this sorted. I just wanted to say that we would never let a child go hungry - these things happen. There is always something that can be put together that will fill a tummy. This would definitely not be a social services call for an occasional “whoops” day! The school are aware of her sensory issues.