To ask what age you think is too young to pass away

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I say under 80

Under 60

My uncle died at 70 and that felt like he’d gone a bit too early but nature of his illness made it seem a bit more shocking as he had quite a sudden decline. My parents are mid 70s and they’re in the territory of ‘good-innings’ I think.

Under 76

Before they have had chance to retire. Far too many people die within months of retirement and that's with the decent pensions.

Any age, my friend lost her beautiful baby boy to t18 at 12 weeks old. Watching him slowly deteriorate was heartbreaking. I don’t know if you ever get over that.

Your family members no matter what age, the younger they are it will be more difficult as you’re not really expecting it. My mum is 67 doesn’t keep really well at times, lives miles away and I just worry. Something happens and I don’t get there or haven’t seen her for a cuddle.

I also nurse sick children. So have been there when children have died, or are dying and it’s heartbreaking. No parent should go through that, siblings too, what can you do or say.

Grandparents
One died 53 (early 1970s)
One died 64 (early 80s)
One died 79 (early 90s)
One is still alive and 99
Wouldn't say any of them very healthy and also poor upbringings all but the one still alive never smoked or drank (but did and still does have a quite poor diet).
This does illustrate improvements in health i think. But genetics too as her grandfather lived to late 80s and died in the 60s of Old age (heart failure really).

I don't know the answer to this tbh. I would have said 75 when I was young and df died at that age.
I suppose I now feel 80 is about right but even so dm died at 83 and was no ready and despite failing health was desperate to live as long as possible.

Well, reading some of these answers it's easy to see why we've fucked the economy & the future of the young to save octogenarians from dying from a disease that actually increases their life expectancy....

Average age of death - 81.26 (2018)
Average age of death from Covid - 83

Oh dear god, can we have one thread without some fucking nonsense post like that? Just one!

Lockdowns and the like aimed to stop everyone getting sick at once, to stop overwhelming the NHS, and hopefully to avoid 10% of the working population off with "long covid".

They were also in place because people were panicking, and a panicky population is not a sensible or useful one. It wasn't ALL about stopping people dying.

My mum is now 88. When she reached 80 she said she was amazed as when she was young she knew no one of that age.

It's not all good though, as since 80, and maybe before, she has been in poor health and is now in a care home with very limited mobility and a lot of pain.

Below 60. Although I wouldn't really feel exceptionally sad about it. Children are too young, and parents of children, I really feel affected by children being involved. I can't imagine thinking a 78yo has missed out on anything at all.

@NuffSaidSam

I think it's a sliding scale rather than a specific cut-off. The younger the person, the sadder it is generally.

Yes, this.

No one has a right to any age.

I was with a family member over the weekend and he is soon turning 60. He said he wasn't looking forward to it because he (in theory) doesn't have much life left. I can honestly say that when it's my birthday the lady thing on my mind is how many I've got left.

It depends on quality of life, and the potential for enjoyment left.

Relative A died suddenly at 53. Normal lifestyle (admittedly not terribly healthy), no chance to retire. It was shocking and a loss of a lot of potential and enjoyment.
Relative B faded away at 48, was disabled from birth and for the last few years was kind of locked in with themself in pain. They'd passed their limit on an enjoyable quality of life and it was like losing other relatives in their 80s/90s and had reached the stage where it was a relief that they were no longer suffering.

Watching the rapid deterioration of a relative beyond 85, while I like the idea of a long life, that is based on the assumption of a reasonable degree of enjoyment which is not guarenteed.

I suppose I'd say under 70. 81(?) Is average, but some people have to die before then for that to be the case. But the main thing which would make me think it is if the person were outlived by their parents.

Under 60. We dont live into old age in my family so its something I have accepted as normal. I have already had cancer,there is an awful history of heart disease in both sides of family so it just seems inevitable.
I have lost children, both neo natal deaths and still birth and nobody will convince me that the grief of losing a granparent age 80 is comparable at all to losing a child.

75

Under 60.

But I’d say under 40 was really young to die.

My parents are grandparents to an almost teen, would It be sad if they died tomorrow? Yes of course, however they travelled, watched their children grow up, one get married, watched three grandchildren grow so far. They have lived a pretty full life tbh.

However a 30 year old say dying before ever getting married, having children etc if that’s what they would of wanted is very very sad.

People seem very focused on living as long as possible, but it’s quality of life I’d say over quantity that matters and that goes for all ages.

Under 80