Daughter been uninvited from a party!!

[Meh86]

Please bare with the ramble.. So my 10yr old was invited to a party (Harry Potter world) tickets booked they are going next week! There was a bit of petty drama yesterday with a he said she said but they seemed to have sorted it, the birthday child came to my house today and was all laughs and giggles with dd and another child that comes after school, I then dropped the birthday child off for her gymnastics session (me and her mum was good friends I was doing her a favour) about an hour later I get a message saying her daughter wants to uninvite mine as she was crying 🤷🏽‍♀️ This child was absolutely fine when she was at my house so I was very confused. Anyway am I being unreasonable to feel very hurt and p£6)? Off at the mum and her daughter for so meanly uninviting mine to the party or am I being in my feelings? Personally I would never uninvite someone unless things was seriously bad between them but for a she said he said.. I’m pi$^]?

[quote MyDcAreMarvel]@RevolvingPivot I think you misunderstood I mean the money the op paid for the party food should be returned! Not the play date food.[/quote]
Where does it say she paid money for party food?

PPs have misread OPs post

She wrote p£6)? Off

Meaning she was Pissed Off

Not that she paid £6 for a meal !!!

It was just an unfortunate selection of random characters OP chose to use instead of spelling out a mild swear word

I didn't mis understand £6 wasn't mentioned about food

[quote MyDcAreMarvel]@RevolvingPivot I think you misunderstood I mean the money the op paid for the party food should be returned! Not the play date food.[/quote]
She didn't pay for party food. She didn't pay for anything.

People kept tagging me in this

@RevolvingPivot

People kept tagging me in this

@RevolvingPivot I didn't mis understand £6 wasn't mentioned about food I didn’t say the £6 was for food either. I used a question mark.
I said what was the £6 for, food?

@fourminutestosavetheworld I just asked was the £6 for (party) food and regardless of whatever it was for it should be paid back.
Now I realise there was no £6 just an inability to use a very mild profanity.

I didn't mention anything about party food 😃

Oh gosh

Woe I'd also feign ignorance and say its a pretty severe action to actually cancel her so can she give you more info as to what happened because if she's done something so incredibly awful you'd like to know.

@AlexaShutUp

I would text and say "oh gosh, I'm so sorry, dd must have done something really awful to warrant being uninvited to the birthday party as I know you well enough to know that you wouldn't disappoint a 10 year old like that without a really good reason. I'm just so confused, they both seemed absolutely fine when i dropped them off at gym earlier, happy and laughing together - I honestly had no idea. Please can you tell me exactly what happened so that I can talk to dd about it?"

Excellent approach

I think you need a one to one calm conversation with your friend. The kids will be friends again whereas you’ll lose a friend over this if you don’t sort.

Sorry, I am finding this thread unintentionally hilarious. All this £6 stuff.

What is it with some people on MN, you are allowed to swear and if you don't like swearing just use other bloody words!

@AlexaShutUp

I would text and say "oh gosh, I'm so sorry, dd must have done something really awful to warrant being uninvited to the birthday party as I know you well enough to know that you wouldn't disappoint a 10 year old like that without a really good reason. I'm just so confused, they both seemed absolutely fine when i dropped them off at gym earlier, happy and laughing together - I honestly had no idea. Please can you tell me exactly what happened so that I can talk to dd about it?"

This is what I’d text. It’s appalling behaviour by the mother and if there’s such a serious problem that an adult would do this she needs to give you details.

Her mother sounds like a toddler. This is pathetic. Children argue over petty things.

Reallt nasty behaviour!

Some people are just horrible.

@Salome61

So sorry, some Mums are awful. I'll never forget my son's face as the minibus went off to his bowling party without him, he wanted to wait for his very late friend to arrive rather than leave without him - after twenty minutes we said we'd have to go. We missed the start of his party and when I saw the Mum at school she said she'd 'forgotten'. As I'd phoned her the night before, it was a big fat lie.

Please tell me you mean THE bowling party and not HIS bowling party?

You can’t have sent his friends off to the bowling alley to start his birthday party without him, surely?

Could you cancel the cheque for the £6?

Not a nice mum or friend to have if they can uninvite a child! Do yourself a d your daughter a favour… stop being a schmuck by giving them lifts to classes and having them over. You’re too involved as a parent. Do t know why today’s parents live their lives through their children’s?! Go to HP with your daughter on your own and have a great time!

YANBU, that's an awful thing to do.

But off topic, is having a party at Harry Potter World a thing that actually happens? Considering what it cost us as a family of 4, and the difficulty with getting tickets, I'm surprised by this. Maybe they're a ticket short and can't get another?

@Iputthetrampintrampoline

What a cruel thing to do ...shit parenting from the mother too, Be done with them OP, I would be livid and very upset. So sorry this has happened to your daughter.

Agree with the above - and as others have said, do not do any more "drop offs', collections or 'after schools', at least for a while.

I would bet my bottom dollar that come next gym night, the other girls is "friends" with her again. Stay firm.

I genuinely find it astounding that any parent would be so cruel to a little girl... my boy is still only little, but I'd like to think thay I would encourage making friends and being kind over uninviting someone to something they've been excited about. Especially after the other mum had been so good about after school clubs and lifts etc.

I like the idea of responding with a 'what?! They girls were fine, happily playing and talking about how much fun they would have at HP world...'

If your dd terrorised her dd so much why did she still allow the playdate to go ahead.

Something smells fishy here,looks like they over invited expecting people to not come.And it hasnt happened.

So why didnt your dd make the cut.I tell you one thing i wouldnt be helping her out again,she can get one of the others to do it.

Obviously the child didn’t like sharing her friend with the other child, maybe she felt left out and ran home to mummy to complain.
I would ask the mother what the problem was as you only saw her having fun. I’d also tell her to stick the invite up her arse as she has devastated your child by being so cruel.

@ejhhhhh

YANBU, that's an awful thing to do.

But off topic, is having a party at Harry Potter World a thing that actually happens? Considering what it cost us as a family of 4, and the difficulty with getting tickets, I'm surprised by this. Maybe they're a ticket short and can't get another?

Or they realise how expensive it is and can’t afford it. If that’s the case be honest not cruel.