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AIBU?

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To think DD’s teacher shouldn’t have said this?

211 replies

Rainallnight · 16/09/2021 18:46

DD and I bumped into her Year 1 teacher outside school this afternoon.

DD said to her, ‘are you going home?’ And teacher said, ‘yes, it’s the best part of the day’.

AIBU to think it’s a slightly shitty thing to say to a little kid who’s in your care all day?

Genuinely interested to know if I’m being over-sensitive.

OP posts:
Headteacher415 · 16/09/2021 21:10

School ultimately is a workplace for kids. However much we adults, and children, enjoy our work, most people enjoy the weekends more. Pretending otherwise to a five year old is not doing them any favours!

woodhill · 16/09/2021 21:12

I think most dc can't wait to get out of the place either and it continues into adult life for most of us

Porcupineintherough · 16/09/2021 21:15

My ds would have been co fused because he thought his teacher lived at the school at that age. Grin Seriously though OP it's ok for your dd to realise she might not be the best part of everyone's day, the important thing is that she knows she's the best part of yours.

Candleinthebreeze · 16/09/2021 21:16

@Winterflower84

No OP, you are not. My DD is in Y2 and if her teacher said that, DD would genuinely wonder why she did so. Absolutely no sense of tact.
Then you need to educate your kid to the big world. Jesus this is pathetic, can’t believe people like you and the op are among us
viques · 16/09/2021 21:20

Porcupineintherough I taught one like your lad long ago, he thought I slept in the home corner . Ah, those were the days when having a home corner ( or vets, corner shop or garden centre depending how we set it up) was seen as perfectly normal right up to Y2.

YourFinestPantaloons · 16/09/2021 21:22

It really makes me laugh that some parents actually expect a teacher to absolutely and fully adore teaching their little diddums and that despite the utter hell that is the education system these days - overworked, underpaid, under appreciated, unable to help pupils in the way they should be able to, pastoral and safeguarding issues absolutely swamping schools and turning teachers into unqualified therapists - that teaching YOUR special little darling makes every serious issue pale into obscurity, and the day is fully enjoyable to the point where going home is a tragedy.

Get a grip. Teaching is hard.

YourFinestPantaloons · 16/09/2021 21:26

@Winterflower84

No OP, you are not. My DD is in Y2 and if her teacher said that, DD would genuinely wonder why she did so. Absolutely no sense of tact.
Time to help your daughter get a thicker skin then
mumofthemonsters808 · 16/09/2021 21:27

It’s my favourite part of the day too and the Friday feeling is priceless.We all feel the same way, in this house.So I would of agreed with her, think you’re being ridiculous to begrudge the teacher this feeling, just because she has the honour of your child being in her care.Probably can’t wait to see her own children, which is natural.

woodlands01 · 16/09/2021 21:28

Friday P5 with Y9 - 'Best lesson of the week - last lesson of the week'.
My standard comment.
Bad teacher Sad

ddl1 · 16/09/2021 21:32

I think you are being oversensitive, yes. The kids probably also like going-home time, even if they enjoy school while it lasts.

JudgeJ · 16/09/2021 21:34

@woodlands01

Friday P5 with Y9 - 'Best lesson of the week - last lesson of the week'. My standard comment. Bad teacher Sad
Oh yes, last period on Friday, trying to convince the timetable for next year to keep you free! My very best year was when I had Year 11 classes from Break on Friday morning til 3.30, come the exam season, bliss. When our children were young we would have people saying to us towards then end of August 'Bet you can't wait for school to start' and we would tell them how much we weren't because we loved the company of our children. Very puzzling for them.
Rosebel · 16/09/2021 21:34

I'm not a teacher but home time is my favourite time of the day too.
When I worked in a nursery quite a few parents used to say "I bet your can't wait to go home. I couldn't look after 15 children all day."
Even worse for teachers who have 30 and not even a TA to help sometimes. I don't know anyone in any job who doesn't consider hometime the best part of the day.
So YABU.

GorillaBiscuits · 16/09/2021 21:35

@MaybeMaybeNotJ

I work in a school and if a member of staff said this to a pupil I’d not be happy.

If you hold a position of responsibility above a class teacher I'll eat my hat.

I've often seen you comment on school threads and your lack of knowledge with regard to anything to do with schools is frankly breathtaking.

That's why I've noticed your username. EG don't worry if your school has a bad OFSTED as OFSTED will come and sort out the school and then the school will be good.

QueenArnica · 16/09/2021 21:38

Have my first ever Biscuit I’m a teacher so have one of these too Hmm

CassandraTrotter · 16/09/2021 21:53

Oh yes, last period on Friday, trying to convince the timetable for next year to keep you free! My very best year was when I had Year 11 classes from Break on Friday morning til 3.30, come the exam season, bliss.
Ha! Ive just clicked! I have year 11 last lesson on a Friday this year! Hurrah!

SunShinesBrightly · 16/09/2021 21:53

Oh OP!
If she’d said ‘It’s the best part of the day, I’m sick to death of annoying kids and their precious parents ’ you might have a point! 🤣

Winterflower84 · 16/09/2021 21:55

No, I'm educating my kid to be tactful and considerate.

peboh · 16/09/2021 21:57

Surely she's saying it for your child's benefit. Most children do find going home the best part of the day, so yes she's probably being serious but it's also a little joke with the children too.

MrsVeryTired · 16/09/2021 21:58

YABU

If DD was at all concerned you could easily remind her that teacher is maybe looking forward to relaxing/watching tv/seeing her own kids/pet all kinds of things really to lighten it a bit.

Porcupineintherough · 16/09/2021 22:01

@Winterflower84 if you teach her some empathy too she'll understand why a teacher might be happy to go home to her own family.

Helendee · 16/09/2021 22:04

Do you really think teachers would rather be with everyone else’s precious bundles than at home with their own families!

2bazookas · 16/09/2021 22:10

Its a completely natural thing for anyone to say after a day at work and a small child probably feels just the same about the end of her own school day. So DD won't see it as anything personal or shitty to children.

somewhereoverthechipshop · 16/09/2021 22:12

Wow. I’m sure your daughter won’t be traumatised by that comment!

pretendingtobezen · 16/09/2021 22:17

I agree with you OP. As a teacher is the sort of thing I would say to someone maybe year 4 upwards in a jokey way with a cheeky grin. But when I’ve worked in EYFS and KS1 many pupils would be upset by this sort of thing. Think it? Yes!! Say it? Nooooo. I’ve told 1000s of white lies when asked did I miss them during holidays, are they the best class, etc etc. The world is nasty and harsh enough as it is and if you can’t pretend to a 5 year old then it’s a bit sad! Part of teaching is acting!

flimsypimple · 16/09/2021 22:25

If it did in fact upset your dd, you could explain to her that everyone loves going home to where they can relax, just like she loves going home too, like you go out to a theme park and it is really good fun and then it is nice to get home and have a rest too, and that it doesn't mean her teacher doesn't also enjoy teaching during the day. You could also say that although teachers enjoy teaching it is hard as there are lots of children in the class, and make your dd laugh about how difficult it can be to get lots of wayward children to do the same thing, and how her teacher must go home and go straight to sleep she'd be so tired?

Also remember that you are the most important thing to your dc, not her teacher Flowers

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