To think DD’s teacher shouldn’t have said this?

[Rainallnight]

DD and I bumped into her Year 1 teacher outside school this afternoon.

DD said to her, ‘are you going home?’ And teacher said, ‘yes, it’s the best part of the day’.

AIBU to think it’s a slightly shitty thing to say to a little kid who’s in your care all day?

Genuinely interested to know if I’m being over-sensitive.

I don't think yabu, I think there's certain things you can think but shouldn't say

So 4 hours after the op admitted she was over reacting, posters continue to pile on to tell her off for over reacting. Talk about a nest of vipers.

It's not very professional of her, to be honest.

Not 'shitty' though.

It's adult banter so am not surprised it's confusing for a child who doesn't understand "why" etc.

I wouldn't say it (I'm a teacher) I might think it though!!🤣

It sounds unprofessional to me

Glad you accepted Yabu op.😀

Absolutely ridiculous of you.

Why on earth is it unprofessional to state the bleeding obvious? Surely all working people think the best part of the day is when they get to go home. I wouldn't think twice if anyone said it to me - person serving me in the supermarket, hairdresser, dentist, teacher - we all have the right to prefer home to work - and it's no bad thing to say that out loud!

Ffs. I was quite a young mum.
When my DC went to school the teacher (who was definitely getting on a bit) asked the children if she had taught anyone in thier families ? ie : older brother, sister, aunt ? My DC put up her hand and said teacher had taught her mum. Teacher laughed and said that she must be very old then. The children all laughed. She was breaking the ice with them. She did nothing wrong, would you have preferred your DC teacher to have just said "Yes" and walked away ?
I love children but after 6/7 hours a day I really think that I would feel like that and I think her answer was perfectly reasonable.

For this reason I think UABU. Sorry OP.
You need to chill. 🍷

Oh ffs.. I tell my reception class every Friday it's my favourite day of the week because I get two days off with my own boys!! And they get two days off with their parents!!

You are being totally ridiculous., unless there's a drip feed that the teacher said "it's my favourite part of the the day because I hate seeing your snotty face" to your child.. in which case that's not on.,

@MaybeMaybeNotJ

I work in a school and if a member of staff said this to a pupil I’d not be happy.

I work in a school and I wouldn't give it a second thought...

Op you make me laugh.

And seriously get a grip

Oh bloody hell

Grow up

Poor, poor teachers, the shite they have to put up with! Hope she flees the building ( in a few hours when she gets the chance) and runs and runs and keeps flippin running!

I think it's a horrible thing to say! The boss of the nursery where my ds used to go posted on her fbook about how gutted she was it was Monday. Made me feel sad dropping ds off knowing how much she hated her work.

Are you all still here? I said hours ago I accepted I was being unreasonable

@spaceghetto

I think it's a horrible thing to say! The boss of the nursery where my ds used to go posted on her fbook about how gutted she was it was Monday. Made me feel sad dropping ds off knowing how much she hated her work.

Exactly! It's unkind in a very bravado, cold way. But some people live in a world where people shouldn't engage any small talk on a sensitive, genuine level at all because that shows feelings and is boring. It's not progressive at all to communicate like this with children. With a mate at work, with someone you're close and casual with, yes. But to assume no one wants to be there anyway is really a rude assumption to give away to a child.

Are you all still here? I said hours ago I accepted I was being unreasonable

🤣 They do like to go on a bit don’t they.

They do!

But it was useful to hear some alternative viewpoints too.

What should she say?
'Yes but I am so miserable. I live only for the hours I'm here with my class. Fortunately, I have 3 hours of marking and preparation to remind me of them all while I have to sort out my own family'.

@spaceghetto

I think it's a horrible thing to say! The boss of the nursery where my ds used to go posted on her fbook about how gutted she was it was Monday. Made me feel sad dropping ds off knowing how much she hated her work.

Maybe she has an actual life and family/hobbies of her own and like many people work is a necessary evil so ending that family time and hobbies to work in a high pressure low paid role is a bit disappointing.

Can you understand that?

My previous comment really depends on context. If the teacher said it in a way that made the child feel like they were a burden when at school (which is how I interpreted it) then I wouldn’t like it.
If it was said in a bright and breezy way as many have said then I think it’s fine.

@spaceghetto

I think it's a horrible thing to say! The boss of the nursery where my ds used to go posted on her fbook about how gutted she was it was Monday. Made me feel sad dropping ds off knowing how much she hated her work.

So do you look forward to going to work on a Monday morning? Or is it only teachers and nursery staff who must enjoy their jobs and never look forward to weekends /hometime? It doesn't actually means she hates her job just that she also enjoys weekends.

There's a certain type of awful person (not the OP, this is just general conversation) who expect employees to be delighted to be at work no matter what, and can't understand why they prefer to be elsewhere. They're usually the kind to create a very toxic work environment for others.

When I worked for the NHS it was like this. We were all on the verge of a nervous breakdown but management thought the NHS was the best thing ever and we should all be delighted they gave us plebs a job. Even when we were dehydrated (too busy to have a proper drink), being abused and so understaffed that care was slipping in front of our eyes, we were still expected to skip into school

*skip into work 🤦🏼‍♀️