To think DD’s teacher shouldn’t have said this?

[Rainallnight]

DD and I bumped into her Year 1 teacher outside school this afternoon.

DD said to her, ‘are you going home?’ And teacher said, ‘yes, it’s the best part of the day’.

AIBU to think it’s a slightly shitty thing to say to a little kid who’s in your care all day?

Genuinely interested to know if I’m being over-sensitive.

[Biddie191]

CallMeRisley - So she’s meant to prefer spending 5 hours with your little darling over going home, taking off her bra, stuffing chocolate in her face and cuddling her own kids? grin
It’s lighthearted OP.
I read that too fast, and as 'stuffing chocolate in her bra', just thought 'yep'

[Slightlylostalongtheway]

Well I must be a super unprofessional teacher then! We call Friday "Friyay" and do the happy dance that we get to spend the weekend at home at tidy up time!? Oh and before you all jump on me our educational psychologist has told me that my class are the luckiest in the school to have a teacher that recognises the impact of their home lives and their mental wellbeing before considering the curriculum. If they aren't happy or relaxed then school won't work for them. If a teacher has a good relationship with the child, then that comment will have been a lovely gesture of how lucky you are to be spending the weekend with your family! Maybe people need to start thinking bigger...you work to live not live to work and I love my job

[spaceghetto]

@Rosebel I don't look forward to going to work but I certainly wouldn't promote that to the children or the parents. I know the head would have issues with comments like this, it is unprofessional.

[spaceghetto]

@YourFinestPantaloons I completely understand that. I was up until 2am doing my planning so I can be with my family tomorrow. Feeling it is one thing, saying it is another. If I went to a hairdressers and the person said the same, i'd be thinking I was in for a substandard hair cut.

[SunShinesBrightly]

I think we're arguing with the people who said that she was not BU now.

Yes. This! Crazy people! 😬

[LizzieW1969]

I think we're arguing with the people who said that she was not BU now.

^I agree with this. There were a surprising number of posters who said this. I really can’t believe some of the things people get offended by.

[saraclara]

@ShareAToothpickTradingLipstick

Didn’t OP say she knew she was being unreasonable about 10 posts in, 2 days ago?

I think we're arguing with the people who said that she was not BU now.

[Dreamingofbeergardens]

@Matilda82

I work with school parents , but I'm not a teacher. I had a mother complain to me once that her child's speech and language therapist was taking to long for bereavement leave. I pointed out that perhaps the speech and language therapist was best placed to decide on that.

God what is wrong with some people...clearly people who work with children need to be robots with no feelings of their own, like exhaustion or grief

[Thinkingthinking]

Well it depends on the tone, I'd probably take it as a lighthearted joke. BUT it is unprofessional, in any other work setting it would come across as such and you might be seen as negative and uncommitted (no matter how true it might be). It's not a great example to set to young children about the working world.

[HelpNeedCoolUsername8]

@amillionmenonmars

Actually I don't think the OP does 'know'. She dwelt on the incident long enough to get her child home and then write about it on the internet. She then accepted that she was in the wrong, but then came back to say she was happy to read alternative views.

My rough estimate is that currently nearly 1900 mumsnetters disagree with the OP - yet she is welcoming the alternative views.

I will just leave it with this. Teachers are human. They like their own kids more than they like your kids. get over it.

Hilarious that this post ends with “get over it”. I think OP probably is by now. Time to take your own advice perhaps? 😁

[CassandraTrotter]

@Mamanyt

Oh, goodness. I'm betting that it's the best part of 98% of the students day, as well, and that it is taken in the spirit given. I doubt any of those students gives it a second thought. Neither should you.

Also, if a child doesnt want to go home, that would prompt a safeguarding referral.

[ShareAToothpickTradingLipstick]

Didn’t OP say she knew she was being unreasonable about 10 posts in, 2 days ago?

[Anitarest]

KaptainKaveman
“Perhaps you’d like to submit a formal complaint to the Board of Governors.”
Now there’s an idea OP.

[Anitarest]

Funniest thread I’ve read for a long time. 🤣🤣🤣
I doubt the child even noticed unless, as someone said, the OP made a big to-do about it and it sounds as if she may have done.
DD might even have just said the same thing to the teacher before they came out of school.
Even if you love your job, home-time is welcome. Shall I call parents in to complain that, when asked what they enjoy most at school, it’s not my enthralling English lessons or my magical maths sessions. It’s not even my amazing art, great geography or even my phenomenal PE lessons. They love those, and mention them when asked about their favourite lesson, but still, disappointingly say, “dinner time”. “Playtime” or “home time” when asked “What’s your favourite time of day?”.

[FTEngineerM]

Fuck looking after 30 kids a day, one is enough😂home time would be my favourite just like bedtime is some days now.

[Howshouldibehave]

@Mothership4two

I doubt DD even noticed

I’m better you’re right! I doubt they would notice at all unless the parent made a big deal of saying what an awful person the teacher was for saying something like that to a child!

[Jeannette55]

🤣🤣🤣

[Mothership4two]

I doubt DD even noticed

[Mothership4two]

Actually I do think it's quite a rude thing to say to a parent and a child in your class. Obviously a joke and no offence meant, but I would have looked a bit askance if it had been me.

[KaptainKaveman]

@CheeseTiger

Teachers aren’t allowed to joke, make conversation or have feelings.

This, 100%.

What an absolutely ridiculous comment for an OP.

Perhaps you'd like to submit a formal complaint to the Board of Governors? .

[SunShinesBrightly]

One of the last things I said to my Year 9 yesterday afternoon was ‘let’s pack up 5 mins early so we’re ready to go - I want to be in my car going home as soon as possible!’
Funnily enough they laughed and agreed that they couldn’t wait either. They then started telling me about camping trips, weekends spent sleeping, birthday celebrations, weekends chilling on theXBox (!)
Everyone feels the same whether you’re a pupil or a teacher! Work is work! We all want a break at the end of the day or at the weekend.

[Matilda82]

I work with school parents , but I'm not a teacher. I had a mother complain to me once that her child's speech and language therapist was taking to long for bereavement leave. I pointed out that perhaps the speech and language therapist was best placed to decide on that.

[johnp1937]

If the teacher had been doing their job, they would have been exhausted from giving everything to groups of over thirty kids demanding their attention all day. If a teacher is not exhausted, they are not being involved properly with a a demanding and critical group of children.

[Matilda82]

I'm not I'll have you know

[Mybalconyiscracking]

@Matilda82

Some parents are bonkers.

All parents are bonkers!