He said I was being bitchy

[triedtired]

During an argument. New relationship of 6 months, he called me pathetic and bitchy during an argument. AIBU to be extremely angry? Am I being dramatic?

OP - the fact that he finds itappropriate to take the piss out of your previous partner based on their looks is more of a problem than name calling. He’s the one being bitchy. Regardless life’s too short, dump him and find someone who respects you more.

He sounds about 13. You can do much better than him.

Also, isn't it more hurtful that he belittles your previous relationships? FFS just bin him.

To be honest he sounds like the 'bitchy' one. And I'm pretty certain you aren't the most pathetic out of the two of you either.

@triedtired

The argument was because he sent a photo of someone I've slept with before him and said "I can't believe you've f him" with lots of laughing emojis. I said it wasn't funny. He carried on taking the piss and also said "I find it shocking you looked at him and thought mmm I wanna f him." I said "I am bored of this" and "message me when you're over it."

He thinks I was nasty, can't take a joke and should apologise for how I reacted.

I don't know why some of it is bold and underlined - I can't change it sorry!

Blimey, that’s dumpable never mind the bitchy comment.

I think him sending you that and his messages were bitchy.

Yes, bitchy behaviour can apply to a man or a woman. It's a behaviour of being deliberately nasty to someone.

'Bitchy' and 'you are a bitch' are 2 different things, or are at least where I live.

But to be fair, there's loads of gendered insults

He sound like a dick AND was bitchy.

I can't see where Bitchy applies to in the situation you have described.

@Anothermothernamegame

Him calling you bitchy is the least of the issue if you ask me. Why is he searching your ex partners and mocking you/them? He sounds v needy and insecure, immature. Get rid.

In all seriousness, you've done a damn good job of making him sound like a better "man" than he is.

Even before the explanation I would have said dump him.

6 months in & arguments to the point of name calling.

Who can be bothered with that?

OMG - how pathetic is he??

Come on OP - you know you can do way better than this specimen.

Ditch and move on. And tell him that it’s because he’s too bitchy and pathetic for you.

@triedtired

The argument was because he sent a photo of someone I've slept with before him and said "I can't believe you've f him" with lots of laughing emojis. I said it wasn't funny. He carried on taking the piss and also said "I find it shocking you looked at him and thought mmm I wanna f him." I said "I am bored of this" and "message me when you're over it."

He thinks I was nasty, can't take a joke and should apologise for how I reacted.

I don't know why some of it is bold and underlined - I can't change it sorry!

How did you know you had accidently bolded and underlined? You wouldn't have seen it til you posted it, and you can't edit it. I am so confused

Misses point of thread..............

What is this for real? He sends you those messages and the hill you wanna die on is him calling uou pathetic and bitchy?

You block and delete that immature jealous piece of shit for the first crime op. The messages.

He sounds very immature and unless you normally talk like this to each other about "f*cking" people, this language is horrible. I'm thinking you do talk like this as you don't raise this as an issue initially.

So I'm not sure if bitchy is bad when compared with the other comments.

Whenever I read about this kind of twatty male behaviour on MN (which is depressingly often), I always think there are two possible reasons for it. 1) He's just an immature idiot 2) He's deliberately training you to tolerate being treated badly and not stand up for yourself. Either way....

@triedtired

He wouldn't call a man a bitch?

Oh ffs. 🙄

There was nothing wrong with your response to him. Time to give him the push I think.

you werent being bitchy. He was. I think id probably end this relationship as thats just really juvenile

Why is he searching for your exes-do it to him see how he liks it

@triedtired

He wouldn't call a man a bitch?

I did when he bitched about me

Skipped the message ghere. He was being weird

How did you know you had accidently bolded and underlined? You wouldn't have seen it til you posted it, and you can't edit it. I am so confused

No I could see it in the text box? I am using the app, not sure if that makes a difference

He needs dumping.

He's a cock OP. He put you down and belittled you and turned it around as you to blame. It doesn't bode well for 6 months in. Tell him to fuck off.

In order to answer your question we need a diagram.

Or a picture of a kitten.

He sounds shallow and mean (taking the piss out of the guys looks). Even without any context I’d be shocked at being called pathetic 6 months in.
But with the context is even worse. Won’t take much before he calls you a sick, a twat, a c&!t
I would be losing interest in him…