To leave a small child high and dry?

[SewhereIam]

I give a lift to a boy in my dd's class, and drop him off after school. They live 30 mins from school, so I drive 20 mins in the wrong direction and then 30 mins on to school, and the same in the afternoon. We live a 10 min drive from school so it adds 40 mins to our morning.

I don't pick up my dd one evening after school, and don't drop off the following morning, due to ex--p's access. The mother of the other child has said I still need to do her school run as she has no other way of him getting to or from school. He is reception aged.

The child is always ready on time and is a lovely little boy, but nothing is contributed towards petrol etc and, while I don't expect it, I thought it was a short term thing while she sorted out suitable transport. It turns out I seem to be that suitable transport and she expects this for the rest of the school year!

I feel bad for saying that I will not collect her child.

I was expecting a backstory like this was your sister and she was busy caring for your shared mother who is dying a slow. painful death so it’s become your job to drive all the kids around.

Just tell this woman you can’t play chauffeur anymore.

Oh come on, this has got to be a troll, are you totally spineless OP? Just say no!

At best I’d give a child a lift to and from my own house so it doesn’t put me out. And that’s if I was feeling kind.

I would only do this in an emergency or if we shared lifts. She's being bloody cheeky.

She's getting free childcare and a taxi service. Tell her the arrangement doesn't work for you anymore and she'll have to sort something else out

You're happy for your reception-aged child to spend almost two hours in the car, every day?! That's absolutely bonkers and I feel sorry for your daughter. I wouldn't be collecting or dropping off this child at all, and certainly not if your daughter isn't in the car. His mother or father need to sort out appropriate transport (or a closer school).

Just tell her you were doing her a favour as a one off and it's not feasible for you to continue long term, particularly when you're not even doing your own normal journey!

So much about this makes zero sense.

You need to message her today..
Hi dc's dm, there seems to be a misunderstanding, while I was happy to drop your dc off last week it was a one off. I apologise if you have got the wrong idea..
Take care and prob catch you at school soon.
Regards op..
Then personally I would block her...

How on earth did you get yourself stuck in that situation,
I wouldn’t even do that for a relative
She saw you coming

STOP! sorry to shout but you have to stop giving him lifts at all, right now!
She picked a school with no idea of how she was going to get her son there or back??? And she expects you do bring him on the days you don't bring your daughter - it's all madness!

Got yourself a Liftzilla there.

Come on now

Tbh you shouldn’t have done it the first time when another parent asked you. Did the boy’s mum know you were going to give him a lift?

Obviously it seems like she’s not the kind that would care, but you do need to be careful giving lifts to small children without their parents knowing they are with you.

@MagnoliaBeige

I’d send a quick message saying something like “I think there’s been a misunderstanding, I’m not able to pick up and drop off your child on an ongoing basis, I only offered as I thought it was a one-off problem. I can do it until Friday then you’ll have to make other arrangements”. Don’t get sucked into apologising or explaining, it’s her responsibility to get her child to school.

Absolutely say something like this!

Omg this is crazy. Please tell her you can't do it anymore and be done with it. Worst case she fees Offended? Oh well!

How did the child get a place at the school.
If they are entitled to go then surely he would have got free transport, but that’s for the council not you to provide!

The mother of the other child has said I still need to do her school run as she has no other way of him getting to or from school.

Oh she's good. She is being so brazen she is actually making you feel like this is your problem.

It isn't.

Send a text telling her you're unable to do anymore school runs, don't apologise, and don't let her talk you into doing just one or two more, don't offer to do emergencies either.

She is a random school mum, she doesn't get any say over what you should or shouldn't be doing with your own time and money.

why would you even do this???

@DressBitch

Why the fuck are you doing this anyway?

Her child is not your concern.

This with bells on.

Why on earth did you get into this sort of ridiculous situation in hte first place.

Yanbu!

You have every right to tell her it’s not working for you and you can’t do it anymore.

W.T.F !? No way would you be unreasonable to knock this on the head.
You don't have to justify or give reasons.
Getting the child to school is not your responsibility. Luckily it's only been a week so you can nip it in the bud now from being a permanent commitment.
The mother is a very CF!

Really op?

You need to be blunt with CFs as they are shameless!
Warn the other mums to get them on your side before she bad mouths you as she will!

This is mad. You drive 30 minutes out of your way twice a day for a mum you don’t even know?! Are you always such a complete doormat?

I can honestly say I wouldn’t even be able to do that for my friends, nor would they ever ask me to!

Wow. I live 2.5 miles from school and don't drive. We get the bus. In 4 years I have asked other parents to help me out with the school run a grand total of twice.
She's seriously taking the piss. If she can't get him there by any other means she either needs to move house or change school. She can't just expect someone else to do it indefinitely.