To leave a small child high and dry?

[SewhereIam]

I give a lift to a boy in my dd's class, and drop him off after school. They live 30 mins from school, so I drive 20 mins in the wrong direction and then 30 mins on to school, and the same in the afternoon. We live a 10 min drive from school so it adds 40 mins to our morning.

I don't pick up my dd one evening after school, and don't drop off the following morning, due to ex--p's access. The mother of the other child has said I still need to do her school run as she has no other way of him getting to or from school. He is reception aged.

The child is always ready on time and is a lovely little boy, but nothing is contributed towards petrol etc and, while I don't expect it, I thought it was a short term thing while she sorted out suitable transport. It turns out I seem to be that suitable transport and she expects this for the rest of the school year!

I feel bad for saying that I will not collect her child.

Just say no (CF) and add that you wont be able to do any days going forward due to xxx and you need to get back by xxx.
It is out of your way. She doesn't do you any favours or even offer petrol money. Madness. You need to stop this now.

@AFuturisticalsound

She's still on the school run!!! 🤣🤣🤣 weeing myself!

Oh wow! So she's telling you if you don't take her son, he's won't be able to go to school. Very much her problem.

Walk away. Enough! Totally OTT CF!!

I don't pick up my dd one evening after school, and don't drop off the following morning, due to ex--p's access. The mother of the other child has said I still need to do her school run as she has no other way of him getting to or from school

She is incredibly cheeky.
This is where "I'm sorry, that doesn't work for me" comes in handy!

Actually I'd send her a message:
"From (x date) I won't be able to collect Horace from yours. If you can drop him to my house at (time) I will take him to school with Hortensia** but I won't be able to commit to bringing him home anymore. I'm sure you understand!"

** if you want to be nice, but she doesn't deserve it!

Give her the contact details of the council's school transport department. As pointed out, if he lives more than two miles away and this is his nearest suitable schoo, he will be entitled to home to school transport.

[quote Changechangychange]**@Battlingongraciously* Are you saying you are also posting on this thread as Bollockstothat*?

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No, I'm battlingongraciously, that's all. OK, thanks, wasn't me you meant, no problem.

I wonder when we will hear from the OP.

@mummaelle

That's such a kind thing to do, I know she would appreciate this ❤️ Me being me would still have to pick up the child even if my child wasn't in that day because that's the sort of person I am, too kind for my own good.

So if your 5year old is off school sick, what would you do with him/ her while you're ferrying a stranger's child around for an hour and a half per day?

Definitely not your responsibility OP, you've been more than generous so far.

I can't believe she's not even offered some petrol money when she knows you're going out of your way for her.

And expecting you to pick him up even when you don't have your own child, absolutely CF!

Hardest nope ever. She saw you coming didn't she?

kindness is often mistaken for daftness.
pretend its that.reality is your being a fool here
You are neither the parent or responsible for this kids journey to school.
send her a bill for petrol, contribution to road tax,car servicing,increase carring child insurance.
see what happens.meantime. NO is a fbulous word to use sometimes.

@Battlingongraciously

I wonder when we will hear from the OP.

When she comes out from the bridge waits a nano second to be deleted

F that. Just say no and stop doing it. Sounds like you've just met so you owe her nothing at all, your don't even need to worry about her getting the hump and never speaking to you again, you were never friends anyway. Why on earth hasn't she sorted this out before now? You don't need this sort of person in your life so just go no contact from now on. Say no and then block her, ignore her at the school gates.

need to stop on 30th Sept

13th you mean....

Give a hand and they'll take your arm comes to mind.

Do they pay you to take him -and cover your fuel. If not - start saying no.

Crazy. Absolute batshit crazy!

Just say "not any more". I bet he'll be there in the morning.

How has this child ended up going to a school 30mins' drive from his home?

Surely there must be closer schools?

@Newbabynewhouse

I voted the wrong one by accident!! I think you're being ridiculous and definitely have mug on your head! His mother is taking the piss out of you!!! Are the quiet shy type that doesn't like confrontation? I bet I'm right? I'm that type, but would not let someone do this to me! What a piss take .. tell her you can't do it anymore.. don't feel sorry for the kid, he's her responsibility not yours! Sorry makes me angry!!

@Newbabynewhouse all you need to do is go back and click on the other option.

"It's only been a week but it is feeling like this could get tricky very quickly."

I should say so!

Are you a door mat??

So OP never came back her own thread. How surprising. Not.