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The Tedious Married Man's Script

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vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 13/09/2021 01:21

Bloke I work with - I have always really liked him and never had any creepy vibes off him. Appeared to be good at his job, pleasant company and if he did mention his wife it was in a nice way.

Tonight, texts around tea time about work stuff. Turned into "my wife doesn't understand me"

Yawn.

Honestly, does he think it's original? I'm nearly 50. Been hearing this shit from married me for 35 years. Yawn.

OP posts:
SleepCoffeeSleep · 13/09/2021 11:11

This thread is amazing. Grin

OhWhyNot · 13/09/2021 11:21

Things never change

My wife doesn’t understand me, we are just friends now nothing more, if you ever want to meet just for a coffee as I find it really easy to talk to you I don’t usually find it so easy to be so open (well yes talking about the weather/work is an emotional struggle for most people)

So many men are deluded thinking a young women would be interested in a married man who is significantly older (I know it’s not always this dynamic)

OhWhyNot · 13/09/2021 11:23

keep the texts or report him to HR

sloutside · 13/09/2021 11:28

I suspect that my ex (not married thank God), was using lines like this on various women he was chatting up. Long story which I have written about many times on here under different user names, but basically he was constantly writing to women he'd met once or twice somewhere on WhatsApp and then when he thought he was getting somewhere would engineer an argument with me where everything was my fault, then announce the existence of X or sometimes even X,Y and Z and how they were much better than me and that he would be leaving immediately to be with them. Due to my mental health at the time I kept taking the fucker back.

But I am pretty sure he was saying "My girlfriend doesn't understand me", "We still live together, but it's over" "We're not sleeping together"
Yeah right.... we were sleeping together all the time. It was definitely not over. He was just constantly looking to see if the grass was greener somewhere else - if he could find someone prettier and younger than me etc.

Piece of shit.

AnyFucker · 13/09/2021 11:28

“My wife doesn’t understand me”

Unfortunately I do mate, now fuck off

NoMoreJam21 · 13/09/2021 11:29

Tell him he's having a mid-life crisis and you're bitterly disappointed in him and he should have known by now that all he need to do was have an "angry wank". Honestly that phrase needs to go down in history as the whole answer to the "Tedious Married Man's Script". Or just to fuck off.

I've loved this thread!

Let us know how you handle it OP. I have to know the ending and the put down he's going to get! Please tell us what you say!

The name Principessa made me want to puke.

waterproofed · 13/09/2021 11:30

Wall to wall cock
Vagina dentata
Hot like an erupting volcano

You’re on fire this morning 🤣

OrangeBlossomsinthesun · 13/09/2021 11:35

"tornado slap down" Grin

Sagaz · 13/09/2021 11:39

@BeachDrifting

What a disrespectful immature turd. His ego needs stoking and he’s using you to do it.

I was once out years ago in a bar with friends and a guy tried to hit on me with the “my wife doesn’t want sex anymore she’s too tired looking after the baby” it was my first night out after my baby was born so I went totally mental at him. Lost it. Told him to get his fucking shitty arse home and give his poor wife a break and some attention and maybe actually do something for her and then he might get attention back. He looked like a rabbit caught in the headlights. I think this should be the norm. Any crap bloke giving off lines like this should result in a tornado slap down. Give it to him.

Reminds of a date I went on with a divorced dad who was in a band. I'd been on so many shit dates, I had low expectations. This one's xw had had twins. He said he'd never be able to forgive her for expecting him to get up at night when he had a job . He shook his head sadly, moved by his own plight, and her cold-hearted self-destructive vindictive behavior. And where had it got her he sighed sadly, she is a single mother now.

He was a good looking man and I had been thinking, he's never going to ''settle'' for a woman his own age. So I just rolled by eyes around my head so long he might have thought I was having a seizure and then I left an expensive glass of wine on the table and said good luck and good bye.

What. A. Twat. I dread to think what type of woman would have responded ''oh poor yooooooo''

He's probably married to some 25 year old who's giving his feet a rub now.

Sagaz · 13/09/2021 11:41

It was like being on a date which my own xh tbh

DrSbaitso · 13/09/2021 11:42

He's probably married to some 25 year old who's giving his feet a rub now.

Maybe if he's also very rich and they're not living together. Good looks and musicality do help, but only so much.

OddSockBandit · 13/09/2021 11:44

When I had a married, 60 year old man pursue me as a 23 year old, I got the lines "my wife puts everyone before me" and "I wish I had met you before her"

When you were a foetus then, presumably.

BeachDrifting · 13/09/2021 11:44

So many women married to so many twats

Donewithshite · 13/09/2021 11:45

@vivariumvivariumsvivaria

He actually told me that his wife "retired after our youngest was born".

That's right, slag off a woman at me and see if my knickers fall off, mate. A woman who has been raising your kids because you work all the hours that you can and the net result of that seems to be that you have mistaken yourself for an Emperor without his rightful harem.

I'm so CROSS. I usually have a really good creep-dar, and this one was stealth.

His last message finishes by calling me Principessa. I'm a 50 year old, slightly cynical, definitely irritable woman trying to battle the patriarchy and my spanx, not a princess waiting for her prince to come and take me away from all this.

Yuk.

@vivariumvivariumsvivaria.

Lady, you're not a Princess,...you're the F**cking QUEEN. Grin. Love it!!!

SpaceshiptoMars · 13/09/2021 11:51

Me, early twenties, in interview for promotion with bosses' boss. Him, mid-fifties, no oil-painting.

Him: "You're married!!!! My god, you look 16. Like a virgin....."

wiltonism · 13/09/2021 11:52

You are all awesome and I needed that laugh today.

ssd · 13/09/2021 11:56

Why am i thinking of price andrew here?

GammyLeg · 13/09/2021 11:59

Yep, got this in my 20s. Older men looking wistfully at me with sad, wet eyes and telling me how their wives used to be such FUN. 🙄

ClawedButler · 13/09/2021 12:15

Do you think it ever occurs to them that THEY are the reason their wives don't want sex anymore?

Hahha, what am I saying, of course they don't.

RantyAunty · 13/09/2021 12:16

*"We haven't even slept together for years/sleep in separate rooms" hmmm, sure bud.

"They leave out the bit where they've shelved their wife for hardcore porn, thus forcing her into a sexless marriage without her say."*

This was my ex husband. Couldn't have possibly had anything to do with him staying up until the wee hours of the morning gaming, having angry wanks, and chatting up women on facebook telling them how ignored and unloved he was.

DrSbaitso · 13/09/2021 12:21

There was a post on here a little while ago from the friend of a woman whose ex husband had been seeking exciting and adventurous sex from other women. Wife said she was very surprised, as she couldn't persuade him to go to the garden centre, let alone an acrobatic sex session.

Bluue · 13/09/2021 12:41

Tbf women can be just as bad and desperate.
Dh knew a woman through work and she sent him a gif of a couple fucking, apparently because she'd 'fucked up the diy' Confused.

EmbarrassingAdmissions · 13/09/2021 12:42

@ClawedButler

Do you think it ever occurs to them that THEY are the reason their wives don't want sex anymore?

Hahha, what am I saying, of course they don't.

I don't understand why men who behave like angry, entitled toddlers fail to grasp that this behaviour doesn't make them in the least desirable to women who are interested in a relationship with an adult. It is one of the greatest possible dampeners on attraction or plain conviviality that I can imagine.

Wife said she was very surprised, as she couldn't persuade him to go to the garden centre, let alone an acrobatic sex session.

Quite.

missingeu · 13/09/2021 12:44

I don't understand my husband...

he's unable to multi task the simple of things.
Listen to instructions for multi tasking
remembering stuff I need him to do...

me4real · 13/09/2021 12:52

''My wife and I haven't had sex in six months...I suppose I'll have to accept my marriage is over.'

She'd just had a baby 6 months ago, and also had complications severe enough that she had to have an operation a few months before he said this. Shock

I did think how he was thinking about the issue was a bit wrong, but it's only recently, many years later, since being on MN and hearing about what women go through after pregnancy etc, that I realize quite how wrong it was.