Would you be offended if someone left your wedding half way through the day because they're unwell ?

[robbie1999]

This happened to me a couple of weeks back. I was very unwell ( not covid ) and decided to pull myself together to go to a wedding. After the drinks reception, I had to go home as I became too unwell.

I sent my apologies to the bride and groom and parents afterward with flowers. Is that OK ? Would you think I was an idiot ?

Absolutely not! Being ill doesn't have a schedule.

That was in response to "would you think I was an idiot?"

Not at all!

Goodness no! You haven’t offended anyone or done anything wrong, hope you feel better!

Do you have a reason to think that they think you're an idiot?

Otherwise - no, definitely not, I'd be grateful you came!

Not at all. People can’t help being poorly can they.

My ex SIL left ours early because she was missing her dog.

You’re all good! Flowers was probably overkill. Hope you’re feeling better.

Not at all! You did absolutely the right thing op!

@milleniumhandandprawn

Do you have a reason to think that they think you're an idiot?

Otherwise - no, definitely not, I'd be grateful you came!

My husband thinks it wasn't OK and should have stuck it out. But I just couldn't. He thinks we looked stupid. Also because during the reception I had to sit down quite a lot obviously. His relatives. He's embarrassed.

Sounds fine to me

Your DH should be more understanding OP!

I wish id left mine half way through the service, or at least before the "I pronounce you man and wife bit"

I think you're good op. You did more than most by sending flowers and such, I'd have likely just snuck off and forgot it.

If your DH was bothered about appearances rather than your well being then he is an arse on this occasion.

Pay no heed.

Your husband doesn't sound particularly nice TBH. He should be less concerned about other peoples opinions and more concerned with supporting his wife.
But no I can't imagine why any bride and groom would think badly of someone for being poorly. You haven't done anything wrong 💐

He’s embarrassed? What a prick.

This happened at my wedding - my uncle who had recently finished chemo and has a whole host of spinal problems left after the meal with my aunt. His back had flared up and he was in too much pain to continue.

No-one thought badly of them and other guests (who had only met them at the wedding) offered them a lift so they wouldn't have to wait for a taxi.

Neither DH or I considered it rude - our only concern was that my uncle was ok.

Your husband shouldn't be embarrassed. I would have been mortified if my uncle had felt obliged to stay any longer than he could cope with because his wife thought he was embarrassing her in front of her family.

He's a massive arse wipe.

YANBU in anyway

Our Best Man left half way though out wedding as he was terribly sick. It wasn’t a problem at all. He was ill so he went home. No big deal.

This sounds more like a case of being shamed - bullied even - into going by your husband and then him being annoyed because you were ill and had to leave.

I'd think you were an idiot going to a wedding knowing you were ill, and therefore could make others ill.

Cross post. Above still applies but your husband sounds like a nob.

@robbie1999 No of course I would not be offended.

Your DH is behaving like a twat btw!

@flibberyjibbery8

I'd think you were an idiot going to a wedding knowing you were ill, and therefore could make others ill.

I wore a mask when inside. But I know what you mean.

So your husband thinks celebrating another couple saying 'in sickness & in health...'
Is somehow more important than his own vows?

Your DH is being ridiculous & horrible. I'd be having a very serious think about his attitude, how do you think he'd be if you had a serious illness, or a life changing accident?

I don't think you needed to send the flowers, you didn't do anything that warranted a 'big' apology! Messaging:phoning to explain was fine.

My only concern as the bride (or parents of) would have been that you were ok!

I hope you're feeling better now 💐

Your husband is being a pillock.