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AIBU to feed DH the same meal twice?

541 replies

KidsAreMean · 09/09/2021 06:33

DH won't eat the same meal twice in one week. I, personally think it's absolutely bonkers, but apparently MIL never did (I must verify this with her!) and he doesn't like it. Fine. I've got used to it. However, usually during the week, I cook for the DC and will e.g. make a double portion of lunch which we eat 2 days later.
This week I made a massive lasagne. Plan: Monday lunch, Wednesday lunch when DH is home office and then we'd finish the rest Thursday lunch. Except DH has now decided he's working from home today (as well as yesterday). I don't have any other food in apart from eggs which he doesn't like. Else I can make an emergency pasta & tomato sauce - which is basically same as the lasagne!
So AIBU to serve him the lasagne? I'd planned to do the weekly shop tomorrow, going today will inconvenience me next week (even though I'm a sahm).

OP posts:
BertramLacey · 09/09/2021 08:36

DH won't eat the same meal twice in one week. I, personally think it's absolutely bonkers, but apparently MIL never did (I must verify this with her!)

It's too late now, but for anyone else reading this, if a man ever compares you to his mother, particularly 'but my mother does it this way' then run away as far and fast as you can. No good ever came of a marriage in which you replace his mother, who did everything for him.

sausagepastapot · 09/09/2021 08:40

The entire OP is absolutely bananas. This is bonkers. Your DH is a fucking man child and you are being a weird pseudo mum-feeder and its fucked up.

Motherofcats007 · 09/09/2021 08:42

Like…. How did he never have leftovers when he was growing up? He’s being ridiculous. You can either pop things in freezer and dig it out after the mandatory 7 day period or really…. As others have said, he can sort out his own lunch or just suck it

LH1987 · 09/09/2021 08:44

Serve him?!!

Threewheeler1 · 09/09/2021 08:45

Good fucking god.
He sounds like a bit of a pathetic, whiny lump.
Tell him to get himself to the kitchen and sort his own food out like a grown man. Explain that food is simply fuel and it also costs money.
He would literally last two seconds here. DH is an excellent leftover hoover. I'm not chucking perfectly good food out or wasting my time cooking again when there's edible stuff that won't kill people ready to be eaten. And any mention of an imaginary bar being set by MIL would be met with an absolute gobfull of fruity language from me.
Honestly, where do these blokes spring from?

Ragwort · 09/09/2021 08:47

I don't do leftovers - such a bizarre comment but there was a thread on here a couple of years ago very similar, by a poster who admitted she never ate leftovers... if she cooked a roast chicken and there was any left she would bin it (obviously caused uproar by Mumsnetters who can make a chicken last a week ..... Grin).

Scarlettpixie · 09/09/2021 08:47

What have I just read?!

Ask him if he wants lasagne with you and the DC or would he prefer to sort himself out.

mrkrp · 09/09/2021 08:48

This is a wind-up thread and obviously the OP has not returned.

Howshouldibehave · 09/09/2021 08:49

I wonder how amazing and varied his weekly meal plan would look if he was feeding himself?

Has he ever done that or does he just eat and criticise what his mummy and wife bring him?

He sounds like a real prince among men.

BettySweaty · 09/09/2021 08:49

Let him 'serve' himself.

You are not his mother /housekeeper

How are you OP? Are you happy? Flowers

SoloISland · 09/09/2021 08:49

This site is a revelation and an education... lol..Jaw dropping stuff.. In my faraway long ago childhood, we had a joint of beef on Sundays, fried slices of roast beef on Monday and RISSOLES on Tuesday. with the last of the Sunday joint.

Now I am on my own I cook for two days then microwave the second day. Good food bears repeating... Or freeze the extra for later in the week .

And as I tell my cats repeatedly.. faddies don't eat..

Serve it and let him eat or go hungry.. lol

Riveted.. lol...

Bluntness100 · 09/09/2021 08:49

Um you’re a stay at home mum not his personal servant, he’s a grown up he can feed himself. What are you doing?

LunaAndHerMoonDragons · 09/09/2021 08:50

@Dozer

YABU for pandering to an adult’s food whims! No need to consult MiL!
This. Why pander to him? If the meal you make is enough to last 2 days then he either eats it a second time or makes his own. If he doesn't want lasagna surely he can make himself a sandwich.
SoloISland · 09/09/2021 08:52

@Scarlettpixie

What have I just read?!

Ask him if he wants lasagne with you and the DC or would he prefer to sort himself out.

Need to pick my jaw up off the floor... rarely cook a whole chicken but when I did, yes, several days then boil the carcase for chicken soup.. mmmmmm . I get a whole cooked chicken every two weeks and still do that.
StrawBeretMoose · 09/09/2021 08:52

YABU to worry about it when he's the one who's changed the goalposts, and since you say he's working from home that indicates he is an adult with a job so should be able to rustle up some lunch.

As it happens I also don't really like to eat the same meal on repeat but sometimes that's life and I get over it. Especially if DH has prepared it for me.

OneTC · 09/09/2021 08:53

I'd LTB

speakout · 09/09/2021 08:53

Has the OP been back?

THis has to be a wind up.

MajorCarolDanvers · 09/09/2021 08:53

He is an adult. If he doesn't want the food you have kindly made for him then he can make his own.

Or he could make dinner for you all.

Darbs76 · 09/09/2021 09:02

Why are you serving him anything. If he doesn’t like it he can make his own food

Iputthetrampintrampoline · 09/09/2021 09:05

[quote toomuchlaundry]@Iputthetrampintrampoline do you end up throwing leftovers away or always cook just enough for one meal?[/quote]
I cook enough for one meal for what we need. So 3 of us I would do 4 pieces of salmon 2 for dh cos he eats way more than me and dd then the salad or potatoes and veg to go with it.

FangsForTheMemory · 09/09/2021 09:06

Tell him if he doesn’t want lasagne he can take you to the pub for lunch. He’s paying.

Maryann1975 · 09/09/2021 09:06

He would hate living here. We’ve spent the last few weeks trying to empty the very full chest freezer. It’s been a month of curry, chile and sausages! I’ve learnt I am not very good at stock rotation or varied buying.

If he doesn’t want lasagne, point him in the direction of the supermarket and let him get on with it.

youvegottenminuteslynn · 09/09/2021 09:07

Well presumably his mother didn't shag him either but as you're his wife he can expect to have rather different treatment from each of you.

God he sounds so pathetic it gives me the second hand ick.

Do you tuck a napkin into his collar and feed him with baby cutlery too? Imagine if he had to behave like a real life grown up, the poor lamb.

SoManyPaws · 09/09/2021 09:08

Send him back to live with his mummy. 🤷🏻‍♀️

MonkeyPuddle · 09/09/2021 09:09

I’d laugh in DP’s face if he tried to treat me with such utter disrespect.