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Original poster

To just sack off this weekend

232 replies

TomAllenWife · 07/09/2021 06:46

Don't want to post too much as outing, but if you were due to go on a weekend away on Friday and still no arrangements had been made regarding leaving time, travel, food or sleeping arrangements would you bother?

Despite asking repeatedly I'm just getting nowhere.

I do suffer with anxiety and need a plan to work to, I need to be organised.

Would you just stay home?

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TomAllenWife · 09/09/2021 16:54

Yes sure, but wouldn't you at least give a clue?
We're all leaving from the same city
I don't understand what's going on really

I might just eat all my M&S food at home in my pants Grin

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notanotherjacketpotato · 09/09/2021 17:20

I wonder if the property has bad reviews online? Didn't you say it's theirs but they dont live there?

VillanellesOrangeCoat · 09/09/2021 17:38

@TomAllenWife

I might just eat all my M&S food at home in my pants grin

Sounds perfect! Grin

boogiewithasuitcase · 09/09/2021 19:32

I would be tempted to stay at home and eat all the food myself too - but you 100% certain they are keeping you in the dark because they are planning a birthday surprise for you or something like that?

boogiewithasuitcase · 09/09/2021 19:32

*are you

Original poster
TomAllenWife · 09/09/2021 19:53

No definitely not any kind of suprise

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Boredmotherofone · 09/09/2021 21:10

I'd have cancelled by now OP. It honestly sounds to me like they're not 100% on whether it's happening at all....

MydogWillow · 09/09/2021 21:24

It's the most bizarre situation. I can't make sense of it Confused Please let us know what happens!

RampantIvy · 09/09/2021 21:48

Their evasiveness is a bit of a red flag IMO, especially now the person you are driving has dropped out. Are you sure this isn't going to be a wild goose chase?

I think I would be making alternative plans for the weekend.

Regularsizedrudy · 09/09/2021 22:03

Do you think they might not want you to go so are being deliberately vague in the hope you drop out?

RampantIvy · 09/09/2021 22:07

That's the impression I get as well @Regularsizedrudy

Original poster
TomAllenWife · 10/09/2021 08:01

So, I have a postcode, a leaving time and a meal booked this evening

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TomAllenWife · 10/09/2021 08:01

@Regularsizedrudy I did think that but just thought it was my anxiety talking

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MiddleClassProblem · 10/09/2021 08:14

Finally! Have fun!

Cocomarine · 10/09/2021 08:16

@TomAllenWife

So, I have a postcode, a leaving time and a meal booked this evening
So everything you needed, before you needed it. It absolutely was your anxiety. You wrote the OP as if you had no idea where you were going for the weekend, but you had the town name. You might like a postcode 4 days in advance, but only the anxiety needs it. There are very few places that do not have supermarkets - 3 days food for 4 people does not need to be bought in advance. Especially if people like to decide things flexibly - like fish and chips on arrival if it turns out to be a sunny evening.
rookiemere · 10/09/2021 08:17

Enjoy OP. That does seem late for those details to be communicated by any standards, but at least there is now a plan.

NotMyselfWithoutCoffee · 10/09/2021 09:06

Umm that is late for details I don't think it's anxiety at all. Hmm

I have a child and always make plans a week in advance with friends etc. It's rude to make arrangements at short notice, especially if you could be arranging something else..

Cocomarine · 10/09/2021 09:12

It’s detail at short notice though @NotMyselfWithoutCoffee not plans. The plans had been made - who was going, and to what town. There was no question about preventing anything else - because the main plan was fixed.

Look, I’m the person that would get laughed at because 2 weeks in advance the postcode would sent along with a pinned location and a warning of any advance planned roadworks 🤣 I’m one of life’s planners.

But you don’t need to know 4 days in advance, or even 1 day, what a postcode is. “Margate, about a 2 hour drive” is enough to know that you don’t need to be thinking about other arrangements. I absolutely understating wanting more detail. But not needing.

myotherusernameistaken · 10/09/2021 09:50

@TomAllenWife

So, I have a postcode, a leaving time and a meal booked this evening
Excellent. Hope you have a lovely time.
MydogWillow · 10/09/2021 09:51

Finally! Have a great time OP

Original poster
TomAllenWife · 10/09/2021 16:19

Well I'm here, no one else is
Can't check in til 6
The other two have stopped somewhere 🤷🏼‍♀️

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MiddleClassProblem · 10/09/2021 16:27

Ok, they’re arseholes

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 10/09/2021 16:28

Were you all driving from the same area?

Cocomarine · 10/09/2021 16:39

@MiddleClassProblem

Ok, they’re arseholes
Are they though? Or is OP a “set off half hour early, traffic, Friday, I like to be organised” type - and they’re a “15:00 departure is a suggestion and 15:30 is fine” type? These are friends, who’ve asked OP to spend the weekend with them. I’d be jumping to different personalities before arsehole.

I’ll take it back if they set off 2 hours late AND stop for dinner though 😌

hopeishere · 10/09/2021 18:53

Why are you checking into a friends house?

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