Not to offer the photographers a wedding breakfast?

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Just wondering if this is cheeky or not. Maybe this is the done thing and I don’t know about it!

We are hoping to get married next year. There will be one photographer and his assistant. Their photos are great to be fair and we are very happy to have booked them.

We’ve just got the contract through. They have asked us to order two wedding breakfasts that they will eat in a side room.

AIBU to think this is a bit cheeky? We are paying them a four figure sum. Why can’t they bring a flask, a lunch bag and a packet of crisps like everyone else who goes out to work?!

Is this a common request?

Yes it’s normal to feed the people you hire for your wedding. So usually allow for the photographers to eat the main meal and count in numbers for the evening catering if they are staying for the evening.
Also include the DJ/band in your catering numbers.

Most venues offer a cheaper alternative for photographers etc when not eating in the main room.

My wedding photographer brought his own! And was a bargain and did a great job. He then got at least two other weddings off the back of us singing his praises. Shop around and find someone else!

That’s standard I believe. Our caterer did a reduced cost for meals of this type.

We paid for our full wedding breakfast for our photographers, although they ate in a separate area. They didn’t request it though.

It depends on location of venue and how long you have them for. If it’s the whole day yes - you can’t expect them to survive on sandwiches! Otherwise no

Yep normal. We asked the caterer to make a large veggie lasagna (after asking vendors) for those that we expected to be there over dinner time. Also a tab for soft drinks

I irrationally find the term “wedding breakfast” annoying 😆

It’s pretty normal to feed your suppliers.

Hi there, typically venue offer sandwiches and such for any additional hired staff (photography, videographer, DJ, band). My budget included feeding them from this. If they wanted extra for the full meal, they could pay the difference between sandwich and full meal. Reason I would suggest this is that when I researched organising a wedding, at the time (2016) it was considered best practise to organise food for your staff. Maybe times have changed...

Those cheeky bastards wanting to be fed.

I'd expect to feed them. They're there all day. It wouldn't occur to me not to do so,

It’s normal although if they can have something different then you can sometimes pay for that instead. At our wedding, the photographer had a burger

Yep we fed our photographer and the band too.

Er yes it's normal to have to pay for a meal for your suppliers

I feel bad now! My photographer told us he always brought his own food (and brought up the topic first), never occurred to me to do any different!

I think you should arrange something for them but it doesn't necessarily need to be the main meal. Does the venue have a bar that serves food?

I think you should probably arrange food but it doesn't need to be a 3-course wedding meal. Perhaps the venue can knock something else up?

Sorry, but I'm with the OP. Nice to be offered, but cheeky to ask.
So if you have a tradesman working at your house all day, he should be fed?
Given what they're charging, they should either bring their own food or suck it up as an additional cost.

We told our daughters photographer to order a 'bar' meal if he would like to ....we also told the staff we'd offered this and would pay ...and any soft drinks they wanted
He ordered a sandwich and had a couple of cokes ....no evening do as was covid times

Dd works at a wedding venue and says it is normal.

We invited the photographer and his assistant (his wife) to the meal but they declined and said they would be bringing their own food and eating separately as the wife apparently had some food allergies. We hired a vintage bus to take the guests to and from the venue and we invited the driver to the meal. He accepted and was very grateful. He said he didn’t expect to be invited and would have been more than happy to bring sandwiches to eat somewhere.

It's cheaper - venue has supplier prices usually

Totally normal in my experience. You want him to be there all day? Doing his best work?
Then feed him.
Not sure if ours had an actual wedding meal (I just can’t remember) but we definitely made sure he’d had a proper meal.
And it’s not the same as a tradesperson at your house. They’re free to come and go as they choose.
I presume you wouldn’t be chuffed with your photographer buggering off for an hour to find a meal?

You don’t need to offer them a wedding breakfast but you do need to offer them food I think (the caterers will usually do them
Something separate as there may be a few such requests eg band etc )

Would you honestly feel OK having a lovely meal while suggesting the photographers 'eat cake' ?