I can't do this anymore I don't understand why people hate me so much

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I had to move house because last neighbours hated me, been bullied out of 2 jobs by being ignored by everyone, school mums night out last night I wasn't invited. Today neighbours having a bbq most of the street invited except for us.
Im kind, go out of my way to help people I've often took this neighbours kids to school, am chatty and friendly.
My best friend said to not worry but I'm the common factor in all these situations I must be doing something to annoy all the collective groups of people. I feel sick and can't. Stop crying.
Just don't know why people don't like me it's breaking my heart

@paddingtonbearmeetsdeadpool

GertietheGherkin Why is she right what is your reason around it. When I go out and I look around me I see different. Maybe it's the community I live in.

You don't think what's she's written is unkind? I feel sorry for you living in a community rife with such nasty opinions and judgements of people.

The situation with the neighbours is nothing to do with you. You had shit neighbours and they’d have been shit no matter what your personality was like or what you looked like. So forget about them because they are no reflection on you. They are irrelevant.

I'm very chatty and my dh and close friends have often said you are trying to make everyone like you and can't be friends with everyone. I wonder whether they might be trying to kindly tell you that this is where your problem is? Perhaps new people are picking up that you’d like to be friends with them and find it a bit too much, so are backing off? You have a husband and close friends, so you clearly have enough about you that make people want to be in your life. I think that maybe your weight gain has dented your self esteem, so you’re seeing rejection where none is intended and are then trying harder to be friendly, so it becomes almost a self fulfilling prophecy because you’re trying too hard and frightening people off.

FWIW, I’m fat. I find it very easy to make friends. Proper, help you bury a body type friendships. I’ve absolutely no idea how, as I’m quite antisocial, but I’m pretty sure it’s not just because I usually have a chocolate stash in my handbag. Just relax a bit, and stop worrying about whether these people want to be friends with you. Start asking yourself whether you want to be friends with them.

I think sadly in real life most people would avoid being friends with a disabled person. IMO this is definitely the case. Not so much avoid being friends with, but very much have the expectation that people with disabilities should be friends with other people with disabilities.

I do have non disabled friends, but I have lost count of the amount of people when I have e.g. Moved somewhere new and been looking to make friends, who have asked why I don’t just join a group for disabled people.

People with disabilities are also around 50% more likely to end up in abusive relationships.

Society is prejudiced whether we want to admit it or not.

@AlternativePerspective

I think sadly in real life most people would avoid being friends with a disabled person. IMO this is definitely the case. Not so much avoid being friends with, but very much have the expectation that people with disabilities should be friends with other people with disabilities.

I do have non disabled friends, but I have lost count of the amount of people when I have e.g. Moved somewhere new and been looking to make friends, who have asked why I don’t just join a group for disabled people.

People with disabilities are also around 50% more likely to end up in abusive relationships.

Society is prejudiced whether we want to admit it or not.

I think sadly in real life most people would avoid being friends with a disabled person.

@AlternativePerspective

I think sadly in real life most people would avoid being friends with a disabled person. IMO this is definitely the case. Not so much avoid being friends with, but very much have the expectation that people with disabilities should be friends with other people with disabilities.

I do have non disabled friends, but I have lost count of the amount of people when I have e.g. Moved somewhere new and been looking to make friends, who have asked why I don’t just join a group for disabled people.

People with disabilities are also around 50% more likely to end up in abusive relationships.

Society is prejudiced whether we want to admit it or not.

I think sadly in real life most people would avoid being friends with a disabled person.

Bold fail….

This happens to me too. It’s been a massive issue
I’ve had dreadful problems, done people just dislike/avoid me which is hurtful but I can deal with it a few unfortunately took things further so I’m now a recluse as can’t trust anyone
I’m sorry you are going through the same.