Not got kids yet but planning to. I don't know any woman that's not the primary caregiver IRL and it's starting to panic me. I don't want to be primary caregiver. Is this going to be enivitable?
Is it impossible to go back to work as soon as I am feeling physically able to and split the parenting at that point? A year off work seems the default but there is no way I want and could do that. Men go back after a week and there is no judgement as to 'how could he leave the child so young' woman does it and the judgement is like she has committed child abuse, I find it very sad and frustrating. And the judgement seems to come from other women as much as it does men.
Does anyone who has children consider themselves not the primary caregiver and completely equal with how they parent with their partner?
The idea of parenting doesn't appeal to me unless it's 50/50 ( of course I understand anything could happen tragically to DH where I'd have to be full caregiver and I'd have no choice)
Is primary caregiver inevitable because I'm a woman? And am I being somewhat naive to this experience?!
Please tell me your experiences of switching this narrative if you have kids, are a woman and not the default parent but share the duties equally from very early on.