DH 'too busy' for housework

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DH is still working from home, and is often 'too busy' to clear away any of his lunchtime dishes or unload the dishwasher from the overnight wash.

This means I have to do it when I get home from my (also) very busy day at work.

I wouldn't mind if he was genuinely busy but I came home to a shithole today; DH had been to the supermarket to buy himself lunch and left evidence of it everywhere, while I had actually given up my lunch break in order to do a family shop at the supermarket.

I've now arrived home with the children, and he has hidden away in his office, leaving me to clear up his mess and do all the evening duties while he is 'too busy' and must continue working.

I know I am not BU in hoping that he can at least clear up after himself, but I have no idea how to broach it without basically accusing him of lying. What should I do?

this man has no respect for you...its bad enough that he works from home and leaves his mess behind - who does he think clears it up?
He didnt even get you a drink when you had friends round..you really are just seen as the help and arent even worthy of him doing anything for you at all. As for parenting his DC , doesnt sound like he thinks that is for him to do either. You need to really take time to reflect on your situation and what you want it to look like going forward