Meeting for breakfast - Which of us is being unreasonable.

[Dandy008]

Im meeting a friend in a few weeks time who lives in a different part of the country to me.

We’ve arranged to have a day out.
It will be her and her husband, myself, my husband and our 18month old son.

As they live some distance, we have decided to book a hotel and stay over night.

My friend has asked me to book a hotel right by her house so that it’s less distance for her to travel to meet us the next day for breakfast.

I’ve agreed to this, even though we could get a cheaper hotel a bit further away.

We were chatting and she said she would come and meet us for breakfast at 10.30am

I explained that DS wakes around 6.30 and is ready for his breakfast at 7am.
I could probably distract him and at a big push take him down for breakfast at 8am

I also explained that it’s a 2 hour drive back home so Ideally we wanted to head home after an early breakfast.
There’s not much for DS to do in the hotel so once we’ve eaten it makes sense to leave.

She told me that 8am is too early for her and her husband (they don’t have kids) and that the best she can do is 10am.

I’ve suggested then that we skip breakfast and I will book a cheaper hotel a bit further away.

She’s since sent me a text telling me I’m being difficult and that my DS will be fine waiting for his breakfast until 10.30am for just one day.

I’m tempted to message back and say her and her husband will be fine having breakfast at 8am for just one day… 🙄

This has turned properly weird, totally nuts.

@midsomermurderess

This has turned properly weird, totally nuts.

@midsomermurderess

Hasn’t it….

@midsomermurderess

This has turned properly weird, totally nuts.

I know, right ... I checked out to binge watch Gotham. It's less cut-throat & dramatic.

@over2021

Missing the point because I can't understand why you'd go up all this effort to not do a two hour drive home. I do well over half that to work and back five days a week!

With a toddler?

Can we leave space in this thread please so someone can revive it in 6 years time with "Feed your DS at 7am then have a second breakfast at 10:30 with your friend."

I honestly cannot get over how irate people are getting with the OP for not wanting to drive home for two hours after a long day out and dinner with a toddler.

It’s actually hilarious how much this is annoying some people.

FWIW, I would definitely stay over, rather than do a two-hour drive.

@Rozziie why are you so completely convinced that you're right in how you think OP has treated this friend so badly? Has someone done it to you before?

Christ, Beef, don't encourage her.

@SmokyLittleBeefBath

I think you could be right on that. She seems far to invested in this one.

midsomermurderess

Christ, Beef, don't encourage her

Toria84

@SmokyLittleBeefBath

I think you could be right on that. She seems far to invested in this one

There's definitely something going on with her

Calls OP passive-aggressive then immediately says "Sorry you probably don't know what true friendship feels like"

@HyggeTygge

Calls OP passive-aggressive then immediately says "Sorry you probably don't know what true friendship feels like"

It's true, isn't it? I would never dream of talking about a friend the way OP has described this woman. If I'm upset or annoyed with one of my friends, I talk to them about it, like an adult. I don't bitch behind their back about how selfish and lazy they are. Also wouldn't ever view a friend coming along to something I'd mentioned to them as them imposing. And I'm the weird one? OK.

Rozziie

The OP has not said that she thinks her friend is imposing on them. You're making it up! Have a look back at OP's posts and tell us where you think she said that

Equally, I can't ever imagine telling a so-called friend that they were being 'difficult'. Anyone who described me as difficult because I had said politely that fitting in with their plans wasn't going to work for me, would be an ex-friend.

Also OP pointed out that safari park is about 40 minutes from where friend lives, so not right on her doorstep. Your analogy about visiting the same city doesn't really hold up, I'm afraid.

This is the thread that keeps on giving!

Also wouldn't ever view a friend coming along to something I'd mentioned to them as them imposing

So, would you describe it as something the friend wanted to do?

HyggeTygge

Also wouldn't ever view a friend coming along to something I'd mentioned to them as them imposing

So, would you describe it as something the friend wanted to do

Ooh, has that still not been answered?

@Rozziie do you know what 'passive aggressive' means and how it might make your previous post look somewhat hypocritical?

@HyggeTygge

Also wouldn't ever view a friend coming along to something I'd mentioned to them as them imposing

So, would you describe it as something the friend wanted to do?

I've already given my point of view and justification for it so you can stop with your nasty, bitchy questions and enjoy the echo chamber.

If she and her husband can't make the effort of getting up early for one day .. then bye!
You've already made the effort of driving for 2 hours and booked a hotel. I would cancel the entire trip after her text back 😂

Op you've literally made everything difficult for yourself on this one.

How so, @MissyMooKins?

I've already given my point of view and justification for it so you can stop with your nasty, bitchy questions and enjoy the echo chamber.

Are you saying you've answered that yes/no question? Because that's not true.

Querying contradictions in what someone has said isn't "nasty". I was interested in what you think. You dish out countless insults and accusations but can't honestly scrutinise your own thinking on it so you demand people shut up.