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AIBU?

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Husband had son's head shaved

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SooooooAnnoyed · 01/09/2021 14:16

We agreed he needed a haircut before school starts and he has had nice short cuts in the past which is what I expected but, to my horror, he brought him home from the barber with a practically shaved head. He is only 4 and I would only shave his head if he had lice or ringworms or some other disease of the scalp. It's also getting colder so I wonder why he thought this was a good idea. AIBU to be really annoyed by this?

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BastardMonkfish · 01/09/2021 17:21

It'll be fine, no one will even notice. I'm sure you feel worse after reading this comments as the only MN approved hairstyle for a boy is a 'long, beautiful head of curls' but back in the real world half the boys in school will have shaved heads.

BiBabbles · 01/09/2021 17:26

I can see why it threw you off and annoyed you, a number 1 is very short. Hopefully it grows back quickly. Maybe have DS look through photos and print one out next time might help, especially if dealing with new barbers is likely. Sometimes it can be hard to communicate what you want.

For those insisting “it’s only hair” would you be happy if your dd’s dad took her to get her head shaved? No I suspect not!! But because it’s a boy oh yeah no problem.

I would have an issue with a Number 1 with either sex; however, my DD chose a number 4 all over for a couple years. Didn't bother me in the slightest, in fact I bought clippers more for her than I did her brothers (who both had longer hair). Now she's growing her hair back out, but likes the clippers to get microbangs. This thread reminded me to ask if she wants to do that before going back...

5128gap · 01/09/2021 17:27

@stepupandbecounted

How can it look "thuggish" on a 4 year old? Also, (general question) how can a school exclude a child for something that is obviously a parent's mistake?

A No1/2 hair cut on any child, in fact on any man that is not in the army looks aggressive (excluding those that are balding) and I would wonder why any parent would choose that for their child, and make assumptions about the parents. Sorry but I would.

You can be excluded for anything to is against the rules of the school. dd's friend dyed his friend, and he was not allowed to come back until it was sorted out - it wasn't even that bright.

How on earth can you tell if a man who has this hair cut is military or balding, rather than 'thuggish'? Or should we assume that any non thuggish looking man with this hair cut is miltary or balding? And what about thuggish military men? Or balding men who are also thugs....?

fizbosshoes · 01/09/2021 17:27

My DC school are very strict about haircuts and you're not allowed below a certain grade, no tramlines or patterns, no step cuts or undercuts (I dont know if these are a thing? )

KindnessMyFriends · 01/09/2021 17:32

@5128gap thank you for making me laugh out loud after a rubbish day at work.

Tinkerbellfluffyboots79 · 01/09/2021 17:41

Hair grows back. My kids hair was a bit short last time. It’s grown now abs looks fine. Not sure what really short hair has got fo do with school, or what is gained by sending a child home. We don’t have headmasters/head mistresses things are a bit less anal here thankfully.

Whatinthelord · 01/09/2021 17:48

“A No1/2 hair cut on any child, in fact on any man that is not in the army looks aggressive (excluding those that are balding) and I would wonder why any parent would choose that for their child, and make assumptions about the parents. Sorry but I would. “

For what it’s worth I judge people who make comments like this. I think people who judge parents based on their child’s haircut probably have too much time on their hands and are those bitchy type of parents.

x2boys · 01/09/2021 17:51

@CBroads

There has been soooo many threads like this before. Why can't men be trusted to take children for a simple hair cut ? Honestly like I've never heard a mother taking the kids for a hair cut and it ending in disaster, like what's up with Dad's?

Maybe because this is mumsnet, and its generally mums (i know not always) that are posting, maybe there are loads of threads on male forums about Dads not liking haircuts?

Crazycrazylady · 01/09/2021 17:51

I'd be ripping. I hate that shaved look on small boys though which I know is down to personal taste.

skybluee · 01/09/2021 18:00

If you think there will be a problem with the school pre-empt it and communicate with them. Like other people have said, it will grow extremely quickly (noticeably in a week, possibly).

emsie12345 · 01/09/2021 18:01

@WomanStanleyWoman

As an aside, I hate this fear of and desperate reverence for ‘The School’ some parents seem to live by. If schools concentrated on teaching rather than pupils’ appearance, maybe we’d have a better education system.

Well said 😁

x2boys · 01/09/2021 18:04

How can schools be shitty about a hair cut on a small child?
Honestly a facebook friend of mine, young daughter gave herself a hair cut a few days before she started reception, it was appalling , kind of cut to the ear on one side, and left long of the other, with a kind of under cut to the fringe 🤣, the mum did her best with hair bands and pretty clips but it didnt look great.

tintodeverano2 · 01/09/2021 18:17

My dd's school had ridiculous rules about length of hair. It says: Extreme hairstyles are not permitted. No students may have their hair cut shorter than a barbers’ number 2. Students breaking the hairstyle regulations can expect to be placed in Isolation.

You'd better check the uniform rules at the school!

VenusTiger · 01/09/2021 18:19

@stepupandbecounted

Fuming. I think it looks really thuggish and I don't blame you for being angry. I would be livid.

Same. It makes the boys in my son's class look like teenagers - one has earrings too - they're 7 & 8 FFS! Vile imo. But there you go - it's all about opinions.

TerriblyNaice · 01/09/2021 18:22

@stepupandbecounted

Fuming. I think it looks really thuggish and I don't blame you for being angry. I would be livid.

This!

RacistAngst · 01/09/2021 18:27

Is your DH going to take his ds to school and do the pick up too?
Just in case the teacher has something to say about it.

FWIW I don’t believe that your DH didn’t know what a number 1 would be.
Nor do I believe a barber worth its salt wouldn’t have checked again that he wanted a number 1

bamboothrough · 01/09/2021 18:33

I would be really upset too, but...

I think there are huge over reactions on this thread about the school, surely as you drop him off you say “does Ds hair go against policy? My husband got it cut shorter than usual, will be longer going forward”

I also don’t think people’s comments about how “thuggish”, “rough family”, “looks awful” etc is helping. It’s done. The OP is about to send him off for his first day with I assume enough nerves already. These comments aren’t helping

Mydogmylife · 01/09/2021 18:36

@KittenKong

Why? It’s not like he can do anything about it, is it? Plus it wasn’t the child who did it. Why punish the child?

Where did she say she punished the child ?

Londonlivingg · 01/09/2021 18:37

For the comments suggesting that short haircuts look ridiculous on young children, it might be worth remembering that black people exist. The young children in my family very often had extremely short hair as that was the norm. It's very obvious that some of the people expounding supposed universal truths are only thinking of people exactly like them.

Re op, your kid got a haircut you don't like, that doesn't bother him. Not sure it's worth arguing with your DP over.

KittenKong · 01/09/2021 18:38

The poster was saying that the child would be sent home by their head - sounds like punishment to me! Or maybe not (depending on the child’s opinion of school).

KittenKong · 01/09/2021 18:39

“The headmaster at my sons school would send him home with a shaved head.”

Daydrambeliever · 01/09/2021 18:42

My husband did this too. But in fairness to him he took him to a local barber who is notorious for offering just the one buzzcut! Go in and ask for a short back and sides and you'll come out baldy.

Angryfrommanchester1 · 01/09/2021 18:47

Is it no1 all over or just no1 from the nape of the neck upwards, but still longer hair on top?

If it’s no1 all over I can see why you’re annoyed. If it’s no1 back and sides and longer on top that’s in fashion for boys now and quite normal around here.

BrumCahoots · 01/09/2021 18:51

It grows really fast ! When my son was little he hated going to the hairdresser and used to scream !! .. I just used to get him a number 1 all over so I didn't have to go too often ! ..! He did look like a little moon faced skinhead but he's 21 now and not traumatised .. let it go

RacistAngst · 01/09/2021 18:57

@KittenKong

The poster was saying that the child would be sent home by their head - sounds like punishment to me! Or maybe not (depending on the child’s opinion of school).

Punishment from the school, not the OP. And one that could. be avoided if the father had been more careful.

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