To find it irritating when people refer to their child as “letter” only?

[Ccoffee217]

Am I the only one that finds this irritating?

So if my child was called Henry I’d refer to him in messages as “H”. I don’t see the point in shortening.. my whole NCT group does it, I find it bizarre when the name won’t take long to write!? Just me?

Seriously 🤷🏻‍♂️

I find it irritating too although I'm not sure why. I'm just an irritable bjtch really.

Weird thing to get irriated by. I often text eg. "Pete are coming round now" rather than typing out Petrona, Emmeline, Terrence and Englebert (not their real names) .

I'm on your side OP. I don't like this either.
USE THEIR NAME!

My daughter is seeing a physiotherapist who shares the same name as her. The physio always refers to my daughter as 'L' and I do feel it's impersonal.

When I write to the physiotherapist I don't say "Hi 'L'. I use her full name.

I do this all the time. Mostly because we shorted our daughters name to Ce.

People who know who dd is I just use her initial - 9 letter name. Use her full name for anyone who doesn’t know her. Ds has a 3 letter name so tend to use the name.

I don't like it when parents from our baby group do this because I can never remember their baby's names. Makes birthday party cards very awkward.

Seriously 🙄

I always refer to my DCs as F&L in messages to people who know them - it's easier than writing their full names out!

I don't know anyone who does this. My daughter has a long name but predictive text picks it up so I don't have to type it out anyway. I did find it odd when a work colleague who has never met her referred to her as A in an email.

I sometimes with refer to my Dd in a text by her initial, and DH too. But only to,family/close,friends who would know entirely who,they were. In my experience many people do - simply as a typing short cut. They don't say it verbally in real,life, just in a typed message.

It means nothing more than A is quicker to type than Arabella or Arthur, etc.

By the time you've had 3 attempts at stopping predictive text from trying to change the name to a random word it's easier to type the initial.

I do it with people who know us- it’s just shorthand, surely not offensive?!

Staff also do it on the nursery app when commenting on children’s group photos/group diary- it’s so that people can’t identify other people’s children by name (safeguarding), or if parent phones fall into the wrong hands unlocked/apps not locked down/ accessible it gives an additional layer of security.

I do this, because it's become a nickname. DS3's name begins with a J, but over the years he's just become known as "Jay" or "J" as a shortened version of his name. So yes I always put this when using his name in a text / WhatsApp / Facebook etc. If you find that irritating then I don't know what to tell you! It's his name as far as we're concerned.

@haliborange0verdose

I do this, because it's become a nickname. DS3's name begins with a J, but over the years he's just become known as "Jay" or "J" as a shortened version of his name. So yes I always put this when using his name in a text / WhatsApp / Facebook etc. If you find that irritating then I don't know what to tell you! It's his name as far as we're concerned.

My son's first and middle names begin with J so he has become JJ over the years. I think it works with some letters better than others

haliborange0verdose oooh your name takes me back! :o

Drives me mad as well it only takes a split second longer to type the actual name

@malmi

"NCT"? Do you mean the National Childbirth Trust?

@malmi

"NCT"? Do you mean the National Childbirth Trust?

The people I know who does this don't use their childs full name in texts or on social media, if I know the childs name I read it as their name, if not I just read the letter.

For a lot of parents its for privacy reasons. The same parents never post photos of their childs face on SM either.

I do it for speed in texts, but never IRL. I have a friend you always uses initials when addressing people directly in text. Eg " you look great today G, love M"
I hate it. Lazy.

Well it wouldn't bother me I don't think OP but you are NBU just because people get irritated by all sorts of unimportant things.
You are allowed to be irritated by whatever you want.

NCT folk are a separate species.

It takes a long time deciding the child’s name, why shorten it to a letter. Give the precious child their proper name.

It bothers me when someone shortens their names. My oldest son calls his big sister K instead of her name and it drives me mental. I picked short names for my oldest 2 so that they couldn't be shortened and somehow they still got shortened (both only 5 letters long). My 4 year old has a long name (7 letters long) and my DH's family shorten it because they don't like his name this also bothers me. My youngest has a short name (5 lettersl long) and I swear I will slap someone if they even try to shorten it. Use the name on their birth certificate for lords sake. I'm only like this because I spent 14 years as 1 name only to find out that it wasn't my name just the name that my name was shortened to. I now go by my birth name and if anyone other than my family try to shorten my name to anything other than what it is I just ignore them and the only reason my family get away with it is because I know its a hard habit to break.