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DH ‘I’m not coming home.’

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Livvielo · 28/08/2021 19:31

DH is out tonight. Someone at work is celebrating their 40th birthday.
They went to a golf club this afternoon and had lunch and drinks after. They’ve now gone into London. DH has just messaged me this:
‘Don’t wait up for me. I’m not coming home.’
I asked why.
His reply ‘crashing at work mates flat because it’s closer’ (he then said where it was. It’s 3 stops on the train before our stop. Hmm
AIBU to be annoyed at this??

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Blondiney · 28/08/2021 22:29

My mind immediately goes to cocaine but that says more about the tosspots I used to associate with than your husband. Grin

Gensola · 28/08/2021 22:31

I wouldn’t be suspicious of a one off, but if it happens again, I would

DoYouLikeOwls · 28/08/2021 22:32

*Bluntness100

You were calling a woman for getting drunk at a Wedding the other day but it's okay for a DH to party all night

Eh totally different scenarios. Unless there’s a drip feed he isn’t wankered with a toddler at an immediate families wedding confused

Feel free to stalk posters round threads, that’s not weird at all*

The toddler had a parent looking after them. What sort of Weddings do you attend? Are you sipping tea all day. You do try and be tte cool wife but are very judgemental on other threads. As for stalking. Your posts jump out like a sure thumb. You think you are the cool Mumsnet poster but you are so annoying at times.

Babyjune21 · 28/08/2021 22:36

If my husband text me that completely out the blue , no warning I’d text back no problem then I’d pack all his shit in black bags stick them in the drive way snap a picture of them and text “ hope you have a great night you’ll not be coming home tonight or any night from now on pick your shit up with your hangover in the morning “

See how fast he’d come home then Confused

EwwwCoffee · 28/08/2021 22:37

@peaceanddove

Ever since the night DH drunkenly brought his kebab to bed with him incase I was feeling peckish, I actively encourage him to stay over at a mate's house.
Grin
FangsForTheMemory · 28/08/2021 22:38

I think it's that he started a new job recently with a new bunch of people and he's trying to keep up with them. Is he usually easily led? I would be worried that he's on more than just alcohol tbh.

user1471462428 · 28/08/2021 22:38

Fuck you Sally.

MilesOfSand · 28/08/2021 22:39

@SimonedeBeauvoirscat

Oh just go to bed and then make fun of his hangover tomorrow! What is the grand transgression he is supposed to have committed? You’re married, not joined at the hip.

(I would definitely do the same to him when he’s in with the kids one night though)

The thing is - she hasn’t accused him of a transgression, let alone a grand one. So the people that are saying she has, and then saying they’re super cool and wouldn’t… where have they got that idea from?
Blossomtoes · 28/08/2021 22:39

@Babyjune21

If my husband text me that completely out the blue , no warning I’d text back no problem then I’d pack all his shit in black bags stick them in the drive way snap a picture of them and text “ hope you have a great night you’ll not be coming home tonight or any night from now on pick your shit up with your hangover in the morning “

See how fast he’d come home then Confused

Jesus. Some people love drama. Except of course nobody in their right mind would behave like that.
MilesOfSand · 28/08/2021 22:43

I think you might end up with the worst of both worlds. He told you he’s staying out as it sounded like a good idea when he was already drunk early on. So you get to think you’re at least saved from a drunk annoying husband returning. Then by the end of the night he’ll forget or be over that idea bd come him anyway.

FindingMeno · 28/08/2021 22:43

I'd have no problem with it.
Let his workmate have the joy off his pissed up company.
It's a trust thing really, and a willingness to not be joined at the hip.

Lightisnotwhite · 28/08/2021 22:43

He’s got pissed, decided something pissed ( to stay at a mates) and will no doubt feel sorry for himself afterwards.

As you say out character. Not u to be annoyed ( he’s having more fun than you) but it’s not a big deal unless he’s doing it every weekend.

Nicknacky · 28/08/2021 22:46

@Babyjune21 Are you prone to over reaction?

And why would you even think of reacting like that?

saraclara · 28/08/2021 22:46

@Livvielo

I’ve just seen on Facebook that he posted a photo of a row of shots and our ‘living my best life!!’ Grin he rarely ever posts anything, and just scrolls through fb. Maybe it’s a mid life crisis 😩😩
Yeah, lunch with the inlaws won't be happening Grin

He is SO going to regret this in the morning. And that train ride is going to feel so much longer than ten minutes when he's trying not to throw up.

SpindleWhorl · 28/08/2021 22:49

I really don't think Sally's eating his kebab.

RevolvingPivot · 28/08/2021 22:50

@Babyjune21

If my husband text me that completely out the blue , no warning I’d text back no problem then I’d pack all his shit in black bags stick them in the drive way snap a picture of them and text “ hope you have a great night you’ll not be coming home tonight or any night from now on pick your shit up with your hangover in the morning “

See how fast he’d come home then Confused

If I did that my DH wound never come back never mind leave the party to come home!! You sound like my sister in law.
WorraLiberty · 28/08/2021 22:52

@Babyjune21

If my husband text me that completely out the blue , no warning I’d text back no problem then I’d pack all his shit in black bags stick them in the drive way snap a picture of them and text “ hope you have a great night you’ll not be coming home tonight or any night from now on pick your shit up with your hangover in the morning “

See how fast he’d come home then Confused

Yeah right, cos you know....you have the absolute right to evict your husband from his home 🙄🙄
ssd · 28/08/2021 22:52

@Livvielo

I’ve just seen on Facebook that he posted a photo of a row of shots and our ‘living my best life!!’ Grin he rarely ever posts anything, and just scrolls through fb. Maybe it’s a mid life crisis 😩😩
Well if that's the worst hes doing its no bad thing Grin
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Livvielo · 28/08/2021 22:55

@user1471462428

Fuck you Sally.
Feeling a bit sorry for sally now tbh. Grin
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saraclara · 28/08/2021 22:57

You know, one day he's going to tell you the names of his colleagues and you'll discover that one of them is called Sally. And he'll wonder why you've collapsed in giggles.

JesusIsAnyNameFree · 28/08/2021 22:58

@Livvielo

I’ve just seen on Facebook that he posted a photo of a row of shots and our ‘living my best life!!’ Grin he rarely ever posts anything, and just scrolls through fb. Maybe it’s a mid life crisis 😩😩
Oh jesus christ, no.
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Livvielo · 28/08/2021 22:59

I sent him a message just saying I’m going to bed soon hope you have a good night and your head isn’t too bad tomorrow xx
He replied
Rick now allow in here no trains allow so we going try a place night love you I do.

Can anyone translate that Hmm

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rjacksmiss · 28/08/2021 23:00

He's fucking Rick. ltb x

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Livvielo · 28/08/2021 23:00

@saraclara

You know, one day he's going to tell you the names of his colleagues and you'll discover that one of them is called Sally. And he'll wonder why you've collapsed in giggles.
GrinGrinGrin
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Livvielo · 28/08/2021 23:01

@rjacksmiss

He's fucking Rick. ltb x
Fucking Rick in his drug den. Definitely x
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