DH ‘I’m not coming home.’

[Livvielo]

DH is out tonight. Someone at work is celebrating their 40th birthday.
They went to a golf club this afternoon and had lunch and drinks after. They’ve now gone into London. DH has just messaged me this:
‘Don’t wait up for me. I’m not coming home.’
I asked why.
His reply ‘crashing at work mates flat because it’s closer’ (he then said where it was. It’s 3 stops on the train before our stop.
AIBU to be annoyed at this??

Wow. Jeez. I’m glad you’re all still so invested in my life we are absolutely fine. He seems to be surviving at work. Our 17 year marriage appears to be intact. I’m sure a few lovely tolerant and cool mumsnet wives views won’t ruin the rest of our lives together or anything.
We are all good over here. And both laughing at some of the replies. 😂

Genuinely thank you to those that could see why I did what I did. Again, to reiterate-
Out of character behaviour, non contactable, worried.
That is it.

"Cool wives"🙄

@skippy67

"Cool wives"🙄

Quite, aka rational human beings.

I think there are degrees of ‘cool’ . Yes, to nights out and being relaxed about that, no to piss taking behaviour and being treated like a doormat. There’s a fine line between cool and doormat

@skippy67 ha ha same thing came to mind!

@Livvielo I empathise with your husband, and love an open ended night out. I haven't had one in years.
I hope he ordered a four in one for himself on Sunday night, and nice takeaway for the rest of you!

I wonder how many days it took for his hangover to go?

What a waste of everyone's time.

RamblingJenny

<strong>No no no - he should not be telling you what he’s doing, he should be asking you what you think and if it’s okay or not. I’d loose my sh!t and tell him to get here tonight otherwise it’s over.</strong>

Blimey, Prison Warden Jenny.
Coercive control is immoral & illegal, not something to brag about.

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

3 stops from home? yeah, that's weird.

LTB

WTF? Do you have anyone left in your life?

@CallmeHendricks

Never mind the rest of it, what has he done with his golf clubs?

Sold them to buy barowloads of cocaine for his new gang, & to pay a random but well-shod gentleman to swap his footwear for Ricky's trainers.

Guaranteed. LTB.